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Gay Marriage: An Awkward Moment
A few months ago I attended a T’ai Chi Chih Conference and met a lovely woman. We had a lot in common besides our practice. At lunch, we sat together with a woman friend who had come with her to the conference. I thought they might both be gay — no big deal. Then “Gayle” introduced me to her wife, and explained that they’d been married two months before and were so excited. Awkward. The only thing I could do was smile and say “Congratulations.” (For the record, I tried wearing the same-sex marriage idea for several months, but all the pulling on the hem and shortening of the sleeves wouldn’t work; I can’t support same sex marriage.)
Generally, I’m not reluctant to speak up when I have a serious disagreement with someone, but face to face with two people who felt safe enough to share their relationship with me caught me off guard.
Have you been in this spot? Was it no big deal? How did you respond? If you haven’t been there, what do you think you’ll do when it happens?
Published in Culture, General
Marriage is not political, or if it is, it does not matter. It has to be a social institution to have any value. If enough people had been willing to be rude enough to tell cohabiting or sexually intimate couples they were irresponsible, or ask single mothers where the babies’ daddy was, or when a young man introduced his girlfriend and their little boy ask “Why on earth haven’t you married the mother of your child?”……..legal marriage might still have a meaning and a purpose. But nobody wants to be rude and judgmental.
Thank you, Augustine. I wonder if it’s because of the number of “unfollows”?
This is actually the count of “follows.” I was confused by this too when I first joined up. It says “unfollow” because you’re following it and if you wanted to stop following it, you’d click unfollow. Same with “like” and “unlike.”
Editorial decisions regarding promotion to the Main Feed are a deep and abiding mystery (not that your post wasn’t worthy). I think if you figure it out, you get to move your family into the chocolate factory and become the new owner/manager.
Thank you, Western Chauvinist! The mystery continues–or not. Chocolate factory, huh? H.m.m.m.m.m……
I’m convinced Blue Yeti has a dartboard, and labels popular member feed posts on darts, closes his eyes, and then tosses the darts. Center section gets main feed. Others get ignored.
. . . and the mystery deepens!