Tag: Relationships

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It is inevitable that the decay of sentiment should be accompanied by a deterioration of human relationships, both those of the family and those of friendly association, because the passion for immediacy concentrates upon the presently advantageous. After all, there is nothing but sentiment to bind us to the very old or to the very […]

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Promoted from the Ricochet Member Feed by Editors Created with Sketch. Professional Society to Astronomers: Stop dating each other! It’s not worth the risk!

 

shutterstock_305017364The feminist reaction to sexual harassment has ended with this jaw-dropping statement from the American Astronomical Society’s executive officer. Effectively, he’s telling astronomers not to date each other. I’m not exaggerating much. He’s specifically and explicitly saying that the risk of sexual harassment is so great that you are not allowed to date anybody you meet at a conference, even if you scrupulously behave yourself:

Second, do not treat any AAS meeting or other event as a venue for finding a romantic partner. Yes, there are people at our events, and yes, people do make romantic connections, and yes, there may even be opportunities to make such connections at our events, but please, everyone, just shelve these inclinations for our conferences. Too much damage is being done. Just one negative interaction in the poster hall, at a session, in the bar during the meeting, or at a restaurant or offsite event may be all it takes to dissuade a bright young scientist from participating in our field. This is unacceptable, and it needs to stop.

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Damage is being done to relationships over the question of Trump as the Republican nominee. Peter Robinson on the Ricochet podcast said he was surprised at how many people were upset about his probably voting for Trump; Rob Long assured Peter that nothing would get in the way of their friendship. So I pose the […]

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Castalia Ohio, bike ride of Labor Day 1998 - where a War of 1812 captivity story began.Some of us on Ricochet have been wondering how to teach people to prefer the liberty of free markets to the security of socialism. Others have been lecturing us about how capitalism has made life fantastically better for humans.

Each time one of these discussions comes up, I wish people here knew more about Indian captivity narratives — the true ones, that is. These stories have been popular in North America since the late 1600s, though not always been viewed as essential knowledge.

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Yes, according to a joint study conducted by the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and the University of Texas at Austin and cited by such outlets as the Daily Mail and the Huffington Post. Today, Kathy Shaidle posted her critique of the study at Taki’s Magazine, and while she is dismissive of the study’s methodology, she […]

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Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Why Would a 43-Year-Old Man Like “Married at First Sight”

 

My wife and I don’t watch much TV. Last year we cut the cord and now use Roku and Apple TV to occasionally watch movies and shows through services like Netflix and Hulu. This past fall, missing out on NFL broadcasts, we bought the cheapest cable package just so we could get our local D.C. broadcast channels and ESPN.

The cable package comes with a handful of other channels that we never watch. This past Tuesday, after watching the one show we both love (“Jeopardy” — yes we’re nerds) I started randomly scrolling through the other channels.

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Love, if it is seeking the best for its object, involves telling hard truths. Because God exemplifies love, Scripture is full of unpleasant truths for mankind–he is born with the tendency to sin, he has acted on that nature throughout his life, and this separates him from God. Furthermore, man is helpless to remedy his […]

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As a recent conversation begun by Professor Rahe drifted insouciantly into saucy territory, I began to consider what makes a man attractive to a woman besides an awesome tux. Naturally I look to Mae West for answers, and am struck by, “Flattery will get you everywhere”. I think most women here will agree that flattery will […]

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A relative of mine has been calling me for advice. He wants to build his first AR15, and as I’ve built several he’s called several times asking about different components, budgets, specs, etc. The most important question he’s had to ask, however, was how I got my wife’s permission to not only build them, but […]

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Most women on Ricochet don’t engage in male bashing; this post is just what I would tell my daughter, if I had one, and what I would like to say to some of the young women in my life, and to all young women everywhere.

There are two kinds of male-bashing. The first is the kind that feminists engage in, in which feminists claim that masculinity is toxic, that we live in a rape culture, that The Patriarchy is oppressing women, etc. Those who engage in this kind of male bashing tend to believe that all or most men are bad. Nothing conservatives say or do will stop this first type of male bashing, but thankfully, most women don’t engage in it anyway.

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For those who read my last post and may have felt that it was overly critical of men, don’t worry: my next post will be aimed at women. But before I write that post, I want to offer an explanation for why I am writing these posts at all. I suspect that most of the Ricochetti are […]

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shutterstock_211743697My husband is an exceedingly good guy; so much so, that I am often in awe of him. A couple of years ago — when I was feeling particularly awestruck — I asked him wistfully, “How did you get to be so good?” Without hesitation, he looked me directly in the eye and said, “I’m not”. “But you are”, I said, to which he replied, “No, really, I’m not.” And at that moment, it occurred to me for the first time that my husband had never, ever claimed to be a nice guy. For the first time, I understood why I had never had any interest in men who claim to be nice. And I realized, finally, that I was not wrong for being uninterested in “nice guys”.

In no way am I suggesting that men should be jerks. There are those who will say that women prefer bad boys, and some women do, but some women prefer serial killers. But I suspect that most women would appreciate nice guys far more if the nice guys would stop talking incessantly about how nice they are.

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shutterstock_190123037In an article I recently posted about divorce, someone commented that breaking up is the best option if you’re dealing with mental illness: “While you can be legally married to someone that is mentally ill, you cannot actually be married to them. This is because marriage is a “peer” relationship and you cannot have a peer relationship with someone that is (or even claims to be) mentally ill. You are forced into a ‘caretaker’ relationship with that person. I recommend that you accept that you are divorced in fact, and get divorced legally. Then get on with the business of having a happy life.”

Setting aside any situation that involves abuse (both physical and emotional), dealing with someone who is mentally ill takes strength, courage, and longsuffering—character traits most of us don’t have in abundance. It also takes sacrifice. That is never easy. 

Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Monogamy, What is it Good For?—Frank Soto

 

I increasingly see my role on Ricochet as consuming as much of the liberal media as I can so that the rest of you don’t have to. While perusing the intellectual wastelands, I invariably come across articles that confidently assert that the way human beings have been doing something for several millennia is totally wrong.

It seems the New Republic is beginning to question this whole monogamy thing.

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