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Abstract/Summary: While there has been much focus on the issue as to whether a non-constant sexual identification (e.g., “gender fluid”) is itself an identity within a recognized constellation of identity or constitutes a series of changing identities, we find that there has been virtually no attention to age-related identity changes largely invisible to the existing intersectional paradigms and methodologies arising from conceptualities of race, class, and gender. Specifically, we focus on an as yet unexplored social identity we term sordida senem:
Here is a self-descriptive quote from subject N. of our study:
I love my wife and grown kids and grandkids but if I’m honest, I think that I am the kind of guy who would be happier if he could just blow the whole 401(K) on a couple of 19-year-old strippers in a big finale.
From the standpoint of dialectic critical realism, the experience of N. suggests victimization of the sordida senem identity by means of the monovalent expectations of heteronormative monogamy. Is N. choosing the identity he appears to live at the expense of a truer self and thus a victim of the very hegemonic patriarchal order he appears to personify?
But if I were to find the right girl with the looks, youth and bad judgment I would need in order to really let loose, what would people say? Even if I were finding sexual fulfillment and maybe my true self, I would be called a “dirty old man” by everybody—like that old billionaire who married Anna Nicole Smith—lucky bastard.
Given that its membership is largely comprised of older, white, heterosexual cis-males, traits which typify, indeed seem to comprise all forms of privilege, the sordida senem experience does not easily fit into a cognitively realized politics which presumes as its ontological starting point a consciousness of discovery of oppression and dominated minority social identities. An almost Hegelian contradiction arises in which simultaneous experiences of both marginalization and virtually personified hegemony occur within a construct in which neither element can be affirmed.
You know, the world would fall apart without guys like me. We get it done, we know how it works, we show up every day because everybody counts on us to be there and we don’t get a lotta respect for it. What happens if we all just quit and take some babe to Vegas? Yeah, I know, probably way too much guilt and blowback to really enjoy it.
The analytic task before us is whether this class of experiential phenomenon (sordida senem) can be brought into non-hierarchical context such that we avoid both the pitfalls of the analytic problematic and of a generic epistemic fallacy such that we merely reinstate a habit of naming and thus mimic the superidealism of a Baudrillard or can and should we recognize this as a valid, affirmable identity.
Nobody is gonna bake me a cake if I come out as the real me and bring a wad of hundreds downtown to the Boom Boom Room. Which stripe on the on the pride flag is for guys like me?