What Does It Mean to Be Good?

 

After listening to the most recent GLOP podcast, I started to think about the meaning of being good. John Podhoretz mentioned the death of Gene Wilder; he shared that Wilder had been obsessed with being good. Anything taken to an extreme, such as an obsession, can be a detriment to our lives: the obsession becomes the center of our universe and everything else is secondary. The story caused me to think about my own commitment to being good, what that meant to me, and how I acted upon it.

As a child, I practiced being good to avoid getting into trouble! But as I matured, I realized that intuitively I wanted to do good because G-d expected me to. Finally, I chose to be and do good because I wanted to serve G-d. Although goodness is partly an “inside job,” it is also demonstrated in how we act in the world. So I can think about good things I’d like to do, but unless I actually do them, I am not fulfilling my understanding of being good.

I spent a little time exploring how others saw being good. In one article the writer suggested the following:

Always ask yourself: Am I defining “good” as that which looks good to the fast-food-Internet-Hollywood segment of society, or am I defining “good” as that which has real meaning, a deep message, and makes a valuable contribution to society?

To be good, we also are called to do things that we really don’t want to do, or that are unpleasant. To be with my husband who has a condition that causes him to cough, often loudly, can be challenging. How can I be a good person around him and in a way that helps him? There are times when I think I can’t bear another moment. But then I stop my flailing thoughts, breathe deeply, continue my knitting or reading, and allow him to do what he needs to do; that, for me, is being good.

I also love to lead my meditation group and to be a hospice volunteer. Visits with friends and being present for them are also ways to be good. Being good for me also demands that I only do as much as I can, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Lots of people spread more goodness than I do, but I know my limitations, and to be good for everyone, including myself, I find a balance in those activities.

Am I always good? Hardly! Sometimes I am selfish, self-centered and clueless. But I am also human. And like many folks, I do my best.

Some of you may think that you do things in the unfolding of your lives but you don’t think about whether they are good or not. You just do them because they call to be done. In my view, that is the actualization of a deeply held goodness.

So my heart goes out to someone like Gene Wilder. I expect that he was a good person, even if he was obsessed with being good. My hope for him is that he was able to embrace his goodness in ways that were fulfilling and rewarding for him, as well as for others.

So what does it mean for you to be good? What is your own definition? Why is it important to you? How do you teach it to your children? How do you act upon it in the world?

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  1. michael johnson Inactive
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    Susan Quinn:

    michael johnson: The way I see it is it’s one on one, me against God’s standard and how do I measure up.

    How does it strike you, Michael, to say, one on one, me embracing and aspiring to meet God’s standards, and how do I measure up? Is that an incompatible statement with your views?

    well, you dice the onion much more finely than I do.  You would have to define ” incompatible with what?” I made my comment concerning  does God grade on the curve, and I believe there is no measuring up.  I guess I did not make that clear.  All have sinned and fall short…..but the gift  is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.  God is not like Hemingway who dismissed someone from his entourage be cause “he did not measure up.”  Least ways, that’s the way I see it.

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  2. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Zelda:I loved this post because I have a definitive point of view on the meaning of good.

    I do good. I provide jobs and consequently good training to young people on how not only to survive in the real world but to develop business skills, recognize opportunities, and thus provide donuts for the next generation.

    I think I may have just described the meaning of capitalism.

    Good work, Zelda!!

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  3. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    Mr. Conservative:

    iWe:I’ll bite.

    The Torah does not call eating the fruit a sin. See here for bite-sized textual analyses that argue Eden was inferior to what followed. And which talks a great deal about creativity – “good” is defined by G-d as a creative act.

    I watched the one minute video, don’t buy it (respectfully). Where does scripture say that G-d’s definition of “good” is LIMITED to creativity (although His creation is of course good). Cannot one be “creatively evil?” I can, my kids can, don’t know about you. ?

    I think ‘creative’ is probably the wrong word – although there isn’t a great one in English. Melacha (מלאכה) is the Hebrew one. In this vein, I think productive is probably a better word – being a maker. Evil is loss and destruction and risk (in-directly). Good is addition, creation and removal of risk.

    But even His creation is not necessarily good. Things that aren’t creative (dark, Sabbath and man) aren’t ‘good’ even though G-d made them.

    Man knows good through evil because he creates in reaction to loss. It is a fundamental conservative principle – bad things (risk) drive people to get jobs and be creative. Communism deadens creativity. They are opposites that drive one another.

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  4. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Richard Harvester: But even His creation is not necessarily good. Things that aren’t creative (dark, Sabbath and man) aren’t ‘good’ even though G-d made them.

    Very helpful, Richard. I’m guessing that “dark” and “Sabbath” aren’t productive, because they aren’t meant to be; the former does not “illuminate” and the Sabbath is about “rest,” but why was man not “good”?

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  5. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Or is man not good until he becomes creative??

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  6. iWe Coolidge
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    Susan Quinn: why was man not “good”?

    I would say that this is because man, as created in the Garden of Eden, was static. He had no productive role.

    We become capable of goodness after we leave the Garden, and G-d commands us accordingly.

    RH may have a different answer!

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  7. Mr. Conservative Inactive
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    iWe:

    Mr. Conservative: So, no “curve” based on my next (maybe last) decision … but a glorious decision on His part to pay for my sins at a cost very dear to Himself.

    I hope you can appreciate that Judaism does not agree with Christianity on this. The gap is unbreachable, but at least we can understand each other.

    You said that so kindly, I feel like I should make a brief response (although I said I was bowing out).  On one level, yes, of course, (as I understand it) a strict adherence to modern Judaism calls  you to reject Jesus Christ as the Messiah and continue to wait for a Messiah yet to come.  But, as you know, that has not always been the case.  Jesus’ disciples (and most of his early non-Greek followers) were observant Jews who believed Jesus when he claimed to be the Jewish Messiah.  When they followed Him, they in no way saw themselves to be rejecting their Judaism, they saw Him as a fulfillment of their ancient faith.  (Of course, there many today who call themselves Messianic Jews, Jews for Jesus, or Completed Jews along the same lines.)

    Which brings me to the second level of meaning, this gap is” breachable “and has been breached by the only one who can–a Jewish carpenter who was also God’s son.

    Blessings to you iWe!  Thanks for your patience here and kind repartee. Our prayer should always be, G-d, show us your truth.

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  8. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    Richard Harvester:

    The Torah does not call eating the fruit a sin. See here for bite-sized textual analyses that argue Eden was inferior to what followed. And which talks a great deal about creativity – “good” is defined by G-d as a creative act.

    The first sin is Cain’s. His desire is classified as chata – it implies a desire to do evil, to be destructive. This can be seen in Gen 50:17. Avon also first appears with Cain – regarding his self-regard after the fact – almost like guilt. The third (pesha) is translated as ‘trespass’ and is first used with Jacob’s defense against Lavan. It seems to imply a violation of the rules.

    I don’t know if IWe shared Quantum Spirituality – but I think this is the ultimate reason they got booted: https://youtu.be/fq18H6X5i3o

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  9. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    Susan Quinn:Or is man not good until he becomes creative??

    Exactly. He could have been good in the Garden – but he didn’t actually live up to that potential. It is a very conservative idea – people in a Communist Eden don’t make much with their lives and it undermines their fundamental purpose.

    Sharing another video: https://youtu.be/fFG0yzsKx60

    :)

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  10. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    iWe:I would say that this is because man, as created in the Garden of Eden, was static. He had no productive role.

    We become capable of goodness after we leave the Garden, and G-d commands us accordingly.

    RH may have a different answer!

    We were capable – we just didn’t live up to it. Our great objective as humans, I believe, is to learn how to combine the security and safety with productivity – like G-d.

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  11. 10 cents Member
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    As a person who has gone negative to bring out good, I have noticed that the civility and good threads bring out the negative at times. It is part of human nature that in showing the good a person explains the mistakes of others. When we half joking and half seriously express how we are tops at being bad, there is a sense of camaraderie. I learned this lesson when I first ran the Worst Poster (Writer) on Ricochet Election. This is a fund raiser to get the honor of getting the most $5 votes given to charity to win the election.   What winds up happening is fun.

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  12. Severely Ltd. Inactive
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    Susan Quinn:

    Midget Faded Rattlesnake:

    Susan Quinn: Just list one or two things that you do to be good

    Stay alive.
    Keep my mouth shut.

    You of all people! C’mon, Midge. Tell us more. I like your humor, but I love your heart.

    Well that sure put me in stitches. I’m still laughing.

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  13. 10 cents Member
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    Severely Ltd.:

    Susan Quinn:

    Midget Faded Rattlesnake:

    Susan Quinn: Just list one or two things that you do to be good

    Stay alive.
    Keep my mouth shut.

    You of all people! C’mon, Midge. Tell us more. I like your humor, but I love your heart.

    Well that sure put me in stitches. I’m still laughing.

    Severely, you might want to explain yourself because it could be taken in different ways. @severelyltd

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  14. Saint Augustine Member
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    I wish I could get involved more here, but my brain is full and I just launched a new post that might take a lot of attention.

    And, just now, I have to let the compy take a nap and charge, and drink water [or overcome pneumonia, or something like that], and memorize Scripture, and manage children.

    Briefly, a few key points:

    • Keep up the good talking!
    • I’m glad Mr. C. mentioned the Messianic Jews who do bridge that particular gap.
    • I don’t have any objection to the idea of a perfect being we get from sitting and thinking.  (My cartooney Anselm here does that a bit, albeit with Scripture all over the place, and I like Anselm.)  But there’s always a risk of having our own reason rather than revelation define G-d; the Greeks are fun, but to the Jews were given the very words of G-d.
    • The Old Testament portrayal of G-d’s goodness (I’ve recently been tasked with preaching this on Psalm 25), is, perhaps, consistent with Anselmian perfect being theology; but it’s not perfect being theology.  It’s about G-d’s faithfulness to His covenant and his forgiveness of his people.
    • Nor do I think an idea of goodness for G-d’s people should be that of a static, but an active, goodness.
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  15. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    We have had a lot of people who have claimed to be Messiah. The latest significant one died in 1994. He acquired many followers.

    The Jewish requirements for the messianic times are laid out in the Five Books of Moses: universal return to the land (perhaps even from the stars), extraordinary levels of productivity, curses on enemies, no sickness, no infertility, no service of other gods, etc… Beyond this Five Books description, we believe these times will bring universal peace and universal offerings to G-d in Jerusalem.

    This is the Jewish Messiah. And I think it is clear that it has not come.

    Jesus may well be the Messiah for Christians – I have no issue with that. We can all have different relationships with G-d and we certainly encourage that. But he can’t be the Jewish Messiah.

    This is why Jesus and Judaism don’t match up. The early followers might well have believed Jesus to be the Messiah, but that became harder to maintain within the Jewish framework once he died and history continued as it did.

    If the followers of the latest major Messiah keep it up (and many do), they too will splinter into another religion: one that follows similar laws but is not actually Judaism.

    In terms of criteria for a *Jewish* Messiah, the 1994 guy came a lot closer. But he still didn’t make the cut.

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  16. Midget Faded Rattlesnake Inactive
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    10 cents:

    Severely Ltd.:

    Susan Quinn:

    Midget Faded Rattlesnake:

    Susan Quinn: Just list one or two things that you do to be good

    Stay alive.
    Keep my mouth shut.

    You of all people! C’mon, Midge. Tell us more. I like your humor, but I love your heart.

    Well that sure put me in stitches. I’m still laughing.

    Severely, you might want to explain yourself because it could be taken in different ways. @severelyltd

    Don’t worry, Dime. I got a laugh out of it, too.

    One way a woman keeps her mouth shut about certain things is by talking of others.

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  17. Saint Augustine Member
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    I can’t properly talk on the phone. Two swift remarks. Then, hopefully, I’ll have the sense to be quiet for a bit.

    If Jesus is not the Jewish Messiah, he’s not the Christian one either.

    Note that we believe He came, did stuff, left, and is coming back. Naturally, He didnt fulfill every single prophecy the first time around.

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  18. Ansonia Member
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    Re: 21 by DocJay

    Now that’s what you call good.

    I’ve got a long way to go, but good is in the direction of the day you describe.

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  19. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    Saint Augustine:If Jesus is not the Jewish Messiah, he’s not the Christian one either.

    Note that we believe He came, did stuff, left, and is coming back. Naturally, He didnt fulfill every single prophecy the first time around.

    From a Jewish perspective, which did he accomplish or even move the needle on? Universal return to the land (perhaps even from the stars)? extraordinary levels of productivity? curses on enemies? no sickness? no infertility? no Jewish service of other gods? How about reinforcement of Torah law?

    The match isn’t there. He helped sell monotheism – to non-Jews.

    The argument for the Rebbe (whose followers also believe he will be resurrected to finish the job and who remain observant of Jewish law) is that steps were taken in all of these directions during his life and he may well have helped many of them. But in Jesus’ case, quite the opposite occurred. Shortly after his time the dispersion was enhanced, the land destroyed, the Romans tore down our homeland and Torah law was further weakened (you can blame Paul, but the relationship is there).

    It took another 1900+ years for things to move in another direction.

    Christianity is another religion – distinct from Judaism.

    I’m cool with that – I have absolutely no need or desire to convert you to my faith. I encourage Christians to be strong in their faith. But it really bothers me when it represents itself as Jewish to Jews who belong on another path.

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  20. michael johnson Inactive
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    Saint

    • The Old Testament portrayal of G-d’s goodness (I’ve recently been tasked with preaching this on Psalm 25), is, perhaps, consistent with Anselmian perfect being theology; but it’s not perfect being theology. It’s about G-d’s faithfulness to His covenant and his forgiveness of his people.
    • Nor do I think an idea of goodness for G-d’s people should be that of a static, but an active, goodness.

    Psalm 25…my absolute favorite.  To Thee oh God do I lift up my soul, Oh my God in Thee I trust  ”  One of the few I know by heart.

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  21. michael johnson Inactive
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    In terms of criteria for a *Jewish* Messiah, the 1994 guy came a lot closer. But he still didn’t make the cut.

    Could you identify the 1994 guy?  I’d like to read up on him.

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  22. Zafar Member
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    She:

    I think doing one’s duty has a lot to do with it. But I know a lot of ‘dutiful’ people who I don’t think are particularly ‘good.’

    My granny was a great believer in “a glad heart and a good will.” Some might call it ‘joy,’ or maybe put it in a religious context. If you don’t have any of that when you’re doing your duty, then I’m not sure your duty ‘counts’ for much on the goodness scale.

    Which leads me to wonder: Is doing good the same thing as being good?

    I’m not sure.

    My feeling is that doing your duty sincerely results in joy, if not always in pleasure or happiness.

    And I must agree with iWe – good is about doing, the heart and mind follow.

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  23. iWe Coolidge
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    Richard Harvester: We have had a lot of people who have claimed to be Messiah. The latest significant one died in 1994.

    A quibble: I am not aware that he ever explicitly made the claim. Many of his followers did, though.

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  24. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    michael johnson:

    In terms of criteria for a *Jewish* Messiah, the 1994 guy came a lot closer. But he still didn’t make the cut.

    Could you identify the 1994 guy? I’d like to read up on him.

    The Rebbe Menachem Schneerson. Full disclosure, I was an admirer of his (but far from a Messianic follower), of his. He did a lot of wonderful things.

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  25. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    iWe:

    Richard Harvester: We have had a lot of people who have claimed to be Messiah. The latest significant one died in 1994.

    A quibble: I am not aware that he ever explicitly made the claim. Many of his followers did, though.

    Correct. He came real close… but arguably after he was of a much diminished mental state:

    The following (at 7:58): https://youtu.be/887vWdyWXFg?t=473 – the video itself is fascinating for the charisma he displayed and the effect it had on the crowd. It still does.

    And this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GqKpUguSVY

    Others named him as such and he praised them – but only much later in life.

    Earlier on, he very much discouraged it.

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  26. Saint Augustine Member
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    Richard Harvester:

    Saint Augustine:If Jesus is not the Jewish Messiah, he’s not the Christian one either.

    Note that we believe He came, did stuff, left, and is coming back. Naturally, He didnt fulfill every single prophecy the first time around.

    From a Jewish perspective, which did he accomplish or even move the needle on?

    Many (most? all?) prophecies Yeshua has already fulfilled are documented by the authors of the New Testament.  It’s best to read it there and see the documentation firsthand.

    Those prophecies are all from the Old Testament.  So, assuming they are genuine Messianic prophecies, they are all of Jewish interest.

    I encourage Christians to be strong in their faith. But it really bothers me when it represents itself as Jewish to Jews who belong on another path.

    Well, I don’t represent myself as Jewish, but I believe Jesus to be the Jewish Messiah.  If that bothers you, maybe you shouldn’t wish me and my faith well.  If He’s not the Jewish Messiah, I’m a darn fool and my faith is rubbish!

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  27. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    I wonder how the Christians following this feed would feel if there was a group calling themselves Jewish Christians. At the very least, I would think it would sound odd and contradictory. That is how I react to a group that calls itself Messianic Jews. They are welcome to call themselves anything they wish, but they are not Jews. And I find “Completed Jews” a bizarre term.

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  28. Severely Ltd. Inactive
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    Midget Faded Rattlesnake:

    10 cents:

    Severely Ltd.:

    Susan Quinn:

    Midget Faded Rattlesnake:

    Susan Quinn: Just list one or two things that you do to be good

    Stay alive.
    Keep my mouth shut.

    You of all people! C’mon, Midge. Tell us more. I like your humor, but I love your heart.

    Well that sure put me in stitches. I’m still laughing.

    Severely, you might want to explain yourself because it could be taken in different ways. @severelyltd

    Don’t worry, Dime. I got a laugh out of it, too.

    One way a woman keeps her mouth shut about certain things is by talking of others.

    The viper understood. If she’s ever withheld her opinion, particularly when it’s wrong-headed and contrary to mine, I haven’t seen it.

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  29. 10 cents Member
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    Susan Quinn:I wonder how the Christians following this feed would feel if there was a group calling themselves Jewish Christians. At the very least, I would think it would sound odd and contradictory. That is how I react to a group that calls itself Messianic Jews. They are welcome to call themselves anything they wish, but they are not Jews. And I find “Completed Jews” a bizarre term.

    I think most people would see Jewish Christians in the same way as they would see Italian Christians. It would not seem strange for an ethnic group.

    Out of curiosity,  are secular Jews not Jews too? How is that dealt with?

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  30. Richard Harvester Inactive
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    10 cents: Out of curiosity, are secular Jews not Jews too? How is that dealt with?

    Secular Jews are Jews. They are defined not by faith or practice, but by birth.

    There are essentially two groups – those who come into the religion and accept the commandments and covenants and those who are born into the nation and have the obligations whether or not they keep them.

    The Torah is full of warnings of what happens to the Jewish people when they – as a nation – don’t keep the commandments. They remain Jews even as they follow other gods and are driven from their land. The identity stays with them.

    This is one reason we discourage conversion – you take on obligations for yourself and your descendants that you don’t have if you aren’t Jewish.

    So Jews aren’t an ethnic group, race or religion. We are a nation defined by a particular covenant with G-d and a specific role to play in the world around us.

    That we often choose to ignore both doesn’t eliminate the identity.

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