Tag: Marriage

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This post is not about “marriage equality” per se. It’s about the way “marriage equality” is implemented. The title of this post is a parody of the point I would like to discuss, which is this: that the legal meaning ascribed to your marriage, as shown on your marriage certificate, quite possibly changes when your […]

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RingOnce upon a time, there was this girl who didn’t see the wall this guy had built around his heart. She didn’t see the battle scars, nor the pain, but instead she looked right through the injuries and into the guy’s very soul. And she said, “There you are! I’ve been looking for you!”

This is where we push the pause button on our story, which by the way is as factual an account as if it had descended from Mt. Sinai on a stone tablet, in order to pass along some happy news. Yesterday, surrounded by family, I knelt before a woman whom I thought only existed in my dreams, and asked her to marry me. She said yes, and quick as a flash before she had time to reconsider, I gave her a ring along with my heart, happily and eternally.

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I see statements like this a lot here, but usually only in relation to the marriage issue. I could say the same thing about other issues, such as abortion: “I don’t see how somebody else’s abortion affects me.” As another example, so far this year there have been 108 murders in Chicago. I live in […]

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If you’re brand new to this series, I recommend starting at the beginning. Prior posts: If you wouldn’t mind… Read More View Post

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-1Here in Northern California in recent days, one prominent liberal after another, including the mayor of San Francisco, Ed Lee, and the lieutenant governor of California, Gavin Newsom, have lectured the Catholic archbishop of San Francisco, Most Rev. Salvatore Cordileone, insisting that he cancel his plans to participate in the “March for Marriage” in Washington, DC later this month. Nancy Pelosi, to offer a sample of the criticism of the archbishop, denounced the “March for Marriage” as “venom masquerading as virtue.”

Now Archbishop Cordileone has replied.

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shutterstock_148021259Fred Cole suggests that conservatives and libertarians reach a compromise: get the government out of marriage. From a conservative perspective, the idea is a political long-shot with some substantive disadvantages. But there is, I believe, a conservative case — maybe even a Burkean one — for it on philosophical grounds.

Marriage is a covenant “before God and these witnesses.” A man and woman marry by committing to each other for life before God and their community; they don’t need the government to give them permission. Marriage was established by God before human government and does not intrinsically require legal recognition.

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Why this? Why now? Since I have extensively written online as Jennifer Thieme, I thought it would be prudent to formally announce that I have gone back to my maiden name: Jennifer Johnson. It also seemed like a good time to tell the story of my last names, as it is an unusual story and […]

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I’ve been inspired by two of Denise’s recent posts (Choosing Life and Is Divorce Bad for Children?). The vulnerability she shared gave me courage to share more of my story. Also, Gary and I had a very pleasant exchange recently, in which he offered an apology for misunderstanding my motives. It’s not that I needed an apology, […]

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shutterstock_144268093I’ve been meaning to put this up since Peter and James discussed it on the Ricochet podcast more than a week ago: I don’t think the controversy over gay marriage has been settled yet. Conservatives should not give up on it, and those who do may well find themselves apologetically backpedalling some years hence.

We need to remember that progressives are wrong when they suggest that culture always moves inexorably in one direction. Sometimes we flirt with stupid ideas for awhile, realize their folly, and then abandon them. Remember when open marriage was a thing? When getting divorced was best for your kids “because they won’t be happy if you’re not”? Remember Dan Quayle getting mocked for saying what is now completely conventional wisdom among liberals and conservatives alike — that single parenthood isn’t just a lifestyle choice? Social ideas and customs do shift back and forth over time. Sometimes we even learn things and make appropriate adjustments.

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shutterstock_190123037In an article I recently posted about divorce, someone commented that breaking up is the best option if you’re dealing with mental illness: “While you can be legally married to someone that is mentally ill, you cannot actually be married to them. This is because marriage is a “peer” relationship and you cannot have a peer relationship with someone that is (or even claims to be) mentally ill. You are forced into a ‘caretaker’ relationship with that person. I recommend that you accept that you are divorced in fact, and get divorced legally. Then get on with the business of having a happy life.”

Setting aside any situation that involves abuse (both physical and emotional), dealing with someone who is mentally ill takes strength, courage, and longsuffering—character traits most of us don’t have in abundance. It also takes sacrifice. That is never easy. 

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I enjoyed (maybe a little too much) listening to our married podcasters defending monogamy. I thought they’d hurt themselves climbing the moral high ground too fast. But, our fearless leaders did highlight an important point–the typical MSM have been awash in ‘alternative lifestyles’ and ‘monogamy outdated’ articles. I wondered why? I realize it’s coming up […]

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Browsing though my feed today I came across this little gem. US man finds lost mother in Amazon Tribe. Read More View Post

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You must also know that if any pope were to give priests license to enter into carnal wedlock, he himself would be damned by God with a sentence, as would be applied to someone who had committed a great sin, and who by right should have his eyes plucked out, his lips cut off, with […]

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To add something new to this imbroglio it now appears that under California law Mozilla has in all likelihood committed a crime by their actions in this affair. Under California law it is blatantly illegal to fire an employee because he has donated money to a political campaign. This rule is clearly set forth in […]

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When Brandon Eich was forced out as Mozilla CEO because he refused to recant his position against same-sex marriage, responses were all over the map. A writer at Slate actually tried to justify the termination as a good thing. Libertarian Nick Gillespie said he was “ambivalent” about Eich’s removal but that Eich’s resignation simply “shows how businesses respond to market signals.” And even conservatives weren’t rallying behind Eich on the grounds that marriage is an institution designed around sexual complementarity so much as by saying that even if he’s wrong, conscience should be protected.

They’re all wrong, I argue in “The Rise Of The Same-Sex Marriage Dissidents.” I just wanted to share it here since Ricochet has been so formative in changing my views on this topic. “I’ve evolved,” is how you say that, I guess. And I don’t evolve on much, so that’s saying something.

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A ceremony of my church includes this passage: “The union of husband and wife in heart, body, and mind is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge […]

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Here and here are links: For those of you who missed the story, it was discovered that the recently promoted CEO Eich made a $1000 contribution in 2008 supporting a ballot measure to ban gay marriage. There was a large ruckus on twitter and the internet. Eich responded. However, the damage was done. He’s resigned […]

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Former Ricochet member RJ Moeller of Hashtag Productions drew my attention to this article at Family Studies. If, like me, you thought measuring divorce rates was a simple matter, you would apparently be wrong: To oversimplify a complex story: the United States has been lousy at collecting data. Individual counties may keep pretty good track […]

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