I Love You, Dad

 

Certain is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter. In love to our wives there is desire; to our sons, ambition; but to our daughters, there is something which there are no words to express.

So said Joseph Addison, seventeenth-century essayist, playwright, and politician who, alongside his friend Richard Steele, founded the first Spectator magazine in 1711.  Pretty smart for such an old-timer.

Happy Father’s Day to Dads here and everywhere.  Treasure each other, hug each other, love each other.  And don’t forget to say it.  Life is short and unpredictable.  Regret is forever.  Don’t be that guy.  Or that gal.

When I’m at my best, I’m my father’s daughter–Anonymous

Please share a memory or two of fathers, sons, and daughters.

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  1. She Member
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    As far as I know, Addison married late in life, and had no daughter of his own.  Does that make his observation any less true?  I think not.  

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  2. She Member
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    The letter Jenny sent to Mr. She, on Father’s Day 2015:

    Dear Dad,

    It’s 2:37 in the morning for you but for me it is 6 hours later and I’ve woken to a beautiful morning in Paris.

    Paris is unexplainable, unexpected, charming, and far way from you. And yet.

    Every time I turn a corner and spy a sundial, a street named after a mathematician (Bonjour, Descartes), or drag [friend] to see Lavoisier’s chemistry laboratory, or Pascal’s adding machine, I find you.

    How could I possibly have enjoyed Paris to such a rich degree without the extraordinary tools of wonder, knowledge, and curiosity you gave me?

    There’s more.

    I have walked, at a very brisk pace, for six to eight hours each day without flagging, including a day that began with walking to and climbing the steps of the Eiffel Tower. Seven hours later and still on my feet, [friend] announced, “you are indefatigable, I think you could walk another 4 hours.”

    I responded that my Dad showed me (at times under duress) that there are places in the world that you can only reach by walking on your own two feet and that their payoffs (lakes in glacier, mountain tops, and so many more) reward like none other. And all I had to do was walk.

    Walking is, I imagine, something you taught me as a baby. Having watched you with [beloved granddaughter], I can see you there, close by, holding my hand, encouraging, teaching, having fun. Loving me in a way that still nourishes and protects me to this day. All I had to do was walk, and be your daughter.

    I thought of those things while in awe in the medieval Cluny museum. It’s a gem of a museum. It has the lady with the unicorn tapestries. It’s built on what was once Roman baths.

    It stopped my breath with wonder. It made me shed a tiny tear to have been given the gift to understand your Medievals, my Romans, and so much more. It made me, though very far way, feel very close to you.

    How could I have enjoyed Paris without the love you surrounded me with my whole life?

    How could I have learned anything?

    Somewhere today I raise a glass to you.

    Much love on Father’s Day and always,

    Jenny

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  3. Percival Thatcher
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    You buy them books, you send them to school, and all they do is chew the covers.

    — Dad to Mom about yours truly

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  4. She Member
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    Percival (View Comment):

    You buy them books, you send them to school, and all they do is chew the covers.

    — Dad to Mom about yours truly

    Isn’t that hard to do, between the visor and the chin guard?

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  5. JoelB Member
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    She (View Comment):

    The letter Jenny sent to Mr. She, on Father’s Day 2015:

    Dear Dad,

    It’s 2:37 in the morning for you but for me it is 6 hours later and I’ve woken to a beautiful morning in Paris.

    Paris is unexplainable, unexpected, charming, and far way from you. And yet.

    Every time I turn a corner and spy a sundial, a street named after a mathematician (Bonjour, Descartes), or drag [friend] to see Lavoisier’s chemistry laboratory, or Pascal’s adding machine, I find you.

    How could I possibly have enjoyed Paris to such a rich degree without the extraordinary tools of wonder, knowledge, and curiosity you gave me?

    There’s more.

    I have walked, at a very brisk pace, for six to eight hours each day without flagging, including a day that began with walking to and climbing the steps of the Eiffel Tower. Seven hours later and still on my feet, [friend] announced, “you are indefatigable, I think you could walk another 4 hours.”

    I responded that my Dad showed me (at times under duress) that there are places in the world that you can only reach by walking on your own two feet and that their payoffs (lakes in glacier, mountain tops, and so many more) reward like none other. And all I had to do was walk.

    Walking is, I imagine, something you taught me as a baby. Having watched you with [beloved granddaughter], I can see you there, close by, holding my hand, encouraging, teaching, having fun. Loving me in a way that still nourishes and protects me to this day. All I had to do was walk, and be your daughter.

    I thought of those things while in awe in the medieval Cluny museum. It’s a gem of a museum. It has the lady with the unicorn tapestries. It’s built on what was once Roman baths.

    It stopped my breath with wonder. It made me shed a tiny tear to have been given the gift to understand your Medievals, my Romans, and so much more. It made me, though very far way, feel very close to you.

    How could I have enjoyed Paris without the love you surrounded me with my whole life?

    How could I have learned anything?

    Somewhere today I raise a glass to you.

    Much love on Father’s Day and always,

    Jenny

    I just finished reading Primal, Mark Batterson’s discussion of the greatest commandment. That is, to love the LORD with all the heart, soul, mind, and strength. I see all of these elements of the human nature addressed in this letter. It seems that God made fathers with the purpose in mind of having them assist in developing these in their children.

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    JoelB (View Comment):
    I just finished reading Primal, Mark Batterson’s discussion of the greatest commandment. That is, to love the LORD with all the heart, soul, mind, and strength. I see all of these elements of the human nature addressed in this letter. It seems that God made fathers with the purpose in mind of having them assist in developing these in their children.

    I think  you are right.  

    OTOH, Jenny and I have a very different relationship.  But perhaps stepmothers have a purpose in life too.  Here’s what she wrote about me, in 2003, when a group of us (from England and the US) visited Venice.  My sister, who was the trip organizer, thought it would be nice, since many of the women didn’t know each other, to send a short email to the group, describing ourselves, background, interests, etc.  Jenny and I decided to do this by writing letters of introduction for each other (very old-school).  Here’s what she wrote about me (I’ve posted this on Ricochet before):

    Please allow me to recommend She as a highly qualified candidate for traveling companion. Traveling companions must be flexible, easy-going, and open to new ideas.

    She is very flexible. I have seen this many times as She slid halfway down her own icy hillside as she was trying to feed several of her livestock in the dead of winter, while wearing pajamas and slippers.

    She is also easy-going. Several times when we have traveled together, She has found it very easy to go the wrong direction, which is how we have happened to meet so many nice people in the world. It’s also why I carry a bottle of whiskey in my purse.

    The whiskey is clearly why we’re both so open to new things. Especially to new bottles of whiskey. What was the question?

    Furthermore, and in closing, I have only two more things to say. One, She is married to Dad. That means she needs a vacation. Someone should go with her. She needs it.

    Also, She puts up with me and sometimes writes letters from the personae of some of her pet bunnies. What could be better than having a travelling companion who, while lost someplace with you, will share a nice stiff drink and then help you write postcards home in the voice of a cantankerous rabbit with tooth problems? Now that’s a great time. And certainly memorable. Isn’t that what everyone wants from their trip?

    Well, there you have it.

    LOL.

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  7. KentForrester Coolidge
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    Man, that Jenny can write a letter.  Those might be the best two letters I’ve ever read.

    That’s quite a mane of hair you have there.  Good enough, I think, to grace someone’s pet blond pony. 

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  8. She Member
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    KentForrester (View Comment):

    Man, that Jenny can write a letter.

    Can she ever.  You do not want to be on the receiving end of a letter from Jenny when she strikes in defense of those she loves.  Trust me on that.  It used to be said of me, during my illustrious (!) IT career, that I had two lethal weapons, a tongue and a pen, but Jenny is a nonpareil on both counts.  Thank God she loves me.

    Those might be the best two letters I’ve ever read.

    Thanks, Other Favorite English Professor.  I’ll pass that on.

    That’s quite a mane of hair you have there. Good enough, I think, to grace someone’s pet blond pony.

    LOL.  That’s not the longest it ever was, either.

     

     

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  9. KirkianWanderer Inactive
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    She: Please share a memory or two of fathers, sons, and daughters.

    Senior year of HS, I had no idea where I was going to college even past graduation, because my acceptance into LSE was conditional on AP scores. (I needed 2 fives from the tests I did that year). Massachusetts happened to be in the cohort that was getting the scores absolutely last that year, too. But one of my friends decided to take mercy on me, bought a VPN, and logged into my account on his computer to get them a week ahead of time. We live in the middle of nowhere, and have cruddy cell reception, so I was standing in the attic of our house on the phone with him, waiting to get the news, where my dad was doing some home improvement stuff. When he told me that I had the right scores, I ran across the room like a crazy person, and kind of jumped on my dad from behind crying. He caught me, and when he finally figured out what I was saying, twirled me around like I was 5 again, and then ran down to tell my uncle (they share a shop). 

    This year, I was out on a run late at night when I got an email from one of the grad schools I applied to. Every letter I had gotten so far was a rejection, and this was my dream reach school, so I figured it was more of the same and opened the letter to have it done with. It was an acceptance letter. Once I had raced down the street yelling “Oh my G-d, I got into [redacted]” like a crazy person, I called him through WhatsApp. Didn’t even let him get through saying hello, just started shouting the same thing. He was so, so happy. He was also at a job site, and I could hear someone yelling from behind to ask what was going on, and him saying that he would tell them in a minute, because it was too good a kind of news to say ‘half-a**ed.’ Because my mom was at the gym, he called with her a couple hours later, and convinced her that I had accepted an internship in Afghanistan, because there were so many rejections and I felt I was out of options. She believed it, too. So the surprise was all the better when, after I nodded along with what he said, I told her that I actually wasn’t doing that. 

    He’s the best.

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    KirkianWanderer (View Comment):

    She: Please share a memory or two of fathers, sons, and daughters.

    [snip]

    He’s the best.

    Wonderful stories, thanks.  Indeed he is.  And congratuations you!

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