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I saw this on another social media platform.
That entirely sums it up for me.
Why? A dear friend lost her sweetheart one day in October. Some grief counselor told her that normally, the pain starts to taper off after a year.
Over her entire life, she had been considered "abnormal" by her family. The fact that her pain did not lessen after one year, combined with the idea that once again she was not normal, may have been the reason why she killed herself one year and two weeks after her fellow's passing.
I missed any signs of her thinking about this. She was out riding her bike and to me it looked like she was once again enjoying life. How I found out about her death went like this: for several months she had been planning a huge Halloween party. So I called on Oct 25th to find out where my mailed invitation was. No answer. I then called her family and was told about her suicide.
There are deaths a person might never get over. Prior to Laura dying, I never considered that people who are grieving might go the extra mile to behave "normally" so their friends won't think the worst of them. I wish I'd known this sooner.
RIP, dear friend.
(1959 to 1993)
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So sorry for your loss Carol , especially in this way .
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Thank you Kevin.
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So sad. That is a tough part of life.
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People grieve in different ways and some feel grief much more deeply. So sad about your friend. I saw recently that story about the vibrant, talented chef with the spiked white hair who took her life just recently. She had just done a cooking event and everyone said she was on her game. Her name was Anne Burrell. I really liked her cooking show persona. I was so sad to hear this news.
I just read the book by Prince Harry called Spare. He suffered so much grief after Princess Diana died, and that trauma was carried well into adulthood and he tried to deal with it in many ways, but it didn't work. When he met Meaghan Markle who he wanted to marry, she urged him to try therapy (again) and he did. He had much more success, but I think the loss of loved ones is something we never get over as you said. We step around it.
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Isn't it ironic that suicide is so high in the richest country in the world. That holds true for many other rich countries. In the U.S. suicides outnumber homicides by 2 to 1.
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