‘That’s Weird’ and Other Things Not to Say to Pregnant Women During Ultrasounds

Bethany and Kelly get into some heavy stuff this week, but sometimes you just have to put it out there.

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  1. The Cloaked Gaijin Member

    You LadyBrains women are so awesome.

    (I’m not sure why Bethany had to try top Kelly’s story though. Just kidding.)

    People on both sides of the abortion issue should listen to this podcast. I think most people are in the middle of that issue anyway.

    I remember a story from a few years ago where a couple was going to give birth to a child with Down syndrome or perhaps something similar. They felt that they couldn’t go through it though. I think a religious figure or somebody stepped in and tried to find a family to adopt a Down syndrome — if they would agree not to terminate the pregnancy yet. He was able to find someone, so the couple decided against abortion. That certainly seems like the right thing to do, but how often can situations like that always happen? I don’t even know if there are still orphanages in the United States. I think many of the couples who give birth to a child with some severe disabilities often get divorced a few years later.

    Horrible real world decisions. I’m not a parent, but I can see how parents would often tend to be closer to traditional religion than non-parents and have the associated voting patterns that sometimes follow these situations.

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    • February 7, 2019, at 3:12 AM PST
  2. Barry Jones Thatcher

    Special episode and thank you for sharing your stories. I have no words for how special this was…

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    • February 7, 2019, at 9:28 AM PST
  3. Bethany Mandel Editor

    Barry Jones (View Comment):

    Special episode and thank you for sharing your stories. I have no words for how special this was…

    Thank you <3

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    • February 7, 2019, at 11:26 AM PST
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  4. Kelly Maher Contributor

    Barry Jones (View Comment):

    Special episode and thank you for sharing your stories. I have no words for how special this was…

    Thank you. We truly appreciate the kind words. It’s always kind of scary to put yourself out there.

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    • February 7, 2019, at 11:27 AM PST
  5. colleenb Member
    colleenb Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Dear Kelly and Bethany: Thank you for sharing your stories. I am pro-life but agree with @thecloakedgaijin that we should be as compassionate as possible to everyone in these truly difficult situations. There are groups out there to help with these difficult pre-natal diagnoses (embracinggraceva.org and benotafraid.net). At least contact them as they may be able to help. By the way Bethany my daughter-in-law recently had our second grandchild at their apartment (not a planned home birth) so they never made it to the car. God bless all the parents and children. 

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    • February 7, 2019, at 12:26 PM PST
  6. Stad Thatcher

    Bethany: Was it fate, or did God intervene to cause a pro-choice person choose life at the right moment? I choose the latter . . .

    Kelly: “That’s weird” is definitely not something you want to hear no matter what the medical circumstances! However, there’s no good way to preface what could be bad news. I’m so happy everything possibly wrong vanished in the end. Fat Baby is beautiful!

    On a personal note, one of my close friends had a daughter who was diagnosed with CF before birth. Knowing what lay ahead allowed them to take the baby to surgery immediately after birth and remove a portion of her intestine. It’s been almost thirty years, and with all the treatment over the years, the daughter is doing fine.

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    • February 8, 2019, at 6:24 AM PST