David Frum takes your questions on love and marriage with Christina and his wife of now 30 years, co-host Danielle.

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  1. Member

    …with guest David Frum

    Not the one

    How could I tell?

    By his smug nebbishness. Always a bad combination in men ( and women).

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    • June 26, 2018 at 3:58 am
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    Adored the loving – but honest – banter between Danielle and David. I have been married for 30+ myself so I can appreciate it. Yes, best advice in confession I got was NOT to do the silent treatment. Very harmful. Also agree that the marriage must be centered around the couple rather than the child/children. (Is this because of guilt that the children are in day care too long??) Proud parent of my son who, as far as I can tell, is becoming a wonderful husband and father. Scattered comment but just really enjoyed the podcast.

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    • June 26, 2018 at 10:48 am
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    In the classic work Leisure the Basis of Culture by Josef Pieper, there is a a major distinction drawn between the showy entertainments of the Versailles Palace done to ward off a terror of being bored, a horror vacui on the one hand and celebrations of life and its gifts, affirmation on the other.

    I hate showy marriage proposals and I really hate compatibility defined as common entertainment preferences. The inability to affirm and be grateful is crippling.

    Sunday, my wife (of 39 years) and I looked at each other during a celebration of my son’s 31st birthday (he is the fifth of our eight kids, third of the four boys) and laughed because we knew we had the same thought–we still can’t believe all these people came from us. The joy, the laughter and the sheer wonder of family and grandkids are all reasons to be grateful, even though much of that time it was a struggle rather than an entertainment.

    For young men who seek my advice, I would say perfect moments and wonderful dates can be important but far from dispositive. If instead the car breaks down, the waiter is incompetent, the movie quite awful and it’s raining throughout and the woman suddenly just laughs at it all and squeezes your hand, propose on the spot because she is the one.

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    • June 26, 2018 at 1:02 pm
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