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So Now They’re Queer, Too
Bill deBlasio and Chirlane McCray are separating. From each other, that is, except they really aren’t. According to the interview they requested from the New York Times (who naturally and with alacrity responded to their summons), they will still be together, an undivorced but adulterous pair of sexegenarian empty-nesters dwelling as always in their Park Slope townhome. Bill will still be a straight white man and Chirlane will still be a black lesbian, and of course, they love each other as much as ever. And they will still be mindfully co-parenting their grown children. It’s just that they’ll be dating other people at the same time.
Why are Bill and Chirlane telling us this?
Doesn’t it seem peculiar? And unnecessary? Frankly, I don’t see why even their own offspring need to know about their intimate arrangements, nor their relatives, friends, colleagues, business associates, fellow gym rats. There isn’t even a new address to send the Christmas cards.
One possible answer is that one or both — and my money is on Chirlane, who in the pix finally looks gay in both senses of the word — is hoping the interview will provide a head start on the search for Ms. Somewhat-Better to spend her next sixty-eight years with? Some ideal, Times-reading lesbian will be inspired to arrange a Meet Cute at the Brooklyn dog park Chirlane says is her favorite?
But then the real answer came to me: Bill and Chirlane are coming out. They’re claiming their stripe on dizzy-making test-pattern of a Pride flag. Adulterers, out and proud, the stripe the color of a cuckold’s tears: We’re here! We’re Queer!
But isn’t everyone? Seriously, given all the variations on sexual desire now claimed as identities (as opposed to kinks, fetishes, or just inclinations) it’s a wonder to me that only 40% of Brown University students say they’re LGBTQ. That “Q” turns out to be a huge freakin’ umbrella, and you don’t have to be a freak to find shelter beneath it.
For instance: In an American Mind essay, Spencer Klavan writes that, along with all the other totes-legit “queer ” sexualities that can be proclaimed and must be celebrated, a person can be “demisexual.” One of innumerable variants of asexuality, there is even a special pride day just for persons who experience sexual attraction only under certain conditions, generally those marked by emotional intimacy. (April 6th. I’ve marked my calendar.)
According to a 2020 study from the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, “asexuality is not synonymous with a lack of sexual attraction, sexual behavior, or intimate relationships.” About half of the asexuals surveyed have sex, and just over half of them (59%) are in an intimate romantic relationship—about the same percentage as lesbians and gays.
But the study’s most interesting conclusion is this: “an overwhelming majority of asexuals were assigned female at birth (86%).” …Which makes sense because, the more descriptions you read of asexuality and demisexuality, the more they just kind of start to sound like a normal female sex drive.”
So if they feel like it — and obviously, quite a few of them do — ordinary, heterosexual women who are (or were, or want to be) married to men can go ahead and dye their hair blue, march in the Pride parade waving signs and shouting defiant slogans.
So why can’t ordinary, bored, wealthy, socialist, aging lesbian egoists and their destructively incompetent egoist husbands decide that their private sin, grief, mess, and failure is ack-shully something to be Proud of? Something worth calling the New York Times about?
Adulterers… emotional abusers…public onanists…co-dependent enablers of alcoholics…wholly-self-involved attention-seekers…whatever Woody Allen is… if you have no sense of shame or decency, are incredibly selfish but not easily bored, this is your golden age!
Published in No Dumb Questions
I’ve seen this movie before, but at least the deBlasio and McCray waited until the kids were fully grown.
https://educate-yourself.org/cn/kathleenwynnefamilydestruction28feb15.shtml
Eh, I assume it’s because Bill (and to some extent his sort-of ex) are public figures. They probably want to head off articles like, “DeBlasio’s cheating on Charlene” and vice-versa.
Gee Bill, were there any warning signs?
And owning a bit of the flag doesn’t hurt.
“The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.”
So they’re going to cheat on each other, but they’re both OK with that, apparently. And they’re still going to call it “marriage.”
No surprise, right. We’re living in Sodom & Gomorrah, and most people seem to be celebrating it.
Yeah, you’ve got it right Jerry. Of course, my pointing out that they’re likely trying to control the story doesn’t mean I approve. (NB: I don’t.)
It is all so tiresome. Who cares what those two fools do?
I guess what they don’t realize is that announcing themselves as some flavor of El-Jibbity isn’t the shock and awe it once was. Now that everyone’s doing it, it’s boring.
If they really wanted people to talk, they should have come out as completely and exclusively heterosexual. Because that’s so . . . weird.
Nobody this old should be talking about their sex lives in public, especially not in front of their children.
Also:
This is hilarious. And now it’s official. Gay people have entered the longhouse.
We thought it (the publicity) was because the money spigot to chirlane was turned off. She has not need for him but can’t afford to lose assets in a divorce. she’s trolling for a new gig. He’s just yuck.
added: and I wouldn’t take a bet that she was faithful up til now in any case.
Yeah, putting out a press release to let everyone know about your plans to commit adultery . . . there really is no shame for some people.
Chirlane McCray comes out as Trad Wife, voluntarily gives up franchise because that’s Bill’s responsibility….
Honestly? I think the reason is simple, and that it has nothing to do with their concern for what the rest of us think or might think in response to their actions.
They don’t care about what the rest of us think.
They are both narcissistic fools, and it is inconceivable (in every sense of the word) to the two of them that we-all cannot but be fascinated by their recounting of their every whim, from the familial, to the political, to the sexual. And so they’re sharing their secrets with us for the sole reason that we can be grateful that they did so.
Ugh.
Count me out.
I really could not care less.
I’m thinking KJP may need another gig soon…
Just remember, you brought it up! :-)
Drew nailed it. Just look at social media today. Everybody has to post everything about themselves to the world. Everybody’s a narcissist.
Good post, Kate, but I wish I could unread it.
It’s enough to make your head spin. I have no idea what any of that deviant sexuality means. Demisexual??? What is that? I have no idea why De Blasio and his wife broke up.
Actually they didn’t break up. They have made an agreement to allow each other adulteries.
Wonder no more:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demisexuality
I had to look it up, it’s quite tame.
Tedious individuals that have intellects a mile wide and an inch deep. Two individuals who should be avoided for medical reasons. You’ll get a hernia from trying to hold up their end of any conversation on any subject.
Well, she at least, and perhaps both of them, should be behind bars already for that disappearing homeless/mental-health money.
Primary? Secondary? I am from a different generation.
It’s the alphabet people’s fancy name for “normal”.
They couldn’t socially transition to the opposite sex because she already has and a dress and heels really wouldn’t suit him — even for the status building effect.
I believe this is why. If you can’t be a victim of something, at least be a member of the alphabet people and unlike those icky conservative traditionalists.
Attention whores. Their kids should hold an intervention before they end up like Meghan and Harry.
Sigh. Everyone has their cross to bear I guess.
That’s the thing. They don’t. Not this sort of cross, anyway. My guess is that married people make all sorts of accommodations that I would consider unacceptable if I knew about it, but I don’t know. Which is just fine.
And these people are in their freakin’ sixties! Aren’t they too old for public displays of licentiousness? Once a person has wattles, he or she should really go for a mien of dignified reticence.
Everybody has something, but I’m inclined to agree that this isn’t it.
Rather than open one’s mouth and confirm it? Indeed.
Frankly, If I were married to her, I would have asked for an open marriage waaaaaaay long time ago. Or maybe not married her, her being a lesbian and all that.