Made to Care: The Illiberality of LGBT Politics

 

The subtitle to this piece could have been: We Told You So.

We marriage defenders said, “You can either have religious freedom/freedom of conscience or same-sex ‘marriage,’ but not both.” You may be asking, “Why is she bringing that up again? Does she want to restart the SSM wars?” It’s because the Culture Wars are back in the news, and not just in the US, but throughout “advanced” (beyond the truth) societies of the West.

Here at home, the Colorado baker is going to have his day at the Supreme Court. It only remains to be seen if Justice Anthony “Obergefell” Kennedy will decide in favor of the First Amendment or his own misguided redefinition of marriage. Even if he decides the baker gets to keep his freedom of conscience, he may do so on very narrow grounds that the baker has freedom of “creative expression” as an artist, and not so much freedom of association as implicitly guaranteed by the First Amendment.

And then there’s Rocklin Academy. Even kindergartners must be made to conform to the ascendant transgender confusion. Their teacher read I am Jazz and Red: A Crayon’s Story before the big reveal of their classmate as a trans-girl. Neither the teacher nor the administration thought it important to inform the students’ parents before teaching the kids that blue is red, or boys can be girls, if they feel like it. Notice a trend here?

LGBT politics isn’t about “marriage equality” or transgender rights. It is an attack on objective truth and an empowerment of authorities at all levels to coerce speech and thought. Marriage has always been a legitimization of male/female conjugal unions because it is in the interests of individuals and society to attach the naturally occurring offspring of such unions to their parents in family units. That was widely understood as the truth of marriage – the accepted social reality. Up until Obergefell (and, leading up to it, gay adoption), we, as individuals and as a society, were allowed to remain indifferent to naturally sterile relationships between homosexuals. No more. We are being forced to care.

It’s the same with the minuscule fraction of people with gender dysphoria. While their condition is tragic for these individuals and the people who love them, their impact on society was negligible until now. Now laws are being passed to compel speech in the form of “preferred pronouns” (ref: Jordan Peterson, Canada), and children are having their world turned upside down by the revision of what is so obviously true: a person with a penis (and XY chromosomes) is a boy, and a person without a penis (and XX chromosomes) is a girl. One might even say, “it’s science!”

These are just isolated anecdotes, you say? Ha! Let’s look at what happens when a nation caves to the LGBT agenda.

In Great Britain, the slide into unreality moves apace. The “Ministry of Equality” has expressed support for a proposal to allow gender reassignment surgery without any medical consultation as building on the “progress” of same-sex “marriage.” Also from an “equalities” minister:  “I feel we’ll only have proper equal marriage when you can bloody well get married in a church if you want to do so, without having to fight the church for the equality that should be your right.” The leader of the Liberal Democrats was forced to resign despite voting for SSM, because his Christian belief that marriage is between a man and a woman is intolerable in politics and must be publicly denounced. Further, Christians are being excluded from foster parenting because, “The equality provisions concerning sexual orientation should take precedence.”  You can’t make this shtuff up. So now homosexual couples will be able to foster and adopt, but people of religious conviction won’t. “Family” is now anything but a man and a woman loving their children in a faith-filled home.

We live in such stupid times.

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  1. Mitchell Messom Inactive
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    MJBubba (View Comment):

    Zafar (View Comment):

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    Gary McVey (View Comment):
    Extending marriage to gays has the effect of making them more like the rest of us–shouldn’t people who proclaim themselves “marriage defenders” agree with that?

    I totally agree with that, but extending marriage rights to 2-3% of the population while simultaneously limiting the religious freedom of about 40% of the population (and thereby endangering religious liberty for 100% of the population) seems to me like taking one step forward and ten steps back, on both liberty and utilitarian grounds.

    I know this 2-3% is what’s visible, but the rest of Kinsey’s 10% would include people who are still in the closet or married men who feel they have to have a fumble on the way home from the pub. Wrt the number of gay people you see increasing with each age cohort that comes along, I don’t know that the number of same sex attracted people has increased, just the proportion that is comfortable being visibly so.

    Kinsey’s “ten percent” was never true. It was always a lie. His methodological practices that inflated that number were shockingly bad science.

    Journalists loved it and continued to spread “ten percent” for decades after it had been thoroughly discredited. I have to say that I have not seen it much in the past five years, so perhaps that old lie is finally being put away.

    I am open to that.  As physiological studies are notoriously hard to reproduce and that is just the good ones not alone the junk ones.

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  2. Ed G. Member
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    Mitchell Messom (View Comment):

    Ed G. (View Comment):
    No. I’m claiming it wasn’t oppression at all. I’m claiming that Cato wasn’t in fact locked out of the financial system as he claims. I don’t agree that lack of family health insurance or access to SSI benefits counts, if, as I belive, the exclusiveness of civil marriage wasn’t arbitrary. So i can do without your condescending sarcasm until you at least demonstrate that you even understand what I’m saying instead of what you fantasize I’m saying.

    Haha he wasn’t locked out well except for the the things you don’t think count…

    You’re locked in without listening to others even as you project that to the rest of us. I said where I think he was wrong and I also mentioned the areas where some corrective a were needed. Not getting SSI is hardly being locked out of tbe financial system.

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  3. MJBubba Member
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    Gary McVey (View Comment):
    Women voting and working outside the home were rare phenomena a century ago. Christians and Jews living and working together in peace was pretty damn unusual a century ago. If we’re talking thousands of years of tradition, democracy and republican government are novelties. We change things all the time. Extending marriage to gays has the effect of making them more like the rest of us–shouldn’t people who proclaim themselves “marriage defenders” agree with that? Is it reasonable that those calling the loudest for strengthening the institution of marriage are often the quickest to declare it abandoned, useless, get the state out of it altogether, why bother?–after they lose?

    Some conservatives have made the argument that letting the gays get married would give gays more reason to adopt bourgeois values.

    But most of us were hung up on the myriad of issues that arise when a basic concept like “marriage” undergoes a radical redefinition.  Unintended consequences abound.

    Now Cato R. will respond that the problems that marriage faces in America did not start with SSM, and I agree.  But SSM is not helping with any of the issues, and spins out several new issues.

    The damage will accrue to our culture by further eroding families and bringing government even more into family life.

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  4. Mitchell Messom Inactive
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    Ed G. (View Comment):

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    Ed G. (View Comment):
    No. I’m claiming it wasn’t oppression at all. I’m claiming that Cato wasn’t in fact locked out of the financial system as he claims. I don’t agree that lack of family health insurance or access to SSI benefits counts, if, as I belive, the exclusiveness of civil marriage wasn’t arbitrary. So i can do without your condescending sarcasm until you at least demonstrate that you even understand what I’m saying instead of what you fantasize I’m saying.

    Haha he wasn’t locked out well except for the the things you don’t think count…

    You’re locked in without listening to others even as you project that to the rest of us. I said where I think he was wrong and I also mentioned the areas where some corrective a were needed. Not getting SSI is hardly being locked out of tbe financial system.

    What did @catorand write?

    ” I never said I was “locked out” of the financial system. In fact I’ve had banking and investment accounts since before I met Mr. Rand. “Locked out” is your word. But I was deprived of a wide variety financial benefits and opportunities that heterosexual couples enjoyed. That is enough.”

    Its like you didn’t even read….

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    Mitchell Messom (View Comment):

    MJBubba:

    Kinsey’s “ten percent” was never true. It was always a lie. His methodological practices that inflated that number were shockingly bad science.

    Journalists loved it and continued to spread “ten percent” for decades after it had been thoroughly discredited. I have to say that I have not seen it much in the past five years, so perhaps that old lie is finally being put away.

    I am open to that. As physiological studies are notoriously hard to reproduce and that is just the good ones not alone the junk ones.

    The sad truth is that there is very little in the way of solid science that can be used to support or oppose social policy with respect to gays, gay parenting, gay “marriage,” or anything to do with gays.

    The earliest scientific effort was Kinsey, who was a pervert whose science was awful but was titillating and his books became bestsellers.  None of his work has lasting value because his flaws were so great.  A female researcher did a study in the early 1960s that concluded that homosexuality did not seem to be a mental illness.  She had a sample size of thirty and her method was ink-blot testing.  A decade later, when the American Psychological Association voted to remove homosexuality from the DSM, that was a political vote.  There was no new research presented, nor was any science debated.  What happened was a group of “queer activists” disrupted their convention and made such a ruckus that the fool psychologists voted to give them what they wanted.

    Science over the decades since then has been awful, with methodological shortcomings of all sorts and bias on both sides, and small sample sizes and selection bias leading the flaws all the way.

    So when the judge asks what does the science say, what never gets said, but which should be said by lawyers on both sides is:  “Who knows?  None of the science is credible.”

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  6. Zafar Member
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    MJBubba (View Comment):

    Kinsey’s “ten percent” was never true. It was always a lie. His methodological practices that inflated that number were shockingly bad science.

    Journalists loved it and continued to spread “ten percent” for decades after it had been thoroughly discredited. I have to say that I have not seen it much in the past five years, so perhaps that old lie is finally being put away.

    Well, not so fast.

    From the Guardian:

    Overall the proportion of people with same-sex experience is far higher than the proportion who identify themselves as gay and bisexual. This must mean that many same-sex contacts are by people who do not consider themselves gay or bisexual. That’s just what we find in reputable surveys: in the last big US survey, 10% of women and 3% of men who identified themselves as “heterosexual” also reported a same‑sex contact.

    And from this rather interesting paper:

    Measuring sexual orientation, behavior, and related opinions is difficult because responses are biased towards socially acceptable answers. We test whether measurements are biased even when responses are private and anonymous and use our results to identify sexuality-related norms and how they vary. We run an experiment on 2,516 U.S. participants. Participants were randomly assigned to either a “best practices method” that was computer-based and provides privacy and anonymity, or to a “veiled elicitation method” that further conceals individual responses. Answers in the veiled method preclude inference about any particular individual, but can be used to accurately estimate statistics about the population. Comparing the two methods shows sexuality-related questions receive biased responses even under current best practices, and, for many questions, the bias is substantial. The veiled method increased self-reports of non-heterosexual identity by 65% (p<0.05) and same-sex sexual experiences by 59% (p<0.01). The veiled method also increased the rates of anti-gay sentiment. Respondents were 67% more likely to express disapproval of an openly gay manager at work (p<0.01) and 71% more likely to say it is okay to discriminate against lesbian, gay, or bisexual individuals (p<0.01). The results show non-heterosexuality and anti-gay sentiment are substantially underestimated in existing surveys, and the privacy afforded by current best practices is not always sufficient to eliminate bias. Finally, our results identify two social norms: it is perceived as socially undesirable both to be open about being gay, and to be unaccepting of gay individuals.

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  7. Gary McVey Contributor
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    MJBubba (View Comment):

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    CB Toder aka Mama Toad (View Comment):

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    Oh yes, I remember how religious conservatives rallied to around those afflicted with AIDS in the 80s. This is a joke, right? You might be able to pull that on some people, but I’m old enough to have been a (gay) adult in the 80s. I remember the terror, and the horrible stigma.

    Much if not most of your blame is fair, but not all. Although he was hated by groups like ACT UP for opposing distribution of condoms, I remember Cardinal O’Connor of NY opened the city’s first AIDS ward, among other acts of compassion and respect.

    It’s hard to square the circle when basic positions of the Church (on contraception and homosexuality) mean opposition to the one thing that arguably most contained the HIV epidemic in the West.

    I don’t think differences in beliefs should mean personal hostility, but it’s difficult when personal beliefs mean sticking with stuff like that : – ( Wouldn’t you find it difficult to be chilled wtih me if we lived in a country whose laws upheld my affirmed belief that inter-faith marriages were illegal and their issue technically illegitimate and not deserving of the protection of family law? It’s always harder when it’s personal.

    Wrt the role that religious people played in the HIV crisis (intended as a warning to behave because we might need to be saved again and who else would bother, amirite?) – memory is plastic, and what strikes me is that many Conservatives genuinely believe that their response to gay people, and to the HIV crisis, was and always has been compassionate. So when gay people remember something rather different, the two groups are honestly remembering different versions of reality.

    Zafar, I remember Christians saying horrible things, like ‘AIDS was a plague sent by G-d to rid us of the gays.’ There were some awful moments in 1985-1987. I remember sending a letter to Dr. Dobson, I think in 1989, to say he was being downright unChristian by opposing President H.W. Bush’s AIDS initiatives. I must not have been the only one, because he did reverse that position, and he would not have done so unless his mailbox was full of similar notes.

    I was quick to say that Cato Rand was thinking about “freedom for florists” years in advance, before Obergefell, and I need to be equally quick to say that MJ Bubba’s compassion is real. For anyone who wasn’t around for those SSM Wars, his social conservatism is iron-tough. He’s anti-SSM, that’s for sure, but it wouldn’t be fair to call him anti-gay.  Even among his opponents, he’s nobody’s idea of a hater. (And yeah, we’ve seen a few over the years).

    Props for admitting that one’s own side in a long dispute hasn’t always been in the right. Or, more accurately, that not everyone on your side has been completely in the right. Something we should all keep in mind.

    Oh, and on Kinsey? Yep, you’re right, MJB: 10% was left at the wayside some time ago. 3%, maybe 4% is about as high as mainstream estimates go.

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  8. Mitchell Messom Inactive
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    MJBubba (View Comment):
    But most of us were hung up on the myriad of issues that arise when a basic concept like “marriage” undergoes a radical redefinition. Unintended consequences abound.

    I am going to put forth a lot of those unintended consequences are actually not consequences but independent. A lot of what people here have complained about actually would likely happened regardless of SSM.  These are cultural trends not dependent on one court ruling.  Is it the SSM law that allows the couple to sue the baker or is an anti-discrimination law?

    In Canada trans issue are coming to forefront not because we passed SSM 12 years ago, but because it made its way into popular culture in the USA.

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  9. Ed G. Member
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    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    …..

    I never said I was “locked out” of the financial system. In fact I’ve had banking and investment accounts since before I met Mr. Rand. “Locked out” is your word. But I was deprived of a wide variety financial benefits and opportunities that heterosexual couples enjoyed. That is enough.

    Actually, not all heterosexual couples enjoyed the benefits you’re referring to. Only married straights had access. Why? Just cuz? I don’t think so, but we’ve spent thousands of posts exploring why and suffice to say you still think it’s because i hate gays and there’s no other possible reasin. As I say, we lost and it’s not going to do anyone good for either of us to run into the brick wall one more time.

    On a practical point, paying taxes that others pay (including married straights) is not being deprived of financial benefits, nor is it as troublesome as punishing people for failing to act in a way we deem socially correct.

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  10. Judge Mental Member
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    Gah, another 30+ comments?  Just not that interested.

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  11. Gary McVey Contributor
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    Mitchell Messom (View Comment):

    MJBubba (View Comment):
    But most of us were hung up on the myriad of issues that arise when a basic concept like “marriage” undergoes a radical redefinition. Unintended consequences abound.

    I am going to put forth a lot of those unintended consequences are actually not consequences but independent. A lot of what people here have complained about actually would likely happened regardless of SSM. These are cultural trends not dependent on one court ruling. Is it the SSM law that allows the couple to sue the baker or is an anti-discrimination law?

    In Canada trans issue are coming to forefront not because we passed SSM 12 years ago, but because it made its way into popular culture in the USA.

    Exactly.

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  12. Ed G. Member
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    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    Ed G. (View Comment):

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    ….

    Try commingling assets with a non spouse. Try leaving an estate to a non spouse. We’ve already discussed hospital visitations and medical decisions on this thread. Try getting a non spouses survivot SSI. Or family health insurance. Marriage matters. Our whole legal and financial and health infrastructure recognizes it. Being deprived of access to all of that makes being forced to bake a cake look like a complete triviality.

    Cato, people own property jointly all the time, and estate law ain’t new. You can leave your estate to whomever you please.

    Ed, meet Mr. gift and estate tax. Mr. gift and estate tax, this is Ed.

    Agreed 100 %. Eliminating estate and gift tax would have been both better and easier.

    Well there’s something we could, and can, agree on. But that is not the entirety of the issue. It is simply the reason that your claim that we could freely commingle assets was patently wrong.

    It’s not patently wrong. You can commingle assets then and now. People do it all the time. Joint bank accounts, joint ownership of property.

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  13. Gary McVey Contributor
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    Ed G. (View Comment):

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    …..

    I never said I was “locked out” of the financial system. In fact I’ve had banking and investment accounts since before I met Mr. Rand. “Locked out” is your word. But I was deprived of a wide variety financial benefits and opportunities that heterosexual couples enjoyed. That is enough.

    Actually, not all heterosexual couples enjoyed the benefits you’re referring to. Only married straights had access.

    So legal marriage counts after all.

    Why? Just cuz? I don’t think so, but we’ve spent thousands of posts exploring why and suffice to say you still think it’s because i hate gays and there’s no other possible reason.

    Ed, when did he ever say that?

    As I say, we lost and it’s not going to do anyone good for either of us to run into the brick wall one more time.

    Okay, but he didn’t post this brick wall thread; your side did.

    On a practical point, paying taxes that others pay (including married straights) is not being deprived of financial benefits, nor is it as troublesome as punishing people for failing to act in a way we deem socially correct.

    And if you’ve seen those hundreds of comments, you’ve seen that Cato is not part of those lawsuits, agitation, etc and is in fact opposed to it, as I am. Figure out some legal way out of this and let’s see it. Until then, I don’t see anything but a slippery slope–if the bakers can do it, what about the roofers? The printers? The electricians? And why think it only applies to gays? We yank the public accommodation laws, and now you can refuse to sell  to anyone. Is that really the shining goal of conservatism?

     

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  14. Ed G. Member
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    Gary McVey (View Comment):
    …… We change things all the time. Extending marriage to gays has the effect of making them more like the rest of us–shouldn’t people who proclaim themselves “marriage defenders” agree with that? Is it reasonable that those calling the loudest for strengthening the institution of marriage are often the quickest to declare it abandoned, useless, get the state out of it altogether, why bother?–after they lose?

    I don’t believe that marriage is for making anyone like anyone else; I don’t believe it’s the state’s role whatsoever – the idea is actually a bit repulsive to me. I do believe that the justification for civil marriage was extremely narrow to begin with. Losing means that not only is the justification not narrow now, whatever has replaced it is actively not something a limited government  conservative would want. See Obergefell and references to promoting seldom worth or whatever flowery maleable  language Kennedy used.

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  15. Zafar Member
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    Gary McVey (View Comment):
    I was quick to say that Cato Rand was thinking about “freedom for florists” years in advance, before Obergefell, and I need to be equally quick to say that MJ Bubba’s compassion is real. For anyone who wasn’t around for those SSM Wars, his social conservatism is iron-tough. He’s anti-SSM, that’s for sure, but it wouldn’t be fair to call him anti-gay. Even among his opponents, he’s nobody’s idea of a hater. (And yeah, we’ve seen a few over the years).

    The thing is, the debate about SSM is not about whether Christians/Conservatives, as a whole or individually, are nice or not.  It’s about justice for gay people it not about awards to other people for being nice.

    And MJ Bubba does not bug me, in fact I like him, but I think he’d be pretty up front about being anti-gay, and anti-homosexuality.  Though he can speak for himself.

     

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    Zafar (View Comment):

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    Kinsey’s “ten percent” was never true. It was always a lie. His methodological practices that inflated that number were shockingly bad science.

    Journalists loved it and continued to spread “ten percent” for decades after it had been thoroughly discredited. I have to say that I have not seen it much in the past five years, so perhaps that old lie is finally being put away.

    Well, not so fast.

    From the Guardian:

    Overall the proportion of people with same-sex experience is far higher than the proportion who identify themselves as gay and bisexual. This must mean that many same-sex contacts are by people who do not consider themselves gay or bisexual. That’s just what we find in reputable surveys: in the last big US survey, 10% of women and 3% of men who identified themselves as “heterosexual” also reported a same‑sex contact.

    The article at the Guardian does not deliver what the headline promises.  For the UK, the researcher reported that 8% of men and 16% of women have ever had a same-sex experience of any kind.  So two kids masturbating together on one occasion counts.  Baloney.  The numbers of homosexuals is far, far smaller.  3% – 3.5% for men is what the best guesses are, and I think even these are somewhat inflated.

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  17. Ed G. Member
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    Mitchell Messom (View Comment):

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    No. I’m claiming it wasn’t oppression at all. I’m claiming that Cato wasn’t in fact locked out of the financial system as he claims. I don’t agree that lack of family health insurance or access to SSI benefits counts, if, as I belive, the exclusiveness of civil marriage wasn’t arbitrary. So i can do without your condescending sarcasm until you at least demonstrate that you even understand what I’m saying instead of what you fantasize I’m saying.

    Haha he wasn’t locked out well except for the the things you don’t think count…

    You’re locked in without listening to others even as you project that to the rest of us. I said where I think he was wrong and I also mentioned the areas where some corrective a were needed. Not getting SSI is hardly being locked out of tbe financial system.

    What did @catorand write?

    ” I never said I was “locked out” of the financial system. In fact I’ve had banking and investment accounts since before I met Mr. Rand. “Locked out” is your word. But I was deprived of a wide variety financial benefits and opportunities that heterosexual couples enjoyed. That is enough.”

    Its like you didn’t even read….

    My aplogies. He said deprived of benefits.

    Also, I apologize for my heated response about condescending sarcasm. I do think, though, that you are making assumptions about the traditionist arguments, especially on ricochet, which are incorrect. But as I said I have no desire to rehash them. I’m on record here since 2011 and I’m sure the archives can be searched if your interested.

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    Zafar (View Comment):

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    Quake Voter (View Comment):
    I am very late to this debate having spent too much time in other threads where Rico’s tribal, reactive and tense exchanges are attributed to Donald J. Trump and a Rico of yore of polite, careful think-tankish exchanges is referenced repeatedly.

    Is this that Rico of yore?

    I think this passionate discussion is Ricochet at its finest.

    I agree! But then I am against speech codes. This is pretty rollicking.

    Thanks everyone.

    Everybody’s being very polite! It used to get very rollicking – dare I say even tense?

    Ahh – nostalgia.

    Hands up everybody who in a slightly guilty way misses the SSM debates!

    Oh Zafar! I don’t miss them. I do appreciate Cato and Larry3435 staying with it into the hundreds of posts though long after most people ducked out. As acrimonious as it could get we were still talking and trying to understand each other at least.

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  19. Ed G. Member
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    I just wish I were more articulate and less passionate.

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  20. Gary McVey Contributor
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    Ed G. (View Comment):
    I just wish I were more articulate and less passionate.

    Same here, Ed. Let’s all catch our breath.

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    Zafar (View Comment):

    Gary McVey (View Comment):
    I was quick to say that Cato Rand was thinking about “freedom for florists” years in advance, before Obergefell, and I need to be equally quick to say that MJ Bubba’s compassion is real. For anyone who wasn’t around for those SSM Wars, his social conservatism is iron-tough. He’s anti-SSM, that’s for sure, but it wouldn’t be fair to call him anti-gay. Even among his opponents, he’s nobody’s idea of a hater. (And yeah, we’ve seen a few over the years).

    The thing is, the debate about SSM is not about whether Christians/Conservatives, as a whole or individually, are nice or not. It’s about justice for gay people it not about awards to other people for being nice.

    And MJ Bubba does not bug me, in fact I like him, but I think he’d be pretty up front about being anti-gay, and anti-homosexuality. Though he can speak for himself.

    Thanks, Zafar.  You don’t bug me, either.  I just think you are on an unfortunate course.

    I understand the “justice” claim in favor of SSM.  I just think it is a really bad idea to re-define what the word “marriage” means.  There is a lot about that redefinition that will provide lots of opportunities for our culture to come even more unglued than it already is.

    I have had several acquaintances with gay persons over the years.  I got along personally with all of them except one, who was a jerk, but his attitude sprang from issues that far exceeded his homosexuality and so I did not attribute it to that.  So, not anti-gay so much as anti-gay-activist.  The activists, or Big Gay, or what have you, enjoy the boost they get these days from the Left.  (They should enjoy it now because the Left will turn on them as soon as they are no longer useful to the Left.)  Leftists promote gays these days for the same reason they ever promoted gays; they use gay causes to leverage the courts to attack the churches.

    Which is where my rub is.

    The fact is, I think homosexuality sets you on a spiritual path that leads away from G-d.  But that is not an adequate argument when the debate is over public policy, so I argue those matters on other grounds than religion.

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    Basil Fawlty (View Comment):

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    Mitchell Messom (View Comment):
    I imagine you would have made the tradition excuse for slavery. Blind obedience is not an Anglo-American tradition.

    Spoken like a true progressive.

    If thinking the end of slavery was a positive good makes me a progressive, then sign me up.

    Equating the evil of slavery with the work required to establish an estate plan for a partner is a bit much, don’t you think? The comparison trivializes slavery.

    Yes, that comparison would trivialize slavery, and I didn’t make it.  Let’s recap:

    Having to bake a cake – complete triviality

    Being denied the right to marry – serious injustice

    Slavery – crime against humanity

    How’s that sound?

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  23. MJBubba Member
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    Zafar (View Comment):

    MJBubba (View Comment):

    Kinsey’s “ten percent” was never true. It was always a lie. His methodological practices that inflated that number were shockingly bad science.

    Journalists loved it and continued to spread “ten percent” for decades after it had been thoroughly discredited. I have to say that I have not seen it much in the past five years, so perhaps that old lie is finally being put away.

    Well, not so fast.

    From the Guardian:

    Overall the proportion of people with same-sex experience …

    And from this rather interesting paper:

    Measuring sexual orientation, behavior, and related opinions is difficult because responses are biased towards socially acceptable answers. We test whether measurements are biased even when responses are private and anonymous and use our results to identify sexuality-related norms and how they vary. We run an experiment on 2,516 U.S. participants.

    Comparing the two methods shows sexuality-related questions receive biased responses even under current best practices, and, for many questions, the bias is substantial…. The results show non-heterosexuality and anti-gay sentiment are substantially underestimated in existing surveys, and the privacy afforded by current best practices is not always sufficient to eliminate bias. Finally, our results identify two social norms: it is perceived as socially undesirable both to be open about being gay, and to be unaccepting of gay individuals.

    Zafar, that is an interesting paper.  Notice they focus on “non-heterosexuality.”  They focused on responses that indicated something less than “completely heterosexual,” so they were collecting responses from persons who thought they were somewhere out on the “Kinsey scale” of sexuality.  This is not nearly the same thing as measuring homosexuality.

    Also, they divided their study subjects into the anonymous survey and the super-duper-anonymity process survey.  They found elevated responses of everything when they made a big impression on their subjects of how completely anonymous the survey was.  Hence their conclusion:

    “…it is perceived as socially undesirable both to be open about being gay, and to be unaccepting of gay individuals.”

    All that is after they discuss the limitations of their sample, state it is not representative, and discuss how it should only be used to evaluate comparisons and not for absolute values:

    Our sample is diverse, with a broad range of demographic characteristics, but it is not a representative sample: it is younger, more educated, and more liberal than the U.S. general population. Table II provides descriptive statistics. Our sample is approximately 42% female with a median age of 26. Less than 32% describe themselves as being at least moderately religious, and less than 16% self-reports as Republican.

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    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    Basil Fawlty (View Comment):

    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    Basil Fawlty (View Comment):

    Mitchell Messom (View Comment):
    I imagine you would have made the tradition excuse for slavery. Blind obedience is not an Anglo-American tradition.

    Spoken like a true progressive.

    If thinking the end of slavery was a positive good makes me a progressive, then sign me up.

    Equating the evil of slavery with the work required to establish an estate plan for a partner is a bit much, don’t you think? The comparison trivializes slavery.

    Yes, that comparison would trivialize slavery, and I didn’t make it. Let’s recap:

    Having to bake a cake – complete triviality

    Being denied the right to marry – serious injustice

    Slavery – crime against humanity

    How’s that sound?

    No good, Cato.  I completely reject your assessment.

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  25. Cato Rand Inactive
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    MJBubba (View Comment):

    Zafar (View Comment):

    lowtech redneck (View Comment):

    Gary McVey (View Comment):
    Extending marriage to gays has the effect of making them more like the rest of us–shouldn’t people who proclaim themselves “marriage defenders” agree with that?

    I totally agree with that, but extending marriage rights to 2-3% of the population while simultaneously limiting the religious freedom of about 40% of the population (and thereby endangering religious liberty for 100% of the population) seems to me like taking one step forward and ten steps back, on both liberty and utilitarian grounds.

    I know this 2-3% is what’s visible, but the rest of Kinsey’s 10% would include people who are still in the closet or married men who feel they have to have a fumble on the way home from the pub. Wrt the number of gay people you see increasing with each age cohort that comes along, I don’t know that the number of same sex attracted people has increased, just the proportion that is comfortable being visibly so.

    Kinsey’s “ten percent” was never true. It was always a lie. His methodological practices that inflated that number were shockingly bad science.

    Journalists loved it and continued to spread “ten percent” for decades after it had been thoroughly discredited. I have to say that I have not seen it much in the past five years, so perhaps that old lie is finally being put away.

    I don’t think anybody who studies it think’s its 10% anymore.  I also don’t think anyone thinks it’s 2-3%.  So by throwing out the “wish fulfillment” number of 2-3%, lr kind of asked to have the equally unevidenced 10% thrown back at.  I propose we all agree that we really don’t know but the best evidence is mid-single digits.

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  26. Cato Rand Inactive
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    MJBubba (View Comment):

    Quake Voter (View Comment):

    Midget Faded Rattlesnake (View Comment):
    We tinker, yes, but the whole Anglophone tradition is… a tradition. The common law we all (this includes each US state in its own right) inherited from Mother England is… a tradition.

    And what about that more proximate tradition we call the United States Constitution, no original public understanding of which (including the 14th Amendment) countenances any of the gay rights agenda, including the basic decriminalizing of sodomy, being dictated from the federal bench.

    I’d vote for gay marriage were I a state assemblyman. But Scalia, Rehnquist and Thomas were right on Lawrence.

    Of course, my reading wouldn’t extend federal legislative or constitutional rights via the First Amendment to religious institutions against state action either.

    Quake Voter, let me refer you to the “Doctrine of Incorporation,” in which the individual liberties of the first eight Amendments are held to have been imposed on the states by the 14th Amendment. Robert McReynolds posted on that just a few days ago.

    http://ricochet.com/455647/rethinking-incorporation-and-limited-government/

    @robertmcreynolds

    Yes, although the Court screwed it up doctrinally by creating the nonsense of “substantive due process” to incorporate them when there was a perfectly good privileges and immunities provision in the 14th amendment which did it directly and expressly.  Another example of bad reasoning generating all sorts of unintended consequences down the road.

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  27. DrewInWisconsin Member
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    Cato Rand (View Comment):
    Having to bake a cake – complete triviality

    Being denied the right to marry – serious injustice

    You keep calling it “having to bake a cake.” You keep ignoring that the punishments meted out by courts has been far more severe than forced baking of cakes.

    I am left with the impression that you think it’s perfectly acceptable to destroy people’s businesses and lives because you want a cake. Losing your livelihood is not trivial. But it was never really about a cake, was it? It was about punishing people for thought-crimes.

    We should all be very careful about the things we demand that the government sort out for us. Freedom of association is very important in giving gay people the right to freely associate with each other. Do you really want the federal government messing around with it? Are you certain it could never be used against you?

     

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    Ed G. (View Comment):

    Cato Rand (View Comment):

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    I never said I was “locked out” of the financial system. In fact I’ve had banking and investment accounts since before I met Mr. Rand. “Locked out” is your word. But I was deprived of a wide variety financial benefits and opportunities that heterosexual couples enjoyed. That is enough.

    Actually, not all heterosexual couples enjoyed the benefits you’re referring to. Only married straights had access. Why? Just cuz? I don’t think so, but we’ve spent thousands of posts exploring why and suffice to say you still think it’s because i hate gays and there’s no other possible reasin. As I say, we lost and it’s not going to do anyone good for either of us to run into the brick wall one more time.

    On a practical point, paying taxes that others pay (including married straights) is not being deprived of financial benefits, nor is it as troublesome as punishing people for failing to act in a way we deem socially correct.

    I think this started with your suggestion that I could commingle assets with Mr. Rand before we were legally married.  And perhaps I’m just more familiar with tax law than you, but that is simply bullocks and the reason is that our marriage was not recognized for federal tax purposes.  As a couple who is not legally married, any commingling constituted a taxable gift from one to the other (in excess of a threshold that was $12-14K/yr. in the relevant time period).  Married couples are not subject to that tax.  They can commingle to their heart’s content without gift tax.

    So we’re not talking about a tax that married straights pay.  We’re talking about a tax that married straights (and now married gays) do not pay, but that unmarried couples (straight or gay) always did and do.  By refusing to recognize our marriage (a marriage that was legally entered into in Canada), I was forced to pay it (and try to report it honestly which is a whole other nightmare).

    That tax exemption for married couples is in fact an example of a financial benefit I was deprived of until our marriage was legally recognized, and in our particular circumstances, it was not insignificant, as I was the breadwinner in our household for many years, even putting Mr. Rand through graduate school.  I could not support us without making “gifts” to him that were taxable to me but which would not have been if we were legally married.

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  29. Cato Rand Inactive
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    Ed G. (View Comment):

    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    Ed G. (View Comment):

    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    Ed G. (View Comment):

    Cato Rand (View Comment):

    ….

    Try commingling assets with a non spouse. Try leaving an estate to a non spouse. We’ve already discussed hospital visitations and medical decisions on this thread. Try getting a non spouses survivot SSI. Or family health insurance. Marriage matters. Our whole legal and financial and health infrastructure recognizes it. Being deprived of access to all of that makes being forced to bake a cake look like a complete triviality.

    Cato, people own property jointly all the time, and estate law ain’t new. You can leave your estate to whomever you please.

    Ed, meet Mr. gift and estate tax. Mr. gift and estate tax, this is Ed.

    Agreed 100 %. Eliminating estate and gift tax would have been both better and easier.

    Well there’s something we could, and can, agree on. But that is not the entirety of the issue. It is simply the reason that your claim that we could freely commingle assets was patently wrong.

    It’s not patently wrong. You can commingle assets then and now. People do it all the time. Joint bank accounts, joint ownership of property.

    You’re not an accountant, are you?

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  30. Cato Rand Inactive
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    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):

    Cato Rand (View Comment):
    Having to bake a cake – complete triviality

    Being denied the right to marry – serious injustice

    You keep calling it “having to bake a cake.” You keep ignoring that the punishments meted out by courts has been far more severe than forced baking of cakes.

    I am left with the impression that you think it’s perfectly acceptable to destroy people’s businesses and lives because you want a cake. Losing your livelihood is not trivial. But it was never really about a cake, was it? It was about punishing people for thought-crimes.

    We should all be very careful about the things we demand that the government sort out for us. Freedom of association is very important in giving gay people the right to freely associate with each other. Do you really want the federal government messing around with it? Are you certain it could never be used against you?

    No, I actually don’t think it’s ok to destroy people’s businesses over this.  I understand there’s a principle at stake and frankly, I just don’t want a government that’s so intrusive it can tell you who to bake for.  I still think it’s possible to see differences in magnitude where injustices are concerned.  I think it’s an injustice that I have to take my shoes off to get on an airplane.  I might even be able to make a Fourth Amendment argument against it.  But I take my shoes off anyway because it’s not putting Jews in boxcars, it’s taking my shoes off.  Both are bad.  One is worse than the other.

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