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Coleman Hughs, a young man still in the process of finishing his undergraduate degree at Columbia, has written another fine piece for Quillette, this one entitled “A Case for Black Optimism.” I sent the link around to the small number of friends with whom I’ve been having intermittent conversations in person and via e-mail re: […]

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Man and Woman at the Dawn of the Electric

 

Much of the sound of both “popular” and “country” music today comes from the partnership of a man and woman in the early 1950s. While Les Paul was the technical innovator, he wisely partnered with Mary Ford to record and broadcast the culmination of his innovations as beautiful music. Their performances and the public’s enthusiastic reaction, were the greatest sales pitch in the world for a new generation of musicians to adopt the guitar technology and recording and voice microphone techniques. The couple’s recording and touring career was eventually a victim of their success, as other performers took their innovations and carried them further, but their records and television show performances, preserved on video recordings, still please modern ears.

A statement about Les Paul and Mary Ford on the Les Paul website, seems boastful, but is demonstrably true:

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Men, Women, and Emotions

 

Knowing that men and women are different does not prevent me from taking issue with the simplistic contrasts floating around in our culture: women share their trials to vent, while men want to fix things; men are task-oriented, while women are people-oriented; men talk to give information, while women gab to feel connected. Both sexes laughingly accept these descriptions, but I think further examination warrants refinement of our understanding. Even when there is a degree of truth in distinguishing between men and women this way, clinging too firmly to rough categories can prevent us from truly understanding one another. Also—dare I say it—sometimes descriptions like this give mature, capable women far too little credit.

Take, for example, the cultural idea that women are emotional creatures, while men are more likely to operate from logic. At first glance, this makes sense. When we draw conclusions from what we observe, we often see women more vulnerable to tears, expressions of affection, and talk about true feelings. In latter years, we’ve been more open about discussing how hormones can affect women’s behavior. On the other hand, we often see men thriving in careers that demand cool logic—programming, engineering, architecture. Men like facts, as opposed to emphasizing feelings.

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Caught in a Woke Romance

 

“May I hold your hand?”

He’d been going with her for a couple of months now, but familiarity doesn’t imply consent, and so he was as usual careful to ask her permission before initiating any sort of intimate contact. For a brief moment, he felt the old relief that she chose to go with the conventional pronouns, but he manfully shoved aside such a transphobic thought.

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Yes, indeed, folks we have spotted two opportunities to get out and splash in the puddles without a raincoat in April’s monthly theme. Our radar shows the 27th remaining clear, for now. And look over here: the 16th just unexpectedly cleared. Men and women, boys and girls, Wilkomme, bienvenue, welcome! For April, our theme is “Men and Women.” Just write a short […]

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Group Writing: Mary and Me

 

I was jogging early one morning on a path through the woods in Eugene, Oregon, when Mary Decker came jogging toward me. Mary’s glory days were over, but she still ran with the smooth and efficient stride that helped her become the world’s best female mid-distance runner in the 1980s.

“Morning Mary. Big fan,” I shouted as we passed one another. Eighteen years earlier, I had watched Mary gut out a 3,000 meter World Championship victory against two Soviet runners. (Go capitalists!) Having followed her career from its beginnings until she finally hung up her Nikes, I felt as if I knew Mary personally.

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For Ricochet’s Group Writers series, I offer a light diversion for those less exalted moments when depth takes a holiday. I’m writing it in the last few hours of Lent; and I’ve suddenly decided to give up political correctness for Lent. Men and Women and Social Events is no great philosophical piece, I’ll tell you […]

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Proverbs 31, the last chapter of the Old Testament Book of Proverbs, has two parts. The first is a recounting, by King Lemuel, of the wisdom imparted to him by his mother. There’s a subtext here, and it’s that men, even future kings, should always listen to Mom and heed her advice, because Mother almost […]

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For Men Only: The Secret Life of Women

 

That’s a photo of the little woman (Now don’t get all hissy. I warned you snowflakes of the female persuasion not to read this) with one of her BFFs. Marie the wife is on the left.

Marie is fairly typical of her sex, I suppose. I don’t know for certain because I don’t know many women. What women I know, I don’t quite understand, but I’m willing to tell you the little that I do know.

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While it is improbable that an infinite number of monkeys with typewriters would ever produce all the Great Books, we have good evidence that Ricochet members can produce minor masterpieces when challenged. We have 8 days open this month, so fire up those computers, tablets, brilliant phones, or go retro, typing and then OCR scanning […]

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Well, what do you call a rather odd mix of some gentle gender humor capped by the personal story of a young accountant? Yes, it’s April 15, and I’m telling an accounting story. Hopefully not too taxing, to borrow words from our illustrious thread [email protected] Double G’s: Guys and Gals and the Gender Gap More

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Group Writing Friday Food and Drink Post: Bon Appetit aux Hommes et Femmes!

 

History claims that the first “modern” restaurant was opened by one Monsieur A. Boulanger, sometime in the middle of the eighteenth century, and somewhere in Paris, where his small establishment served, mainly, soup to the middle classes. Although the tradition is robust, extensive research has never actually turned up any proof of his, or of his restaurant’s, existence, and La Grande Taverne de Londres, a much more upscale affair which opened in 1782 under the direction of Antoine Beauvilliers, is generally credited with being the first “real” modern restaurant. According to his Wikipedia entry, it catered to an aristocratic clientele, with

 tables made of mahogany, crystal chandeliers, and tablecloths of fine linen, an extensive wine cellar, and elegantly-dressed waiters. Dishes on the restaurant menu included partridge with cabbage, veal chops grilled in buttered paper, and duck with turnips. The restaurant Beauvilliers became a rendezvous of conservative political factions, in which Beauvilliers was implicated; in 1795 he was forced to close his establishment and to live away from the trade that was his life.

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Men and Women: Together in Perfect Harmony?

 

I first heard “Suzanne” on Judy Collins’ 1972 compilation album, Colors of the Day. In my youth, in the late 1970s and early 1980s, I was especially captured by the beauty of the voices of some songstresses. I remember getting to Judy Collins’ Fifth Album by way of Bob Dylan, whose songs and, shall we say vocal stylings, I appreciated.

[Fair warning, we have a few great recordings to work through here, any one of which may lead you down a rabbit hole. No, hopefully not that one! So, if you are too busy midweek, bookmark this post for your end-of-week wind-down.]

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Men and Women—Champions All

 

President Trump should promptly and publicly invite the Virginia Cavalier men and the Baylor Lady Bears together to celebrate their NCAA basketball championships. In doing so, he would set the women on the same level as the men. The Baylor Lady Bears are hardly likely to run the “resistance” game, but there will be real pressure on players in Virginia, now dominated by the Swamp, to delegitimize the president. Making it about men treating women as peers in college would confound the left’s messaging.

Two True Champions:

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A Friendly Battle of Men and Women

 

In which your itinerate correspondent stubbles onto the stage, and writes about ballet! Dance aficionados, perhaps even former corps de ballet members, are invited to pas de deux in the comments or stage a solo in reply on one of the several open days this month. Through the opening days of this month’s theme, “Men and Women,” it has variously been asserted that the relationship between the sexes is one of supremacy, of (zero-sum?) competition, or of complementarity. What follows is an illustration, perhaps an argument, of complementarity in a positive-sum competition.

On point, en pointe:

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Questions for Men and Women

 

Why do so many women and men treat woman’s fertility as a sickness? Why do so many (oh, so many) people ask a person who is pregnant if she or her husband are planning to get “fixed” after the birth of the expected child, as though her fertility is a sign something is broken?

Why are so many ob/gyn offices festooned with posters, pencils, pens, mugs, clipboards, paperweights, lights, boxes, calendars, and charts manufactured by companies that make contraceptive pharmaceuticals?

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How about it, pardner? For April, our theme is “Men and Women.” All you need do is write a short essay to start the conversation. Perhaps you could ask a question or two to get the conversation flowing? Consider some of the ways this topic could go: More

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Men and Women: The Purgatory of Marriage

 

“Marriage is neither heaven nor hell, it is simply purgatory.” — Abraham Lincoln

I don’t think President Lincoln made this comment about marriage in jest; his own marriage was challenging, to say the least. His wife, Mary, had exorbitant spending habits, extreme moodiness, and went into deep depression on the loss of her children. In some ways, Lincoln was no prize husband, either. He was also moody, moving from playful moments with his children to periods where he was distant and withdrawn.

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Men and Women and “Real Combat Arms”

 

In 2017, the United States Army rolled out a new objective physical standard test to determine eligibility for different job classifications, what the Army calls “military occupational specialties (MOS).” The four-event Occupational Physical Assessment Test (OPAT) applies to recruits and to soldiers seeking to change MOS. The test standards are not scaled for age or sex—the raw performance metric determines your physical suitability for groups of specialties. Another six-event test is being rolled out as a periodic test of physical readiness for deployment, also neutral on scoring and possibly with minimum scores per specialty. All of this intersects with the policy disputes over male-only specialties and men and women working together.

This is in compliance with the 1994 National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA). No, that is not a typo. Back in the early 1990s, there was great contention over the presence of women in traditionally male military specialties. Young officers, commissioned into Air Defense Artillery (ADA) in 1986, and trained as Patriot officers, had fired some of the first shots in anger in the first Gulf War, answering Saddam’s Scud missiles with Patriot missiles, cued by software hastily modified to detect and respond to this threat inside a limited engagement envelope.

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