Can Personality Tests Make You a Better Friend?

Mary Katharine Ham and Lyndsey Fifield dig into the science behind Enneagrams, love languages, and other personality tests to reveal how they maintain friendships with a tight crew of ladybrains.

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There are 11 comments.

  1. Hank Rhody, on the blockchain Contributor

    I’ll note there’s a certain lack of quizzes linked in the show notes…

    Not one of these internet personality tests, I went through the skills investigation from the What Color is your Parachute books. Gives you useful information.

    Things I learned include: I very much like inventing things, even if I have to reinvent something that already exists, and I put a great deal of emotional weight on being seen as a smarty-pants.

    Good to know.

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    • August 30, 2019, at 3:49 AM PDT
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  2. Patrick McClure Member

    Hank Rhody, on the blockchain (View Comment):

    I’ll note there’s a certain lack of quizzes linked in the show notes…

    Not one of these internet personality tests, I went through the skills investigation from the What Color is your Parachute books. Gives you useful information.

    Things I learned include: I very much like inventing things, even if I have to reinvent something that already exists, and I put a great deal of emotional weight on being seen as a smarty-pants.

    Good to know.

    We already knew this in the PIT Hank.

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    • August 30, 2019, at 4:39 AM PDT
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  3. Patrick McClure Member

    I said last year in defense of LB, elsewhere on Rico, part of the reason I emjoy listening, most of the time, is because I have 6 sisters, and it is like listening when they talk. As you can guess, they are strong willed. So are my wife and two daughters. So women who speak up, and aren’t doormats, are always more interesting.

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    • August 30, 2019, at 4:48 AM PDT
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  4. Lyndsey Fifield Contributor

    Being a good friend to @bethanymandel just means wearing a lot of leggings.

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    • August 30, 2019, at 4:51 AM PDT
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  5. Patrick McClure Member

    BTW, this is another big difference between men and women. Men don’t worry about being friends. We just are. And if a friend acts like an ass, we say it and move on.

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    • August 30, 2019, at 5:57 AM PDT
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  6. Stad Thatcher

    I worked for the Department of Energy for 29 years. A few years before I retired, we were forced to take the Strengthfinders 2 test. I didn’t want to take it because I think these tests are bogus. I mean, a simple test can tell a disinterested third party everything about me? And management reassures everyone, “We won’t use the results of this test in any way.” Yeah, right. Then why waste the money?

    Anyway, I decided to punk the test. At first, I selected all the middle-of-the-road answers. The online test would not accept my results. Problem: What if those were in fact my honest answers? I went back and took the test with a pre-designed pattern—zig right, zig left. To my amazement, the test came up with answers I would have gotten if I was allowed to pick my own results. This pretty much convinced me the test was suspect.

    Needless to say, the results leaked out. People would stand in the hallways commenting on coworkers’ strengths (or lack thereof). Others posted their results on their doors.

    Disclaimer: I’m at that “Get off my lawn!” stage of life, so don’t let my jaded opinion deprive you of the fun you have taking such tests. To me, that is their true purpose . . .

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    • August 31, 2019, at 7:51 AM PDT
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  7. Full Size Tabby Member

    Y’all might enjoy some of Dr. Kevin Leeman’s observations on birth order. He has been a frequent guest on Focus on the Family’s broadcast / podcast to talk about birth order and marriage. He’s a very entertaining speaker, and I’m sure you can find some of the podcasts in archives. If I recall correctly, Mary Katherine, he has some cautions about oldest children marrying oldest children. Lyndsey, he talks quite a bit about the peace maker nature of middle children. 

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    • August 31, 2019, at 8:18 AM PDT
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  8. Full Size Tabby Member

    A family dinner at our house in which a rare visit from our daughter (who had graduated from college and moved to another state) coincided with a home visit from our son (who was still in college) had our son eyeing our daughter’s plate, “You going to finish that?” To which our daughter responded that she had forgotten how much she had to fight for food when they both lived at home. 

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    • August 31, 2019, at 8:25 AM PDT
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  9. Stad Thatcher

    When my wife and I adopted, I insisted we get only girls. The reason was I knew what I was like growing up, as well as my friends. I didn’t want to go through what our parents went through raising boys!

    Oops, I think I just got on everyone’s bad side . . .

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    • September 1, 2019, at 6:13 AM PDT
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  10. Patrick McClure Member

    Stad, I have 2 boys and 2 girls. Boys are easier. I wouldn’t change for anything. I love both equally. But boys are easier.

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    • September 2, 2019, at 4:19 PM PDT
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  11. Stad Thatcher

    Patrick McClure (View Comment):
    Stad, I have 2 boys and 2 girls. Boys are easier.

    Ahhhh, but you didn’t have me! My mother once told me she wanted more children. When I asked her why she didn’t, she said I was all she could handle!

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    • September 4, 2019, at 8:00 AM PDT
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