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  1. Full Size Tabby Member
    Full Size Tabby
    @FullSizeTabby

    My [pregnant] daughter’s cat is ticked off that she no longer is able to sit on my daughter’s lap. The cat now climbs up higher on my daughter. Not sure what “Junior” (daughter and son-in-law’s name for sex-unknown baby) thinks of this. :-)

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  2. Full Size Tabby Member
    Full Size Tabby
    @FullSizeTabby

    Re name change on marriage: A practical caution on using different names professionally and socially – a woman I worked with who used her maiden name professionally but used her husband’s name socially had a medical emergency on a weekend. There was confusion at the hospital over insurance coverage because she was in “married name” mode (weekend, with husband and friends, all of whom referred to her using her married name), but her medical insurance was in her “professional name.”

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  3. ToryWarWriter Thatcher
    ToryWarWriter
    @ToryWarWriter

    I am CANADIAN!!!

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  4. megananne Inactive
    megananne
    @megananne

    I’m a liberal weirdo from the West Coast who listens to your show and created an account just to comment on here.. Enjoy my five dollars when I inevitably forget to cancel this. Anyway, re: name changing– I’m getting married in three months and not changing my name. For me it just comes down to the strong sentimental attachment that I have to my name which I’ve lived with for thirty years. I have the same last name as my amazing mom and dad and my late grandfather who paid for my college and my godmother and my amazing, strong, aunts who’ve gone to Harvard and who teach in universities in England… My fiance has a great last name, but his mother remarried when he was young and thusly he has a different last name than her and his stepfather who has essentially been his father figure for 20+ years. My fiance doesn’t speak to his biological father who is a bit of the black sheep of the family, so the only other people in our lives with that last name are his grandparents who are extraordinarily sweet but who I have little attachment to in the way that I do to my own name. That’s my rationale. Ultimately I think it’s an extremely personal choice and that there’s no right or wrong decision to make. Also, since you live in large, liberal, I don’t think any eyebrows would raise at you having a different last name than your S.O. or any children in the future. My two cents!

    Anyway, love the podcast. I loved your wedding episode as a liberal gal who’s having a Catholic wedding this summer. I love the podcast in general and really believe that people on opposite ends of the political spectrum engaging in a way like this (that isn’t inherently politically charged) is the way forward. Keep it up!

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  5. Lazy_Millennial Member
    Lazy_Millennial
    @LazyMillennial

    @megananne Welcome! And congrats on the wedding!

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  6. Bethany Mandel Editor
    Bethany Mandel
    @bethanymandel

    megananne (View Comment):
    I’m a liberal weirdo from the West Coast who listens to your show and created an account just to comment on here.. Enjoy my five dollars when I inevitably forget to cancel this. Anyway, re: name changing– I’m getting married in three months and not changing my name. For me it just comes down to the strong sentimental attachment that I have to my name which I’ve lived with for thirty years. I have the same last name as my amazing mom and dad and my late grandfather who paid for my college and my godmother and my amazing, strong, aunts who’ve gone to Harvard and who teach in universities in England… My fiance has a great last name, but his mother remarried when he was young and thusly he has a different last name than her and his stepfather who has essentially been his father figure for 20+ years. My fiance doesn’t speak to his biological father who is a bit of the black sheep of the family, so the only other people in our lives with that last name are his grandparents who are extraordinarily sweet but who I have little attachment to in the way that I do to my own name. That’s my rationale. Ultimately I think it’s an extremely personal choice and that there’s no right or wrong decision to make. Also, since you live in large, liberal, I don’t think any eyebrows would raise at you having a different last name than your S.O. or any children in the future. My two cents!

    Anyway, love the podcast. I loved your wedding episode as a liberal gal who’s having a Catholic wedding this summer. I love the podcast in general and really believe that people on opposite ends of the political spectrum engaging in a way like this (that isn’t inherently politically charged) is the way forward. Keep it up!

    Thank you so, so much!

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  7. Lyndsey Fifield Contributor
    Lyndsey Fifield
    @Lyndsey

    megananne (View Comment):
    I’m a liberal weirdo from the West Coast who listens to your show and created an account just to comment on here.. Enjoy my five dollars when I inevitably forget to cancel this. Anyway, re: name changing– I’m getting married in three months and not changing my name. For me it just comes down to the strong sentimental attachment that I have to my name which I’ve lived with for thirty years. I have the same last name as my amazing mom and dad and my late grandfather who paid for my college and my godmother and my amazing, strong, aunts who’ve gone to Harvard and who teach in universities in England… My fiance has a great last name, but his mother remarried when he was young and thusly he has a different last name than her and his stepfather who has essentially been his father figure for 20+ years. My fiance doesn’t speak to his biological father who is a bit of the black sheep of the family, so the only other people in our lives with that last name are his grandparents who are extraordinarily sweet but who I have little attachment to in the way that I do to my own name. That’s my rationale. Ultimately I think it’s an extremely personal choice and that there’s no right or wrong decision to make. Also, since you live in large, liberal, I don’t think any eyebrows would raise at you having a different last name than your S.O. or any children in the future. My two cents!

    Anyway, love the podcast. I loved your wedding episode as a liberal gal who’s having a Catholic wedding this summer. I love the podcast in general and really believe that people on opposite ends of the political spectrum engaging in a way like this (that isn’t inherently politically charged) is the way forward. Keep it up!

    Okay we straight up love you – thank you so much!!!

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  8. Stad Coolidge
    Stad
    @Stad

    When we decided to get married, I asked my future wife if she wanted to keep her name because she was a professional with a business reputation. She said, “No, I want your last name.” I asked her, “Why?”

    She told me she didn’t like signing stuff with her last name, because the “Y” in it dipped below the line. LOL!

    On the other hand, it could be because she finally snagged a man after being single for 37 years . . .

    Now that I’ve told the truth, she’s going to read this and come up with some other reason for changing her name and post it. Married thirty years this June – if she doesn’t kill me for this post!

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