Tag: hate

Men, Women, and Emotions (Reprise)

 

Knowing that men and women are different does not prevent me from taking issue with the simplistic contrasts floating around in our culture: women share their trials to vent, while men want to fix things; men are task-oriented, while women are people-oriented; men talk to give information, while women gab to feel connected. Both sexes laughingly accept these descriptions, but I think further examination warrants refinement of our understanding. Even when there is a degree of truth in distinguishing between men and women this way, clinging too firmly to rough categories can prevent us from truly understanding one another. Also—dare I say it—sometimes descriptions like this give mature, capable women far too little credit.

Take, for example, the cultural idea that women are emotional creatures, while men are more likely to operate from logic. At first glance, this makes sense. When we draw conclusions from what we observe, we often see women more vulnerable to tears, expressions of affection, and conversation about true feelings. In latter years, we’ve been more open about discussing how hormones can affect women’s behavior. On the other hand, we often see men thriving in careers that demand cool logic—programming, engineering, architecture. Men like facts, as opposed to emphasizing feelings.

Group Writing: A Tirade on Hate

 

Hate is like a blood-sucking leech; it attaches to your psyche without your even noticing it. Over time, it draws the energy from your life, mostly in the background. If you don’t pay attention to it, it can suck every ounce of joy right out of you.

I’m about to let hate ruin my life. I don’t seem to be able to help myself. If I acknowledge its presence and drive this hate out of my heart and mind, maybe there’s hope. So here goes…

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My Bible tells me to love my neighbor as myself. I follow that as best as I can. I do not hate others. But I do not think that love means approval of whatever another wants to do. Sometimes approval ought to be withheld because it would countenance wrongdoing. I contend that saying that something […]

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Love Thy Neighbor

 

It is when we have the most cause to hate and reject our neighbors that we most need to remember the command to love them. Yes, my fellow Christians, it is a command and not merely an invitation. Though no challenge could be so difficult to fulfill, it is the foundation rather than the pinnacle of Christian love. It is a challenge not reserved only for the holiest saints but rather put to every one of us. Our Lord and Creator doesn’t even stop there. “Love thy neighbor as thy self.”

A philosophy professor and friend once caught me off guard by claiming that the Golden Rule is nothing special. Any person raised in a good home knows not to mistreat others as oneself doesn’t want to be abused.

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I have seen so many of what once were well behaved people sinking into a petty behavior model on the left over the past 4 years when plain nasty became acceptable. Maybe this is premature, but just wondering. If he gets in, we know Biden won’t endure fake dossier investigations and absurd impeachment attempts since […]

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Quote of the Day: Love and Hate

 

“I know there are people who do not love their fellow man, and I hate people like that.” – Tom Lehrer

Tom Lehrer spoke these words ironically, as a joke. Yet it has become a progressive mantra in the last few years. Some businesses post signs saying words to the effect that they love everyone – haters stay out. Progressives post signs on their lawns proclaiming “Love Trumps Hate,” while hating Trump and anyone who does not actively hate Trump. They claim saying “all lives matter” is racist, without attempting to explain logically how that can be true. They say “love is the answer” while slamming the door in the face of anyone who might point out that is not necessarily always true.

“Hate” Is a Crutch

 

I am confident that people who know me in real life will tell you that, while I exhibit at least the usual complement of flaws, odd quirks, and irritating peccadilloes, being hateful is not numbered among them. That’s probably because I’ve been fortunate, and can’t think of anyone who has seriously wronged me or wronged someone I love. Hate simply isn’t an emotion I experience, and the word is not one I use.

I would like to believe that this is true of most people — that they don’t really feel hate much, if at all — and that the word is too casually used.

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In light of the recent tragedies that both involved weapons that caused the deaths of dozens in a matter of minutes, it occurred to me that the gun argument falls flat for this reason: The law-abiding citizen who passed the background check, has a carry license and is shopping for shampoo and cat food will […]

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This came up in my Twitter feed and I clicked on the video without actually reading the tweet. Half way through I was pretty sure it was an ad for The Daily Wire. Then I looked at the tweet more carefully and realized the video was compiled by Media Matters to show us that the […]

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We’re Losing Our Boys

 

The latest tragedies, raw and painful, seem to be reflecting a similar thread: young men. Look at the age of the recent shooter at a Walmart in Texas (21 years old,) the killer in Dayton (24), the age of the boy being accused of the murder of the young co-ed at Ole Miss. Look at the ages of the boys on a murderous rampage across Canada, the Florida school shooting, the recent California shooting at the Garlic Festival, the Synagogue in Pittsburgh. They are all young men consumed with hate and vengeance, and armed to do as much damage as possible. They leave “manifestos,” they shout, “I’m angry!”, they cease to think and feel, or see their fellow human beings as part of their world.

The struggle to find blame is next. Social media, politics, violent video games, rampant porn and the new virile push of social engineering are playing a role. Young men begin as young boys, innocent, but are being influenced by all of these things, and their core personalities, their sense of self, is being corrupted, at younger and younger ages. I am not sympathizing with the killers, these acts are beyond despicable, but the patterns are showing these similarities.

The radical group Antifa, whose network now stretches across the continent to Europe, is composed of young men mostly, very angry, courting physical confrontation, and at the very least, intimidation and control.  Young women have become more fearful and maybe rightly so.  I have to think that the removal of boundaries, lack of consequences for actions, monitoring what is being taught in schools, what is accessible on the Internet, the decline of the family and faith, are now all bearing rotten fruit.  The family and the Church have always been the armor before sending young people into the world to live their dream and find their purpose, and to sustain them going forward.

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Says this article. They are mightily worried about the “far-right”, and get their information from the notorious Southern Poverty Law Center (excuse me while I gag). No mention of Antifa, which was born and continues to thrive all over the Pacific Northwest, creating havoc and destruction wherever it shows up. Preview Open

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Let’s just go ahead and get this out of the way up front.  The recent massacre at the two mosques in Christchurch, New Zealand, was an unspeakable act of terror against innocent, defenseless victims.  Okay?  But make no mistake, this extraordinarily unusual act will be used by leftists and Muslims the world over to bludgeon […]

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Renovation and Hiking

 

When I was young, we used to go hiking quite often.  Or it seemed often to me. I think avid hikers would snort in disdain.  The Gorge area between Washington and Oregon has some very nice mountain and hill trails.  I’ve also been up Mount St. Helens four times (which is, admittedly, an easy mountain) and Mount Adams. One of the places we went to often was Dog Mountain.  If you get there at the right time of the year, the wildflowers are blooming and it is beautiful. Supposedly it is a hard hike. I didn’t learn that until after we’d done it multiple times before I was 12, so I don’t know if that’s true.  Beacon Rock is just climbing stairs, and that is hard.  That one is also boring, but the view is nice, I guess.

My uncle loved hiking and caving and found lots of little-used side trails to explore.  He didn’t have kids, so he borrowed his nieces and nephews to help him explore. My mother used to come with until our much younger siblings got old enough to coin the phrase “My legs are broken, carry me!”  When they were really little we could carry them in the hiking backpack. But it’s no fun to have to hike with a whiner. Apparently, the oldest four kids did not whine in that context, or if we did, maybe not as much?  I remember enjoying going on the hikes, even in the rain, and thrilling at the views at the top and the exhaustion and soreness at the end.

Notes from A Broad

 

I just returned from three weeks in Scotland. Combination golf trip for my husband and visiting relatives and a road trip for me and my sister. The golf was great, the food was terrific (that’s a first) and the weather almost biblically bad. I swear Scotland is the only place you can be too cold and too hot at the same time. And you’re soaked and your hair’s a mess.

Even though it’s an activity I normally enjoy, I was wary about getting provoked into political discussions. This past election was too hard, and my own feelings too raw. The typical Scottish argument goes like this: something provocative and borderline insulting is said. When you respond in disagreement a hand is held up: whoa, whoa, whoa, we’re not talking politics. You then lamely try and make your point while everyone looks upon you like a troublemaker.

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Affectionately known at PITCH. Several ardent Trump supporters continue to express surprise that conservatives disappointed with the party formerly affiliated with conservatism (“PFAWC”) spend more time on a site dedicated to discussion between and among conservatives complaining the PFAWC nominee is, well, not remotely conservative than they do criticizing the Democratic nominee, Hillary Clinton.  Preview […]

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No, sillies. Not hate itself: the word “hate.” Along with words like “violence,” “trauma,” “fear,” “rape” “racist” “aggression” and “culture,” the word “hate” is being rendered completely useless by the left and, increasingly, the right as well (e.g. “Trump-Haters”). When the word “hate” is  indiscriminately used to describe the mildest expression of disagreement, we lose our […]

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