In 2018 Nikki Mark’s 12-year old son, Tommy, went to sleep one night and never woke up. In an inspiring and heartbreaking conversation with Bridget shares her immediate reaction, what she’s learned, why she said yes to everything that came her way, the project she channeled her grief into, her family’s bond, and the incredible outpouring of support they received from their community. She and Bridget discuss how we’re not taught to deal with death or support someone who is struggling with tragedy, and how if we learned a little bit more about death we’d learn how to live. Her fierce determination to share the lessons her son taught her, her belief that she can turn the pain into something else and rise up to live in a way that honors her son, the knowledge that we should all be playing more and that life is supposed to be fun, and her ability to see the beauty in overwhelming tragedy, is an inspiration and motivation for anyone struggling through darkness. Support the TM23 Foundation to honor Tommy’s memory & legacy.

Full transcript available here: WiW85-NikkiMark-Transcript

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  1. Bryan McAllister Inactive
    Bryan McAllister

    Even being one of the shorter conversations recorded, in at least the past several months, this was poignant and inspiring.  Mrs Mark managed to parlay a tragic experience into one of strengthening, and powerful realignment.  “There is so much beauty in problems.  They’re fixable.  I don’t know how, but they’re fixable.”  Cool stuff!  “I value what one soul can do.  If one 12-yr old can unite so many people …”

    Her comments offering suggestions about a constructive response to the current political and social turmoil were also powerful.  She is clearly an executive; a doer.  Her focus on what we can change today and in the path ahead, and to not obsess about fault finding, criticism, and blaming what happened in the past.  That resonates.

    She also observes that what we see, and so often complain about the main-stream-media, is really a reflection of us … we, the people.  The media feeds what we want.  I suggest a similar take on the politicians we complain about – we elected them.  My takeaway – we need to stop looking of the ‘adults in the room’ … we are them.

    We do not have the luxury of playing the roll of the peanut gallery, and to sit comfortably on the sideline, opining and conjecturing, and tweeting and what have you.  We need to disengage from the scintillating trash, and to stand up and be the people we want to see in society.  Lead out by example.  And, then set the expectation among our elected officials to whom we have delegated authority, that we want that civility, collaboration, and constructive engagement with their colleagues.  Talking about conspiracy theories only perpetuates the corrosive fear mongering.  Blame is a derivative of the blood feud.  We cannot change the past; though we can certainly learn from it.  However, the present and the future hold opportunity for improvement and change.

    Great podcast.

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