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Several months ago, I was inspired to start up a new organization. Although there were similar groups in our development, this one would be special. (Of course, I might be biased in my assessment.) I had given a talk about my religious journey back to Judaism to a Hadassah group (Jewish women), and in talking […]

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Engaging the Enemy


Van is a spitfire. She is a dedicated conservative and she loves this country. She left Vietnam with her family right after the war. She is an entrepreneur, having started several businesses, and now in her senior years runs a nail business (does fingers and toes, as my husband would say) from her home, and does my nails. I’ve known her for more than ten years, so we know each other pretty well. The other day she stunned me with a story of bravery and determination. And it wasn’t about leaving Vietnam.

Van has mostly senior customers from all walks of lives, an assortment of religions or no-religions, and many cultures, ethnicities, and races. I’m going to share her story as she told it to me the other day, in her inimitable style:

So I’m talking to my customer about many things, and I asked her why she calls herself an African-American. Why? She is an American! She isn’t from Africa and she doesn’t have family from Africa, so why doesn’t she just call herself an American? I don’t call myself a Vietnamese-American!

Passover, Houses of Worship, and Intimacy


On Passover/Pesach I spent a sweet and deeply moving (and fun) time at the @iwe family seders. It’s not unusual for them to last until 1:30 to 2 a.m., and I’ve been told those are short ones! As always, they were inspiring and educational, and I’ve so enjoyed being with the iwe family for Pesach over the last four years.

During the seder, we spend a lot of time asking questions and discussing many aspects of the exodus from Egypt and the purpose of the rituals we practice. At one point (although I don’t remember the specific context), the topic came up of the Beis HaMikdash, the Second Temple built by Herod, expanding on the ruins of the first. Consider that Herod’s purpose was not just to bring people together and to honor G-d, but to build a magnificent monument to Herod’s power and glory. In fact, the Second Temple was a huge facility but might have lacked spiritual warmth. That might not have been the kind of building that G-d had commanded to be built.

I thought about this comment and realized that Herod’s Temple may have been more about Herod than G-d, and it lacked one very important ingredient to connecting with G-d: intimacy.

Simple Life


wedding ringsI am a monogamous married man.  I am not a romantic person, but I do love my wife dearly.  I enjoy a simple life with her.

I do not have an ex.  No ex-wife, no ex-in-laws, no alimony, no child support, no lawyer.  My wife is the mother of my children, which also simplifies their lives.  Our kids never had to keep a personal scheduler to know which home to go to after school.  They never had to do that blended family thing.

I don’t have any former friends who are now friends of an ex.  I never changed church because it was too uncomfortable to attend the church of my ex.