Tag: Men

Restoring the Patriarchy?

 

I think it would be a good idea. Oh, not the legal aspects of it: with two narrow exceptions, I think men and women should be treated the same under the law. Rather, I think we should restore the cultural aspect of patriarchy, the idea that the father has a special authority and a special responsibility within the home, and that men, in general, have special obligations within society.

Men are, in general, more powerful (by which I mean more powerful than women; all the comparatives here refer to men relative to women because there are only two kinds, male and female). Men do most of the creating and most of the destroying, impose most of the structure, cause most of the mayhem. Men are the principal actors in society by virtue of their greater drive and aggression and strength, their lesser interest in people, their greater interest in things and in the manipulation and control of things.

Biology made us that way. We don’t have to like it, but not liking it doesn’t make it untrue.

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Yes, it is too early for a post on the Indy 500. Still, come and sit a while. Pour yourself a tall, cool glass of milk and let’s have a family discussion, shall we? Here in the Land of Lincoln we are becoming accustomed to our new Governor and all sorts of new legislative initiatives. […]

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Scully Doesn’t Care: Why Men Loved ‘The X Files’

 

“You disparage Scully?”
“Who?” my wife asked.
“Gillian Anderson, she was Scully on The X Files,” I said.
“You mean that gross show?”

My wife is not wrong, “The X Files” was often gross. In fact, it was downright disturbing at times. In retrospect, it was also pretty badly produced, often poorly acted, and occasionally made no sense. None of that matters to me. I’m sentimental about “The X Files” and it has nothing to do with the quality of the show. It holds a special place in my heart because, despite its flaws, it was always there for me.

It may or may not surprise you, but I was kind of a dork in high school. I wasn’t smart enough to be an academic nerd, or geeky enough to be a comic-book nerd; I was more like 50 percent dork. I played some team sports, but I also founded a photography quartet called The Phototards. I had a few girlfriends but never attended a homecoming or prom. Some weeks I went out on Friday night, but on others I found myself sitting alone in my room with nothing to do. It was on those nights, friends, that “The X Files” came to the rescue.

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           Leading men and women is interesting and challenging and I can’t wait to tell you about my experience.  First let me get to some ground rules.  I am a Christians and all the leadership roles I have been in or religious in character.  Second while some things are generally true about men and women […]

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Yes. Liberty University, in its first appearance at the Big Dance, won it’s first NCAA tournament game. Simply making it into the tournament is an accomplishment for a basketball program—a well-compensated accomplishment at that. Did the Liberty Flames just torch your backet?  I offer this post as a Round of 64 thread/comment aggregator. Did your favorite […]

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The Men’s and Women’s March

 

You mean you haven’t heard of the Men’s and Women’s March? You must have been living in a cave! Or you suddenly realize that no one has ever thought to organize such an exciting and significant event. And that it’s long overdue.

One notable freedom we have in this country is the freedom of assembly, which includes marches and protests. We have many of them, large and small, sometimes one-time events, sometimes annual demonstrations. To get a sampling, go here. We tend to see mostly Leftist demonstrations (notably the Right to Life is an exception), whose values mostly conflict with the values of the Right. So I propose it’s time to have a march that speaks to the men and women of this country, their traditional views and values.

A Tribute to Earl

 

What does it mean to be a man? It occurred to me this morning that my friend Earl is the epitome of what we want in a man, what we should expect from a man, and I’m proud and honored that he is my friend.

I’ve written about Earl before on Ricochet. He is a tall, lean black man, a Progressive and one of the kindest and most self-reflective persons I know. He is also 86 years old, declining from a multitude of health conditions including early Alzheimer’s. He loves to discuss ideas and ask deep questions; I would often ask him what he thought the answers were to his questions, because I knew at some level he had his own heartfelt, often profound answers.

It’s Scold Season

 

“In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honour and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.” — C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man

The recent ad by the Gillette razor company telling us men to be more like what the people at Gillette think we should be has certainly sparked debate. However, what’s missing from that advertisement (and most of the conversation it has created) is any information or guidance as to how men can learn to act like the honorable, forthright, compassionate, and brave leaders we should be (and occasionally are).

Saving Our Gun Rights Means Saving People From Suicide

 

We’ve known for years now that the problem with gun deaths in America isn’t street gangs and other criminals, it’s the thousands of people who commit suicide with a firearm each year. This horror is affecting men (especially men who live in small, rural towns) to a much greater extent than it is women. But rather than reach out to men and channel their feelings of frustration and impotence into more positive, traditional ways, the American Psychological Association says the real problem is they’re acting like men. 

“Traditional masculinity ideology has been shown to limit males’ psychological development, constrain their behavior, result in gender role strain and gender role conflict and negatively influence mental health and physical health... Researchers led by James Mahalik, PhD, of Boston College, found that the more men conformed to masculine norms, the more likely they were to consider as normal risky health behaviors such as heavy drinking, using tobacco and avoiding vegetables, and to engage in these risky behaviors themselves.”

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as identified by their chromosomes & DNA, want to become them?  I mean, go through the hormone treatments, the counseling (I assume there is counseling?), the surgery—all of it.  After they do that, will they be men?  Will they be as strong as men who were ‘born that way’?  Men are wonderful beings—been married to […]

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We heard a lot of talk about “pajama boy”, and how the concept of manliness is under attack. I’ve read stories of honeymooners diving the ocean, and how one newlywed husband looses his life defending his bride against a shark attack.  I’ve read other stories of men rising to the occasion, especially with the 9/11 […]

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Are Turkmen men? Without ever having got to close to one, I nevertheless confidently assert about 50% of them are. But we’ve all wondered, I am sure. I got to thinking again about this, as I’ve been watching Turkish TV. My listening comprehension is going nowhere, but I can at least read the credits, which […]

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Can Feminists Cure What Ails Men?

 

“Boys need feminists’ help too,” declares Feministing.com founder Jessica Valenti. Writing in the New York Times, Valenti worries that women are “protest[ing], run[ning] for office, and embrac[ing] the movement for gender equality in record numbers, [while] a generation of mostly white men are being radicalized into believing that their problems stem from women’s progress.”

Valenti cites the “manosphere,” the network of websites that peddle misogyny, and she’s right that it is disturbing. But Valenti undermines her case by citing the popularity of Jordan Peterson as more evidence of woman hatred. On the contrary, Valenti and other feminists would do well to remove their women-centric blinders and examine the situation of young men more sympathetically.

Valenti imagines that girls are doing great because when the mainstream culture gets them down, they can always repair to “feminist blogs and magazines” while “female college students who have critical questions about how gender shapes their lives can take women’s studies courses.” Actually, it’s very much an open question as to whether feminist interpretations of life make women happier. In my new book, Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense, I argue that in many respects it has made them less happy. Certainly, polls such as the General Social Survey suggest that women have become steadily less happy every year since 1972.

The Love of Dangerous Things

 

There’s talk – silly, absurd talk – of banning the private ownership of cars. Molon labe, baby! You can have my Yukon, my three-ton id, when you pry it from my cold dead hands. And you can forget the self-driving nonsense, too: up here where I live, you can’t see the lines on the road four months out of the year on account of the blowing snow. Good luck dealing with that, Google.

Ayn Rand, in one of her two major works of fiction (I’m going to go with Atlas Shrugged, but someone correct me if I’m wrong – it’s been almost 40 years since I read it) has her heroine wax rhapsodic (as if there’s any other way to wax) about the act of smoking. Dagney (or possibly Dominique) marvels at the flame held in obeisance inches from her, the spark of destruction so casually lashed into service for the pleasure of mankind. Never having been a smoker, and coming of age as I did during the first great anti-smoking crusades of the ’70s, I admit that the imagery was less compelling for me than it might have been for someone of my parents’ generation. But Dagney’s ruminations have remained with me, an oddly vivid example of our peculiar attraction to dangerous things – and to mastering them.

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With all the men being taken down by past exploits caused by their sexual drive (rightly so in all too many cases) I started to look for symmetry in this situation. While I believe that men and women are different in many ways I have never thought women were morally superior to men. It is […]

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This was written as a response to this article by Rod Dreher: http://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/failsons-and-the-women-who-love-them Given that it turned into more of an essay (or a long rant) then a comment, I figured I’d post it here. Apologies in advance…actually no. No apologies.  Preview Open

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Author’s note: I sincerely hope that what I’ve written below is not a new thought. Because if it is, we are in much worse trouble than I already believe us to be. Yes, I could do a simple internet search to find out what else has been written on this concept, but I like to […]

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With Trump’s Inauguration up front, and his remarkable campaign behind, here’s a recent conversation I had on the relationship between male sexual function, confidence, and energy, with Dr. John Crisler, a leading practitioner in the field of testosterone replacement therapy. At 58, Dr. Crisler credits “perfectly tuned” hormones for helping him retain his remarkable physical […]

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