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Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Why Marriage in America Is Wrong

 

Marriage equality has become a sticking point for many Americans, primarily from the conservative side of the spectrum. As we get closer to the point where SCOTUS could arguably settle the dispute, I have been thinking about why we have ended up with the entire argument in the first place.

The basis of the marriage equity camp’s argument is the 14th Amendment, while those opposed tend to argue on the basis of the First Amendment (even though we haven’t really gotten to the point where lawsuits are being filed to force religious organizations to recognize same-sex marriage.) Ben Carson ended up in a minor situation with the Southern Poverty Law Center over the fact that he publicly stated that gay rights organizations should not be able to define marriage. Sadly, I can’t bring myself to agree with him, at least not in the context of state recognition of marriage.

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There is an article up at The Federalist on how a husband can use woodworking as a sop for avoiding his wife during (as he puts it) a dry spell. I have to say that the whole article came across as rather alien to me. Maybe I’ve just been really lucky with my wife, but […]

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When one is young and in love, one does silly, noble things. In my case, it was scaling the outside wall of my dormitory, two floors up…in 40 degree weather…at night…in boxer shorts. I mention the boxers in particular, as they were a joke gift from my mother. They were bright red, with white glow-in-the-dark […]

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Nothing says love like a post on Superbowl Sunday about mushy, feel-y stuff, right? So, here is the kick-off post for Ten Cents Month of Love! I have been surrounded by love my entire life. My parents were told they would never have a child and this was especially devastating to my mom. Her pregnancy […]

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Promoted from the Ricochet Member Feed by Editors Created with Sketch. Cohabitation, Cultural Data Points, and The Line of Best Fit

 

shutterstock_154243622Peter Maurin and Dorothy Day said that a good culture is one that makes it easy to be good and a bad culture is one that makes it easy to be bad. As conservatives, we know that culture does not come from above. Rather, the culture — good or bad — is a composite of all of our little decisions. No one action makes the culture bad or good, but they still move the culture, imperceptibly, in one direction or the other.

An anecdote: Mrs. SoDak and I will have been married 25 years this spring. When we were engaged, I went to rent our first apartment. When I mentioned that we would be getting married at the end of the month but beginning the lease at the start of the month, the landlady straightened up, looked squarely at me, and asked if we would be living together before the wedding day. When I replied that Mrs. SoDak would be living with her parents until the wedding night, she relented, though she still required that I bring in a wedding license to prove that we would in fact be married before she moved in.

These days, she would be sued for housing discrimination but, at the time, it was a completely normal part of the cultural landscape. It was completely reasonable to do as you wished with your private property and it was completely normal to frown on cohabitation. That little incident was just one among many, many examples that encouraged marriage and discouraged cohabitation.

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Nothing can quite prepare you for the experience of parenthood, save perhaps having siblings significantly younger than yourself. We married in June of 1999, me fresh out of college and my wife at the end of her first year of law school. Over the prior year we had been to a number of friends’ weddings, […]

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A relative of mine has been calling me for advice. He wants to build his first AR15, and as I’ve built several he’s called several times asking about different components, budgets, specs, etc. The most important question he’s had to ask, however, was how I got my wife’s permission to not only build them, but […]

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Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Blended Families At Sundown

 

After my grandmother’s second husband passed away, she grew close with a man in her retirement community. He was considerate, handy, and well-educated. He was also a man of means. He gave her extravagant gifts, including a new room on her home. We asked if she thought he would consider marriage. “Of course,” my grandmother answered. “He proposes to me all the time.” So why wouldn’t she accept? “I’ve buried two husbands. I don’t want to bury a third.” My grandmother’s suitor soon developed dementia, and forgot her long before he was buried.

My cousin Susie, who is Medicare-eligible, had a live-in boyfriend for many years. I write “had” because he recently moved out. He developed early-onset dementia, and Susie decided she was not equipped to care for him. His children have power of attorney and will take responsibility.

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I love my wife. She disagrees with just about everything I think about politics. She’s is pretty far to the left, although she is a member of the ‘I don’t vote’ party. You know that liberal that really thinks the most annoying, non-fact-based, naïve things that you can imagine? That’s my dear wife (and I […]

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Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Should Pastors Take “The Marriage Pledge”?

 

In First Things, a pair of Anglican and an Episcopalian reverends — no, seriously! — call for fellow clergymen to stop acting as agents of civil marriage:

In many jurisdictions, including many of the United States, civil authorities have adopted a definition of marriage that explicitly rejects the age-old requirement of male-female pairing. In a few short years or even months, it is very likely that this new definition will become the law of the land, and in all jurisdictions the rights, privileges, and duties of marriage will be granted to men in partnership with men, and women with women.

Promoted from the Ricochet Member Feed by Editors Created with Sketch. Should Christian Pastors Stop Performing Government Marriages?

 

The Daily Caller posted an article in which two Christian pastors are calling on others to stop performing government marriages. Why not? The proposed pledge reads:

The new definition of marriage no longer coincides with the Christian understanding of marriage between a man and woman. Our biblical faith is committed to upholding, celebrating, and furthering this understanding, which is stated many times within the Scriptures and has been repeatedly restated in our wedding ceremonies, church laws, and doctrinal standards for centuries. To continue with church practices that intertwine government marriage with Christian marriage will implicate the Church in a false definition of marriage.

Contributor Post Created with Sketch. A Hard Truth: Social Issues May Not Be Losers

 

Republican strategists may need to face up to an inconvenient truth: conservative social positions are no longer a thorn in the GOP’s side. We can win with them. Without them, it’s tough to say.

For some, this is a hard pill to swallow. Many Republicans are quite attached to a progressive social narrative, and strategic considerations have long been the justification for telling religious conservatives that they’re on the wrong side of history. Whether that’s true still remains to be seen. This most recent election, however, showed us Democrats desperately trying to gin up some resentment over social issues, and losing. Meanwhile we saw pro-life, pro-traditional marriage conservatives winning across the map, sometimes in fairly blue states.

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On my recent comment thread, I have been asking for help about libertarianism. I am woefully ignorant of libertarianism, I lack any powers of observation, and my intelligence level is embarrassingly low. “Help me if you can, I’m feelin’ down. And I do appreciate you being ’round. Help me get my feet back on the […]

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I would like to move the debate into a new area, one where we compare the unintended consequences of each side. If we do this, we can consider which side’s unintended consequences are more harmful to the idea of “limited government.” Wouldn’t it be interesting to consider the debate in this new way? I think […]

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OK guys, I think I finally understand the root of the difference between libertarians and socons on marriage (at least the libs and socons here on Rico). Tell me what you think. I’m going state what I perceive to be your position. I make an error, I know you will correct me in the comments. […]

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A friend pointed me to Ryan T. Anderson’s talk about marriage as an answer to RJD’s Honest Curiosity about the Secular Objections to Same Sex Marriage. It’s fifty-five minutes and well worth the time of those honestly curious about what the secular arguments against SSM are. Ahem. Anderson states up-front that his presentation will exclude arguments from […]

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Resolved, that 28 USC 1331 should be amended as follows: “The district courts shall have original jurisdiction of all civil actions arising under the Constitution, laws, or treaties of the United States, except in those actions arising from any state constitutional provision relating to family or domestic relations.” Preview Open

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Our own Denise McCallister has an excellent column over at The Federalist today entitled The Harry Potter Generation. Check it out please! http://thefederalist.com/2014/09/15/the-harry-potter-generation/  Preview Open

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This story was told to me and now I’m telling it to you. I can’t tell you where I heard it. I don’t want any knocks on the door late at night. I don’t want any trouble. It’s about a couple. Let’s call them John and Marsha, which, of course, aren’t their real names but […]

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I believe that the divide between conservatives on the marriage issue actually runs deeper than marriage. On Peter’s recent marriage thread, I several times I asked a question that went something like this: Does society have a duty to place a nature-based limitation on the number of legally recognized parents for children? Preview Open

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