These Moms Myth-Bust Popular Life Hacks

Emily Zanotti is back 6 weeks after having twins—and she’s got a little feedback on all the advice she was given before giving birth. Kelly Maher and Bethany Mandel join to share the hacks they couldn’t Mom without… and the advice they never actually took.

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  1. Barry Jones Thatcher
    Barry Jones

    Note to Emily – You are not “inadequate or whatever you said”, You are a miracle! And it brought a huge smile to my face when towards the end of the ‘cast you referred to “my kids”…

    Loved the over dose of New Mom stuff on this one – heartfelt congratulations to all of the new Moms, Emily, Bethany, Kelly and Elisha!

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  2. colleenb Member

    Great podcast ladies!  My only ‘advice’ I ever give new parents is to grab a nap whenever you can.  Everything else is negotiable.

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  3. Stad Coolidge

    Too funny!

    I love listening to your experiences.  My wife and I were in our 40s when we adopted three stairstep daughters – 2 1/2, 3 1/2, 4 1/2 years old.  So no breast feeding or potty training was involved, but it was an adjustment getting used to hauling a small army around, something all three of you do.  Okay, Bethany has the biggest army . . .

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  4. Full Size Tabby Member
    Full Size Tabby

    I love the baby podcasts! Our first grandchild (boy) was born about the same time @kellymaher had her first and @bethanymandel had Altima. Our daughter gave birth last week to a girl last week. So I relate (from a different generation) to the baby stuff.

    I very much encourage finding other moms of children of the same age or maybe slightly older. One benefit is the ability to compare notes and see other babies so that you see that your baby is within the range of normal – not all babies develop at exactly the rate specified in the baby development books. When our daughter was an infant, I occasionally would get concerned that our daughter wasn’t doing certain things at exactly the point the books said. But then we’d get with our friends with similarly aged children and saw that there was quite a range. 

    [At a party we attended with our daughter a few weeks ago, almost every family there was mom, dad, a 2 – 3 year old, and either a newborn or the mom was very pregnant.]

    A young friend of ours with a 2 year old and a newborn has the unfortunate experience of living in a city that has a widespread measles outbreak due to a low rate of vaccination, so she is very limited in her ability to take the newborn out in public.

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  5. dceberts Inactive

    Ladies, Even though I’m (almost) old enough to be your mothers, I love your show. And kudos to you and your friends for taking motherhood more in stride than we Gen-X moms did. My jaw dropped listening to your stories about integrating the babies into your lives instead of letting your lives revolve around your kids. That was not a thing when I was a new mom in the 90s! (Which is why we are the generation that brought you the Millennials and Gen-Z. You’re welcome.) I giggled thinking of the reaction I would have received had I brought my newborn to the BigLaw firm where I worked when my first was born.

    And Emily, bless you! I’ve also suffered from chronic depression since my twenties and had debilitating post-partum depression with my first and just “regular” post-partum depression with my second. My (now ex) husband and I decided to stop at two because I could not handle another round of PPD. It was still seen as sketchy in the 90s and even though I was married to an obstetrician, I was still not properly diagnosed and treated after my first for almost eighteen months. He is 23 and I still feel guilty that he had to have a depressed mom not once, but twice.  And he’s fine. He just graduated from UChicago and is moving to DC soon. You and your precious babies will be fine, too.

    Side note – Formula is awesome! I only nursed my oldest for four months because you did not pump at work back then! He has a mind-boggling immune system, was (in Lady Brains’ jargon) a “fat baby,” was off the growth charts, and is obviously smart. I nursed my youngest for 15 months (he was deathly allergic to dairy products until he was 6 and I was no longer working full time) and he has asthma, has always gotten sicker than my oldest, and was in the 25th percentile for growth until he was a teenager.  Thankfully, he’s smart, too. Those tired myths that breastfeeding makes your child healthier and smarter was not true for my children and they’re both smart so clearly the formula didn’t hurt my oldest.

    Thank you, ladies, for sharing your lives with us. I especially love your show because I was immersed in boy world as a mom and now I’m immersed in “young man world” so y’all give me a peek into “young lady” and “young mom” world.

    God bless!

    PS  – I second the advice from an earlier comment about naps. Take lots of naps!

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