Melanie Notkin, founder of Savvy Auntie, the first community for cool aunts, great aunts, godmothers and all women who love kids (but might not have them) discusses her book Otherhood and women who are childless, not by choice, but by circumstance. She and Bridget cover the assumptions people make about childless women, being told that they should have settled if they wanted kids, and how Bridget feels like she kept hitting snooze on her biological clock. Find out how feminism made men lazy, why you’re only as loyal as your options in the age of social media, and how in the battle of the sexes everyone seems to be more confused than anything. Don’t miss an incredibly honest conversation about Melanie’s ability to take the source of her greatest pain – not having children – and turn it into something that helps countless people – women and men.

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There are 10 comments.

  1. Member

    Ricochet Audio Network: She and Bridget cover the assumptions people make about childless women, being told that they should have settled if they wanted kids, and how Bridget feels like she kept hitting snooze on her biological clock.

    So… it was her choice.

    Right now, to me , one of the biggest detriments of feminism has been pushing women out of motherhood. Reclaiming that choice for young women should be a major priority and I am so sorry you feel left out in the cold, but playing nursemaid to the aging childless woman’s feelings is not a priority.

    Young women need to be taught to make choices that prioritize motherhood if that is something they want in their life so they don’t end up where you are, too.

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    • December 13, 2018, at 1:48 PM PDT
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    Around the 25:00 point or so, there was a mention of being your authentic self. This is a horrible meme polluting our intellectual and artistic culture. Serial killers and pedophiles are authentic. Dishonesty, cheating and bigotry are as well. Deep down we aren’t good. We shouldn’t be authentic. 

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    • December 13, 2018, at 11:29 PM PDT
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    When exactly did Jordan Peterson blame/shame ladies for not pro-creating. Forgive my skepticism but I have heard so much obfuscation regarding his work from every side that I need specifics. 

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    • December 14, 2018, at 12:02 AM PDT
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    Does Ricochet plan to make publishing “explicit” podcasts a regular thing? Listening to the Super Feed doesn’t facilitate this very well for people who want to maintain a family friendly playlist. 

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    • December 14, 2018, at 11:24 AM PDT
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    Mark Wilson (View Comment):

    “Does Ricochet plan to make publishing “explicit” podcasts a regular thing?”

    One explicit podcast does nor a “regular thing” make. Bridget and her guests are interesting and entertaining and worthy of being part of ricochet. I’m personally grateful for their honesty and willingmess simply to be themselves.

    Grit is about resiliance and resilience is often built on the back of experiences that provoke @#$&% interjections.

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    • December 14, 2018, at 12:54 PM PDT
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    Feminism could not be more anti-woman then when it is selling the fallacy of empty nest happiness. 

    This kind of attitude is incredibly anti-conservative.

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    • December 14, 2018, at 1:27 PM PDT
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    Mark Alexander (View Comment):

    Mark Wilson (View Comment):

    “Does Ricochet plan to make publishing “explicit” podcasts a regular thing?”

    One explicit podcast does nor a “regular thing” make. Bridget and her guests are interesting and entertaining and worthy of being part of ricochet. I’m personally grateful for their honesty and willingmess simply to be themselves.

    Grit is about resiliance and resilience is often built on the back of experiences that provoke @#$&% interjections.

    Ten out of eleven episodes of this particular podcast are marked “explicit”. I am not saying they should be dumped from Ricochet because of my delicate ears — I have no problem with it in general. I’m just pointing out that it breaks the family-friendly atmosphere on the Super Feed.

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    • December 14, 2018, at 3:45 PM PDT
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    Mark Wilson (View Comment):

    Mark Alexander (View Comment):

    Mark Wilson (View Comment):

    “Does Ricochet plan to make publishing “explicit” podcasts a regular thing?”

    One explicit podcast does nor a “regular thing” make. Bridget and her guests are interesting and entertaining and worthy of being part of ricochet. I’m personally grateful for their honesty and willingmess simply to be themselves.

    Grit is about resiliance and resilience is often built on the back of experiences that provoke @#$&% interjections.

    Ten out of eleven episodes of this particular podcast are marked “explicit”. I am not saying they should be dumped from Ricochet because of my delicate ears — I have no problem with it in general. I’m just pointing out that it breaks the family-friendly atmosphere on the Super Feed.

    I think everyone should express themselves however they want but they need a warning.

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    • December 15, 2018, at 5:18 AM PDT
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    Life is about choices indeed but perhaps one’s naïveté can lead them to believe that some things will just “happen” like marriage and children because that’s how it happened with our parents and grandparents. The pool does indeed become shallower for both men and women after 28 or so – even earlier in the center of the country. I realized this a bit later and thems the breaks. Being extemporaneous is an asset in many things in life but can prove to be more challenging in realms of dating and marriage.

    I don’t have major pangs about not having children but I do at times. I’m a godmother three times over and adore children. Instead I’m at a stage now where I might be looking to foster and possibly adopt.

    I am beyond blessed to live in a nation that affords me to ability to be educated and take care of myself. I have my voice and my choices. I’m so thankful of the countless men and women that fought for these rights.

    And for the other commenters – have some grace. It’s a more challenging world in the realm of dating and marriage. We’re all doing the best we can.

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    • December 16, 2018, at 8:09 AM PDT
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    Molly Nichelson (View Comment):
    Life is about choices indeed but perhaps one’s naïveté can lead them to believe that some things will just “happen” like marriage and children because that’s how it happened with our parents and grandparents.

    A lot of single people think love will come knocking on their door. And for some, it happens. But for many people it requires effort to find someone to spend your life with. If you’re too passive, you will probably spend a lot of years alone.

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    • December 16, 2018, at 10:27 AM PDT
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