There’s a Hole in My Bucket (List)

 

‘Twas Burns that said of mice and men,
Two hundred years ago
The best-laid schemes gang aft agley, a
Truth so wretch’d, bless’d be
To twist the tack of life we plow!

Truth be told, I don’t have a bucket list. It’s not that I don’t believe in having goals or aspirations or hopes for certain experiences. It’s just that over time (and reinforced by those annoying disruptions and intrusions of “real life”), I’ve learned that life has a way of upsetting “the best laid plans o’ mice and men.” The more detailed the plan, the more likely events conspire to undermine the effort. My mantra, if I have one, is to find ways to adapt, to keep moving and avoid the trap that leads to paralysis when life takes a hard unexpected turn. It’s a difficult trap to avoid for those of us who don’t get along with the idea of “change.”

That said, I’m older now. The proverbial nest is empty (for now), and I find myself thinking about things I’d like to do before I kick that so-called bucket. Really, it’s more about finding things to do that I enjoy, or want to achieve, now that the primary child-rearing years are over. I’m a fairly milquetoast fella, and I lack both the imagination and impulse to climb ridiculously high mountains, jump out of airplanes, or get launched into suborbital trajectories. But there are a few things I’d like to do:

  1. Write and publish a book
  2. Take a vacation on train lines throughout the Great Northwest
  3. Serve/teach in a meaningful Christian ministry
  4. Experience being a granddad (kind of outside my control, but a wish nonetheless)
  5. Buy a small cabin on a lake (private dock, canoe, small boat with an outboard)
  6. Attend the launch of a manned space vehicle (I missed out on a shuttle launch due to mission scrub)

I’m sure I could come up with more, but they’d simply be a list of various trips I want to take, or places I want to see (or see again).

So, if you are willing, indulge me. Forget COVID. Forget the headlines of the day. Cast off things that hinder. What’s on your bucket list? (Just know that if you have good ones, I reserve the right to appropriate them for my own purposes. I’m crowd-sourcing ideas for my own bucket. Hey, I can do that, right?)

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  1. Jimmy Carter Member
    Jimmy Carter
    @JimmyCarter

    Yeah, I’ve always wanted to train travel across Australia.

     

    But now that I can, I don’t want to.

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  2. Arahant Member
    Arahant
    @Arahant

    I don’t have a bucket list. I’m not even sure I have a bucket.

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  3. Lawst N. Thawt Coolidge
    Lawst N. Thawt
    @LawstNThawt

    I have no bucket list for the same reason you mentioned.  There’s also not much I would be inclined to do.  But in the spirit of the quest, I’ll offer a few ideas.

    Flying around the world in an airship as a passenger.

    Visiting the North Pole and the South Pole.

    Sailing around the world on an aircraft carrier as a passenger. (I have a fear of ruthless pirates on the high seas.)

    Finishing out life as a pirate in the spirit of Robin of the Hood.  (I would only relieve rich politicians of their already stolen goods.)

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  4. Jimmy Carter Member
    Jimmy Carter
    @JimmyCarter

    Lawst N. Thawt (View Comment):
    Sailing around the world on an aircraft carrier as a passenger. (I have a fear of ruthless pirates on the high seas.)

    Rob Long road on a container ship.

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  5. She Reagan
    She
    @She

    I would like to travel across Europe on the Orient Express.  No need for the murder.

    I’d like to go to Newfoundland.

    I once thought I’d like to go to New Zealand, but I’m rethinking that one in light of recent events…

    And then there’s what I’ve always thought of as a dream cruise (I love the water), which is a lovely cabin with a small porch/view of the ocean, a well-stocked bar, and luxurious amenities, and thrice-daily room service of delicious meals thrust through the door, and absolutely no requirement that I leave and mingle with the other guests, or dress for dinner, or ever take my pajamas off if I don’t want to, but an understanding that I’d stay in my cabin the whole time, reading and knitting to my heart’s content.  I think a week or ten days like that would be delightful.

    I’d also like to sail on a tall ship.

     

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  6. Percival Thatcher
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    @Percival

    She (View Comment):
    I would like to travel across Europe on the Orient Express.  No need for the murder.

    Awww … I was looking forward to that part.

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  7. HankRhody Freelance Philosopher Contributor
    HankRhody Freelance Philosopher
    @HankRhody

    Jimmy Carter (View Comment):
    Yeah, I’ve always wanted to train travel across Australia.

    Me too man; me too.

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  8. Arahant Member
    Arahant
    @Arahant

    Percival (View Comment):

    She (View Comment):
    I would like to travel across Europe on the Orient Express. No need for the murder.

    Awww … I was looking forward to that part.

    There’s always someone who would not be missed. I have him on my list.

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  9. Django Member
    Django
    @Django

    I didn’t have a bucket list, but I had a few plans. Not a single one worked out, but the things that happened instead were actually better than what I had planned. 

    Now as an old man, I still don’t have a bucket list, but my [redacted] it list has grown considerably. 

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  10. Ansonia Member
    Ansonia
    @Ansonia

    I’d like my husband to stay away all day for about 3 weeks while I do some things around the house without input or interruption.

    I’d like to read about 100 books and write one.

    I want an upstairs, screened-in porch—-no glass, just big squares of screens—so I can look out at the field and trees of the property next door to us while having a cigarette and wine or coffee.

    I want to ride a special bike I saw advertised over the empty roads in the fall where my mother in law has a beach house, especially at sunset.

    I want to go back to Harper’s Ferry, see Mount Vernon again and/or see the Alamo with my husband, children and their spouses and grandchildren. I’d also like to go to Ireland or Italy with the same company by boat.

    I’d love for my son and favorite nephew to meet. I’d also love them both to see a really good production of Macbeth.

    I want to become the type of person who always knows to keep her bucket list subject to the “Love Walks In” rule (I think that’s the title of the Van Halen song.) Meaning: I can accurately remember on my death bed that I stopped letting what I liked doing interfere with being there for people I love, especially grandchildren.

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  11. Arahant Member
    Arahant
    @Arahant

    Ansonia (View Comment):
    I’d like my husband to stay away all day for about 3 weeks while I do some things around the house without input or interruption.

    “Wouldn’t you like to go on a long fishing trip?”

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  12. Dotorimuk Coolidge
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    @Dotorimuk

    Ansonia (View Comment):

    I’d like my husband to stay away all day for about 3 weeks while I do some things around the house without input or interruption.

    I’d like to read about 100 books and write one.

    I want an upstairs, screened-in porch—-no glass, just big squares of screens—so I can look out at the field and trees of the property next door to us while having a cigarette and wine or coffee.

    I want to ride a special bike I saw advertised over the empty roads in the fall where my mother in law has a beach house, especially at sunset.

    I want to go back to Harper’s Ferry, see Mount Vernon again and/or see the Alamo with my husband, children and their spouses and grandchildren. I’d also like to go to Ireland or Italy with the same company by boat.

    I’d love for my son and favorite nephew to meet. I’d also love them both to see a really good production of Macbeth.

    I want to become the type of person who always knows to keep her bucket list subject to the “Love Walks In” rule (I think that’s the title of the Van Halen song.) Meaning: I can accurately remember on my death bed that I stopped letting what I liked doing interfere with being there for people I love, especially grandchildren.

    I think that Van Halen dude said that song is about alien abduction.

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  13. Jim Chase Member
    Jim Chase
    @JimChase

    Ansonia (View Comment):
    I want to become the type of person who always knows to keep her bucket list subject to the “Love Walks In” rule (I think that’s the title of the Van Halen song.) Meaning: I can accurately remember on my death bed that I stopped letting what I liked doing interfere with being there for people I love, especially grandchildren.

    Love the list, and especially this item here.  

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  14. RandR (RdnaR) Member
    RandR (RdnaR)
    @RandR

    Since I started ( with wife) cruising a decade + ago, I have wanted to go on a world cruise that took an entire year to complete. Pure pipe dream but I still check once in a while to see if such a thing continues to be available.

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  15. Lawst N. Thawt Coolidge
    Lawst N. Thawt
    @LawstNThawt

    Since I’ve already stretched reality which is kind of the spirit of a bucket list I thought of one more from a younger perspective:

    I always wanted to fly a Colonial Viper 

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  16. BDB Coolidge
    BDB
    @BDB

    Jim Chase: Truth be told, I don’t have a bucket list.

    Me neither, but it rhymes.

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  17. Suspira Member
    Suspira
    @Suspira

    I can just adopt your list. It’s perfect, with a couple of revisions.

    1. I’ve written two novels. The first probably will never see the light of day, but the second will go up on Amazon before year’s end.
    2. I am a grandmother, although I long for more to love.
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  18. Jim Chase Member
    Jim Chase
    @JimChase

    RandR (RdnaR) (View Comment):

    Since I started ( with wife) cruising a decade + ago, I have wanted to go on a world cruise that took an entire year to complete. Pure pipe dream but I still check once in a while to see if such a thing continues to be available.

    I owe my wife a cruise (unfortunate timing on a blown appendix).  Not interested in a world cruise, but giving her the cruise she’s asked for a few times over the last almost 30 years is a must-do, when we’re confident it’s doable.

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  19. Jim Chase Member
    Jim Chase
    @JimChase

    Lawst N. Thawt (View Comment):

    Since I’ve already stretched reality which is kind of the spirit of a bucket list I thought of one more from a younger perspective:

    I always wanted to fly a Colonial Viper

    There’s a kid in me that identifies very strongly with this. 

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  20. Chris Gregerson Member
    Chris Gregerson
    @ChrisGregerson

    RandR (RdnaR) (View Comment):

    Since I started ( with wife) cruising a decade + ago, I have wanted to go on a world cruise that took an entire year to complete. Pure pipe dream but I still check once in a while to see if such a thing continues to be available.

    Me too. In the grandest cabin on the ship. One that costs as much as a moderate house.

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  21. Brian Scarborough Coolidge
    Brian Scarborough
    @Teeger

    Numbers 3, 4 and 5 sound great to me, but I have a reason that I don’t have a bucket list. It’s God’s promise of a new earth where I will live forever. It will be far better than anything I experience here. I don’t feel the need to get in all the wonderful experiences I could have in this present life. That means I can focus on fulfilling God’s will for me in serving others and not be so concerned about self-actualization.

     

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  22. Ansonia Member
    Ansonia
    @Ansonia

    Re # 17, 

    Suspira,

    Would you please supply a link to your novel that’s going up on Amazon, if there is one ?

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  23. Suspira Member
    Suspira
    @Suspira

    Ansonia (View Comment):

    Re # 17,

    Suspira,

    Would you please supply a link to your novel that’s going up on Amazon, if there is one ?

    I will be happy to! It’s in the final editing stage, so it will be a few more weeks before it goes up. Is there a proper place on Ricochet for that sort of self-promotion? 

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  24. Judge Mental Member
    Judge Mental
    @JudgeMental

    Suspira (View Comment):

    Ansonia (View Comment):

    Re # 17,

    Suspira,

    Would you please supply a link to your novel that’s going up on Amazon, if there is one ?

    I will be happy to! It’s in the final editing stage, so it will be a few more weeks before it goes up. Is there a proper place on Ricochet for that sort of self-promotion?

    Just write a post, same as others have done.

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  25. Arahant Member
    Arahant
    @Arahant

    Judge Mental (View Comment):

    Suspira (View Comment):

    Ansonia (View Comment):

    Re # 17,

    Suspira,

    Would you please supply a link to your novel that’s going up on Amazon, if there is one ?

    I will be happy to! It’s in the final editing stage, so it will be a few more weeks before it goes up. Is there a proper place on Ricochet for that sort of self-promotion?

    Just write a post, same as others have done.

    Or get someone to read and review it.

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  26. navyjag Coolidge
    navyjag
    @navyjag

    Good one Jim. I only have one although your No. 2 was tempting. Visit 20 college football stadiums for games in the fall.  Hope I can do it in 3 years.  Since OU going to the SEC, where about half of them are, might be doable and friends at 3 of those stadiums will have tickets for me. Just have to retire and escape San Fran first. Was lucky enough to do the carrier trip 50 years ago and saw plenty of N. Zealand and Australia so no real travel needs. Just football.  Too lazy to learn a new language. 

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  27. Jim Chase Member
    Jim Chase
    @JimChase

    navyjag (View Comment):

    Good one Jim. I only have one although your No. 2 was tempting. Visit 20 college football stadiums for games in the fall. Hope I can do it in 3 years. Since OU going to the SEC, where about half of them are, might be doable and friends at 3 of those stadiums will have tickets for me. Just have to retire and escape San Fran first. Was lucky enough to do the carrier trip 50 years ago and saw plenty of N. Zealand and Australia so no real travel needs. Just football. Too lazy to learn a new language.

    Good call.  As an alum of Auburn (and member of the marching band – in fact, I’m heading down there this weekend for alumni band), I’ve seen games at Auburn, Alabama, Tennessee, Vandy, Georgia, Florida, Mississippi State, and LSU.  Never made it to Kentucky or Ole Miss.

    Arkansas and South Carolina joined the league in 1992, toward the end of my time there, so I missed those.  Likewise with Texas A&M and Missouri, not surprisingly.  Of these, I’d most like to see a game in College Station sometime.  No interest in seeing the Longhorns, and while I look forward to games against OU, not sure I’d be that excited about a trip to Norman, to be honest.

    Outside of the SEC, I’d have liked to catch games at Penn State, Clemson, and ND.  And while I’m sure there’s much to be said about Ohio State or Michigan, I really have no interest in either one.

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