Having The Baby Instead of Aborting

With all the arguments in the news these days, here’s my $.02 on the subject.

After mother died, my father married my wicked stepmother and she had the locks changed on our house so that I couldn’t get in unless she was at home. After her rebuke I moved out rather than disturb my Dad’s new bride. My education wasn’t finished and my new secretary job allowed only a one-room. third-floor walk-up studio apartment. When my brother witnessed my stepmother closing the door in my face on Thanksgiving…

  1. Crow

    Bless you and your daughter, the Sisters and the Doctor. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

    [edit: thanks, editors.]

  2. Fern

    Thank you for sharing this… what a beautiful story!

  3. Susan in Seattle

    Thank you.  Simply, thank you. 

  4. smp16

    What a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing it with us. God bless you and your family.

  5. Schrodinger
    smp16: What a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing it with us. God bless you and your family. · 3 minutes ago


  6. Lucy Pevensie

    You didn’t even mention the joy you gave her adoptive parents. As an adoptive parent, may I tell you that my daughter’s birth mother gave me the greatest gift I will ever receive. She’s across the world in Asia and my daughter’s records are sealed, so I can’t thank her, but I would like to let you know that my husband and I think  of her with gratitude every day of our lives.

    Fortunately, these days in the US, open adoption is much more readily available than it was then, so a young birth mother these days would probably not have to go through the years of wondering what had happened to her child that you endured.

  7. PsychLynne

    I am crying.  Thank you for your story.

  8. Merina Smith

    Not too many things move me to tears, but your story did.  I’ve read that if young women can see a way forward for themselves they are far less likely to get an abortion.  Your story illustrates that point beautifully.

  9. flownover

    I am moved to tears as well,  it felt strangely like a solitary journey, guy must have been a jerk or did he ever know ?

    Too bad the present administration sees fit to take 600 million in tax dollars to assist in the elimination of 330 thousand human beings by the Planned Parenthood killers.

  10. Mama Toad

    What a beautiful affirmation. I am sure you have suffered greatly in this life, but your story is one of such hope.

    Your nuns are such signs of God’s love in the world, with their wisdom and trust. May their tribe increase.

    May the Lord continue to bless you abundantly. 

    I pray for my brother’s birth parents all the time — he is such a gift in my life.

  11. Antipodius

    Thanks for sharing that story.  This past Friday in the OR next to mine, 28 abortions were carried out. Most of them (as is the case in our state of Victoria), would have not been due to maternal health reasons. I think of the young ladies in that  waiting room, some looked apprehensive, others looked like they were lining up for a hair appointment. Some had boyfriend/husband company though the majority were alone or with a girlfriend.Your personal experience is a poignant reminder of the beautiful alternative. Life.. it’s always about preserving it and making it as beautiful as we can. Here in Australia, I am extremely old fashioned for believing that.

  12. HeartofAmerica

    Thank you for sharing your story. I know how difficult it must have been to do so. The decision you made positively impacted so many people and will continue to do so over time.

    I have a friend who made the same decision to give up her daughter for adoption. She was far too young to even consider keeping her and her family was supportive but not happy about the perceived shame brought to the family.  Fast forward 25 years and this young woman decided to seek out her birth mother. Amazingly, she lived only 50 miles from where my friend grew up. She found my friends family first and they (thankfully) embraced her. My friend now has a relationship with her daughter and grandchildren an it’s brought joy to her life and her families. She chose to give life just as you did and now it comes back full circle.

  13. Cornelius Julius Sebastian

    Extraordinarily beautiful and especially relevant at this time. This should be on Main Feed if it is not already.

  14. Dave Carter

    Dang it,…now I’m choked up too.  What a remarkable, and painful, and ultimately beautiful journey.   Thank you, …for choosing life, …for telling your story, …and for showing us what love and faith can do, which stands in such brilliant contrast to the horrific and dark remedies of a degraded culture.  

  15. Hartmann von Aue

    Many, many thanks for giving your daughter life and for sharing this God-loving and life-affirming history.  

  16. Paul Dougherty

    Thank you.

  17. Olive

    I am crying too. Beautiful story, well told. Thank you and please continue to share. May God bless you.

  18. dash

    It’s not often that a long post with no paragraph breaks reads so smoothly from start to end.  Probably because I hoped the story would turn out as well as yours does.

    I have two people very close to me, whose adoption stories have made them very miserable, so yours brings me much cheer.

  19. 10 cents

    The screen went blurry and voice became a little strange. That dull knife stabbed my heart.

    Thank you for having the courage to make the hard decisions. I bet that hug from your daughter made it all worth it. Fearing that I’ll short out electrical equipment I’ll stop now.  

  20. 9thDistrictNeighbor

    Thank you so much for your story and your courage.  Adoptive mothers like me are completely indebted to you.   Our son’s birthmother (we have an open adoption) told me a story similar to yours.  She arrived at an aunt’s house with her third child, the aunt smiled, took the baby and slammed the door.  Her boyfriend told her to get an abortion, but she said she couldn’t do it.  You see, her father was himself adopted.  Our son’s middle name is the name her father’s birthmother gave him. (He, too, hired an investigator to try to find information on his closed adoption in the ’50s; he only found out his birth name.)  When we met our son’s birth-great-grandparents, there was a bond between us all…touched by adoption.  I am convinced that an angel led you to the door of that doctor’s office.  God Bless you.

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