Tag: Emotions

Men, Women, and Emotions

 

Knowing that men and women are different does not prevent me from taking issue with the simplistic contrasts floating around in our culture: women share their trials to vent, while men want to fix things; men are task-oriented, while women are people-oriented; men talk to give information, while women gab to feel connected. Both sexes laughingly accept these descriptions, but I think further examination warrants refinement of our understanding. Even when there is a degree of truth in distinguishing between men and women this way, clinging too firmly to rough categories can prevent us from truly understanding one another. Also—dare I say it—sometimes descriptions like this give mature, capable women far too little credit.

Take, for example, the cultural idea that women are emotional creatures, while men are more likely to operate from logic. At first glance, this makes sense. When we draw conclusions from what we observe, we often see women more vulnerable to tears, expressions of affection, and talk about true feelings. In latter years, we’ve been more open about discussing how hormones can affect women’s behavior. On the other hand, we often see men thriving in careers that demand cool logic—programming, engineering, architecture. Men like facts, as opposed to emphasizing feelings.

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“When facts become secondary to emotion, truth dies. And a society that doesn’t value truth cannot survive.” – Ben Shapiro It does not seem to matter what the crisis de jour, political flashpoint, or cultural conflict is — immigration, education, terrorism, gun rights, vote fraud, whatever. It always seems to center on appeal to emotions, […]

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In grad school I took a class on emotions and wrote a paper for it. I have long wanted to turn it into a published paper, but haven’t yet. (One or two versions of the paper were rejected by a prestigious scholarly journal, though.) But here’s a bulleted summary of some of the interesting points from the […]

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In the game We Happy Few, currently in development, Joy is a pill issued by government that makes everyone happy regardless of their circumstances. Downers — citizens who refuse to take the pill — are punished for their obstinance.  But suppose Downers were left alone. Suppose that it was a free choice to chemically induce […]

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At the park near my in-laws’ house in the Denver area, there’s a large enclosure for dogs to run free. Not everyone embraced this addition to the park, but it’s popular with the locals, and I like to see the dogs sprint over the grass after toys and interact with each other. Yesterday, two small, lithe Labradors […]

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Commenting on a restless dreams post yesterday, Claire Berlinski described a recurring dream in which she is being required to take an exam she hasn’t prepared for. She wondered if there were ideas on what that meant.   One function of dreams, as my theory goes, is to help us work off emotions we accumulate during the day, […]

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A Life Schematic or Just Winging It?

 

Were the most important decisions of your life all the result of cold, hard math? Or did you ever follow your gut?

How did those decisions turn out? Did your grand strategies collapse under unforeseeable circumstances? Did your enthusiasm for impulsive or intuitive commitments wane? Or have your preparations proved fertile? Have your feelings guided you to joyful, surprising experiences?