How Many of You are Married?
There is a general concern about the future of marriage in the conservative universe.
In my experience, the rhetoric doesn't always follow the actions. One of my staunchest conservative friends is single and almost 50, and has never been married. Many of my very conservative girl friends have either never married or are divorced. Some are even single mothers.
So, despite all the glory of marriage and the doom and gloom talk, is it just gays and polygamists killing marriages? Who is preventing my 50-year-old conservative friend from getting married? Why are so many of my churchgoing, Republican-voting girl friends not married?
Almost everyone in India gets and stays married. Why aren't they all registered Republicans?
So, I'd like to know a few things of the Ricochetti:
- Are you married?
For those who are married:
- How old were you when you got married?
- Is it your first marriage?
- How long have you been married?
For those not:
- Why not? (didn't you hear our civilization is at risk for the lack of marriage?)
- What are you looking for?
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Mar '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married.
1. 23
2. First Marriage
3. 13 1/2 years
You ought to ask about children too.
4 kids.
Edited on December 28, 2012 at 5:02pmMar '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married.
1. 35
2. First Marriage
3. 18 years
Edited on December 28, 2012 at 4:44pmOct '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married
1. 27
2. First Marriage
3. 24 years and a bit
Re: How Many of You are Married?
I know it doesn't match with your anecdotal experience but statistically speaking people who are married tend to vote quite differently from people who are not, particularly if you're female.
Feb '12
Re: How Many of You are Married?
While we've made it work out, I don't recommend marrying that early. I like to describe it as "marrying the right man for all the wrong reasons."
Aug '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married
1. 22
2. First Marriage (and hopefully my last)
3. 31.5 years
1 son, 22 years old
I have a conservative friend (woman) who is 52 and never married. She did, however, have a child at 16 that she gave up for adoption. My friend is kind of an independent, free-spirited, artsy type. Although she continues to try to find someone to share her life with, I do believe that she is in love with the idea of being in love but actually sharing a home together where she isn't the one making all of the decisions would be difficult for her.
Jun '12
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married (whether I will remain so is, to my considerable dismay, mostly a whim of my liberal wife who tosses the D word about on the drop of a hat).
1. 31
2. First Marriage
3. 13 1/2 years
2 kids.
Mar '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Barkha Herman:
Nope.
Barkha Herman:
Haven't met her yet.
Jul '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
I am certainly not claiming expertise based on my personal experience. However I do I know a lot more married (stable) couples who vote Democrat than Republican. Perhaps where I live is an anomaly.
Jul '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
BTW:
Me: Married, at 25, for 20 years.
Dec '10
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Widowed
I did not date for a long time because I was not over my wife. I am now dating.
I don''t know that I can describe exactly what I looking for. Maybe just somebody who can put up with me.
Nov '10
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married
at almost 21.
18 years on December 17
2 kids
Jul '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
@Barkha Herman: Should you not answer your own questions?
Sep '12
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married.
Jul '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
See comment #10 :-D
Jul '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Roberto
Barkha Herman:
Nope.
Barkha Herman:
Haven't met her yet. · 18 minutes ago
What is preventing you? Lack of the right kind of women, circumstances, or lack of trying?
Side note: should there be a Ricochet dating service?
Dec '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married
1. 23
2. Yes
3. 9.5 years
May '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Married
1. 36
2. Yes
3. 6 years
No kids.
Sep '12
Re: How Many of You are Married?
I've been married for 36 years to a wonderful man that I married at the age of 19. We have 5 amazing children and 2-plus-one-in-the-oven even more amazing grandchildren. It is harder to get married than it used to be, though, because cultural assumptions have changed. I think most young people plan to get married eventually, but think they have plenty of time and will do everything else first. It used to be that marriage was a priority, and there was a dating culture that pushed people in that direction. Couples did not assume that sex would happen as soon as they started dating, and for many it happened (imagine!) AFTER marriage. Now, even for people who want to marry, the pathway is far less clear. Sure, some people find their way there, but it's far harder to do so. Dating culture has become very odd--who asks? Who pays? If you are a person who doesn't believe in sex before marriage and want someone like-minded, how do you find out about this? The assumptions that used to carry a relationship along are sadly gone.
Mar '11
Re: How Many of You are Married?
Barkha Herman
Roberto
Barkha Herman:
Nope.
Barkha Herman:
Haven't met her yet. · 18 minutes ago
What is preventing you? Lack of the right kind of women, circumstances, or lack of trying?
Side note: should there be a Ricochet dating service? · 5 minutes ago
Largely the first. As I am presently trapped in California it is difficult to find someone who shares my values, the inmates run the asylum here and most people are perfectly fine with that.