Tag: personal growth

Obsessed with Media Abuse


What does it mean to be obsessed with the media? Some of my friends have declared their liberation from following media because it is so outrageous: biased, distorting, and discouraging. They find they have become obsessed with what is happening in this country, and that obsession leads to dysfunction and unhappiness. It’s not that I don’t understand what they mean, but recently I noticed that the intensity of my own obsession is lessening, and I’m feeling just a little less stressed about the future of this country, so I thought I’d share the reasons I think I’m feeling less anxious. First, let me define my definition of being obsessed with the media:

Obsession is a compulsive preoccupation with a fixed idea or an unwanted feeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety; a compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion. In pathology, a constant brooding upon any subject, such as the thought of death, until the mind becomes dominated by that one idea.

You can decide if any or all of these definitions apply to you; at one time or another, I have to admit they still apply to me. It’s not a positive, constructive way to live one’s life. When I am in an obsessed state, everything else seems to take a backseat. So, at some level, I think I’ve made up my mind to at least spend less time in that state. Here are some of the steps I’ve taken to move me in a healthy direction:

20 Things To Do in Your Twenties

Someone I follow on Instagram posted a list of 20 things to do in your twenties. It got me thinking of my own experience and what I would encourage someone else to do. A couple of caveats are worth mentioning: I haven’t done all of these things, or at least not as much as I wish I did, looking back in hindsight. I also avoided putting in generic goals like “eat healthily” or “try new experiences.” Instead, I thought about the concrete things that someone can do that will inevitably lead to them accomplishing those goals. So, instead of “travel,” I include going to a state in a different time zone because it’s like the culture is going to be different and the experiences will change your view of the world.
What would you substitute? Give me a cut along with a replacement. I have a feeling we’re going to see some interesting edits.
1. Get out and stay out of debt
2. Build an emergency fund of $15,000
3. Open a Roth IRA
4. Become fluent in a foreign language
5. Read at least 12 books a year, 1 per month
6. Go on a camping trip for at least 1 week
7. Read the Bible in one year
8. Travel to a state in a different time zone
9. Travel to a foreign country
10. Change a dozen diapers
11. Practice public speaking
12. Read a piece of ancient literature
13. Master a musical instrument
14. Ride a sailboat
15. Fly in a GA (general aviation) aircraft
16. Go to the range
17. Find a mentor
18. Go on a spontaneous road trip, or do a cross-country road trip
19. Train for a (half) marathon
20. Volunteer to help kids and/or the elderly

In a special holiday edition of 10 Blocks, Timothy Goeglein joins City Journal assistant editor Charles McElwee to discuss how people of faith can help renew American society—themes explored in his new book, American Restoration: How Faith, Family, and Personal Sacrifice Can Heal Our Nation.

Coauthored with Craig Osten, American Restoration calls for a revival of spiritual values in America and offers a roadmap for people of faith to engage with our modern culture—especially at the local level.

Happiness Amnesia


Why do we daily forget what makes us happy - and unhappy?Sometimes I like to imagine a little bell going off in my ear when I’m about to do something I sense will make me less happy. In my mind, the bell doesn’t generally ring before momentous decisions such as weighing whether to quit a job or drop out of college: those decisions are usually accompanied by an extensive weighing of the pros and cons. Instead, this little bell I imagine goes off whenever we have to make one of the countless sundry decisions of life, particularly when our eyes or tastebuds are preoccupied with getting what they want: A Cuervo golden margarita the size of my head? Bell rings. A cool-looking pair of overpriced sneakers I don’t need and can’t afford? Bell rings. A meaningless, soon-to-be-forgotten, one-off affair with a beautiful woman trying to seduce me thousands of miles from home?

In other words, the bell would ring more often than you expect – and perhaps more often. 

As the internet wisely points out, getting drunk is like borrowing happiness from tomorrow. Each day we must make decisions pertaining to everything from what we eat to whom we associate with – and these decisions and countless others impact our happiness.

Winning With A Bad Hand


I was consulting with a neurologist regarding the recent difficulties I’d been having with my right arm. It had, quite suddenly, stopped doing what my brain told it to do, at least when I told it to toss something underhanded, as when playing horseshoes or juggling. Instead, my hand would pronate or rotate counterclockwise, ultimately hitting me in the rib cage if I fought hard enough against it. 

The neurologist tried to reassure me that the problem manifests itself quite subtlely and that if I weren’t a professional juggler I probably wouldn’t even notice it. 

Melissa Monte is a mindfulness coach, certified yoga teacher and reiki healer. She and Bridget reminisce about how they met on a party bus of 40 women heading to Vegas and reflect on surviving a series of rock bottoms from sexual assaults to eating disorders, to the loss of loved ones. Melissa shares her insights into why trying to fix a terrible relationship was a way of trying to prove her own self-worth, the felony charge that path led her to, and the fact that you can’t cushion somebody’s rock bottom without going down with them. Melissa and Bridget discuss why they’re both so grateful for the twists and turns in their lives that knocked them off their straight & narrow paths in their youths, how it led them to the journeys of self-discovery they’ve been on, the amazing things that life experience can teach you, and retraining negative thought loops. Melissa explains the importance of understanding that the message you’re bringing to the world is not going to be for everybody and that what matters is the people you’re connecting with. Check out her podcast Mind Love, in which she discusses mindset shifts, energy frequencies and modern mindfulness. She pursues her passion of helping people become their best selves on her website mindlove.com.

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