Never Bend the Knee

 

Over the weekend, I wrote about a massive fissure in a parenting group I am (was?) a part of. The group has a national arm and then nationwide “chapters” organizing nature hikes for parents and their young children. I wrote about my frustration that the group had become so hyper-politicized about Black Lives Matter (BLM) and shared the thoughts of other mothers who contacted me feeling the same.

Since I wrote that post, one of the national board members, the Director of Communications, has resigned. It’s not because the group has gone woke… no, it’s because the group isn’t woke enough. I am about to share screenshots of the resignation letter she circulated, and as you read I would like you to continually remind yourself that this woman is resigning from a volunteer position posting on social media about a nature group that has not, in her mind, gone far enough endorsing BLM.

 

 

Here’s why I think this dustup, which I’ve seen happen in other organized and nationwide parenting groups, is worthy of not one, but two posts here. It is instructive of how other organizations should deal with BLM or any other politicized movement. They shouldn’t. When I signed up to lead hikes I was told that facilitators do not / could not “Use FFS as a soapbox for your cause.” There are times and places for political conversations about racism, BLM, etc, but they are not in the workplace or at a nature playgroup.

And when companies and organizations are pressured into speaking out they learn what this organization just did: You’re never going to say enough or say the right thing. These radical progressives send a clear message, and it happens to be the right one: It is better to not say anything at all. The organization is going to fracture into a few camps: conservatives (very few), liberals who don’t think they’ve gone far enough (very few), and parents that are like “whoa, these folks are out of their minds and I don’t want to be trapped in the woods with them” (a great number). But it will break apart, and the untold hours of labor the organizers have put into it will be wasted because they didn’t think strategically about sticking to their mission.

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  1. Ontheleftcoast Inactive
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    Um, does anybody else think that “FFS” is a bit problematic? Hint: when I read it I think “For [expletive]’s Sake.” Though all things considered, that may actually be appropriate.

    As for kneeling, the first segment (18 minutes or so) here is highly relevant. Plus his bumper music is always terrific.

    https://www.michaelbane.tv/hard-facts-for-hard-times/45168/

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  2. EJHill Podcaster
    EJHill
    @EJHill

    This is the “reasoning” of outrage: I am going to accuse you of a crime. If you defend yourself and deny it, this will be seen as a guilty plea.

    Repeat after me: “Go F yourself.”

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  3. Old Bathos Member
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    @OldBathos

    I think we all need to work to reset the intentional imbalance.  Maybe frame it as a counter demand/offer:

    1. I reject actual racism but I do not accept that white people playing word games in pursuit of “systemic” racism offers any meaningful solutions or actions.
    2. I have in fact carefully examined the Black Lives matter statement of What We Believe.  I reject the claim that we need to “disrupt the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure”.  I reject Marxism as a viable source of ideas for positive political change.  I reject the fiction that the leftwing jargon on that page reflects the values of even a significant minority of African-Americans.
    3. I reject the word games of “white fragility”.  The desperate need to feel morally superior to others by means of costless, fraudulent moral drama springs from the same insecurities and narcissism as racism itself.  Only when we all learn speak in a language of equality with full understanding and forgiving acceptance of mutual imperfections can anything positive be achieved. Martin Luther King understood and lived that truth.
    4. I demand that statistical reality be acknowledged.  Police misconduct is by no means the most significant threat to the well-being of African-Americans.  I reject the demand that I am only permitted to focus on this issue to the exclusion of all others while ill-conceived political solutions and violence are perpetrated in its furtherance.
    5. I demand that we end the sheer lunacy of applying a standard of moral purity to the founding generation of Americans while ignoring the broader reality of the human condition in which they lived and which they helped to change.  I celebrate the fact that Washington and Jefferson were hypocritical enough to launch the only human rights revolution that rivals Christianity itself in the scope and breadth of its positive impact on the world.
    6. Mostly I demand that the tiresome posture of judgment and expectation of deference to the new religion of wokeness be dropped so that adults can once again freely engage in substantive conversation.
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  4. James Hageman Coolidge
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    Well, FFS. Return letters should be addressed, “Dear Karen.”

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  5. RyanFalcone Member
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    Well done Bethany.  The irony of that letter would be comical if it wasn’t so sad…..so very, very sad.

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  6. Ontheleftcoast Inactive
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    EJHill (View Comment):

    This is the “reasoning” of outrage: I am going to accuse you of a crime. If you defend yourself and deny it, this will be seen as a guilty plea.

    Repeat after me: “Go F yourself.”

    “FFS go F yourself.”

    FIFY

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  7. Tocqueville Inactive
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    @Tocqueville

    My first reaction is “I feel safe here in France? Is that what people are doing over there?!” (Lol. But actually we have other problems here).

    Secondly, what kind of parents are the ones who feel the nature appreciation club “didn’t go far enough?” I am genuinely curious to know. Seems like people so distracted and consumed with anger they would be unable to focus on showing wildflowers to children.

    When Bethany says the safest route for organizations (and individuals) is to say nothing at all, it’s worth adding that silence speaks volumes these days. We went to a school picnic at which there were Americans present and the subject of  Trump came up, inevitably. My husband and I and another woman were very quiet. I said to myself: “she’s one of us.” And I now like this woman a lot.

    But the subsequent problem is THEY too know what that means when we are silent. I refuse to do it, but it basically means we have to enthusiastically agree. And there’s no option B.

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  8. EJHill Podcaster
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    Bethany and I have had a discussion on this. I think that this post has a serious flaw, namely her failure to name names.

    This woman, whose name is Amanda Madison, published this slander in a public forum with her private email attached. There is no reasonable expectation of privacy on her part. Her vile methods should be exposed.

    While the organization scrubbed her name from the website it took me less than 3 minutes to get a name and verify it. Google links are a wonderful thing even if they return 404 errors.

    I’m not suggesting everyone should write her, but if we do not fight this insidious slandering of people in public someday we will all find ourselves on the business end of the rope.

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  9. CACrabtree Coolidge
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    After reading this, I can only say:

    1. I’m very happy that I don’t Facebook, Instagram, Tweet or Snapchat.
    2. I’m especially happy that I would never join a group that would have me.
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  10. iWe Coolidge
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    Any group that makes “nature” its core mission is already neo-pagan as far as I am concerned. It is no wonder that its leaders have no wisdom or greater perspective. 

     

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  11. Concretevol Thatcher
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    @Concretevol

    All I can say about this woman from FFS is JFC…..

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  12. E. Kent Golding Moderator
    E. Kent Golding
    @EKentGolding

    It’s crazy out in the woods theses days:

    https://www.foxnews.com/us/boy-scouts-require-diversity-inclusion-merit-badge-rank-eagle-scout

    The Boy Scouts are also admitting Girls,  which seems to threaten the Girl Scouts.

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  13. SMG Inactive
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    All I can think of [w.r.t the poor schmucks still trying to stick with that group] is The People’s Front of Judea…

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  14. The Cynthonian Inactive
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    Old Bathos (View Comment):

    I think we all need to work to reset the intentional imbalance. Maybe frame it as a counter demand/offer:

    1. I reject actual racism but I do not accept that white people playing word games in pursuit of “systemic” racism offers any meaningful solutions or actions.
    2. I have in fact carefully examined the Black Lives matter statement of What We Believe. I reject the claim that we need to “disrupt the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure”. I reject Marxism as a viable source of ideas for positive political change. I reject the fiction that the leftwing jargon on that page reflects the values of even a significant minority of African-Americans.
    3. I reject the word games of “white fragility”. The desperate need to feel morally superior to others by means of costless, fraudulent moral drama springs from the same insecurities and narcissism as racism itself. Only when we all learn speak in a language of equality with full understanding and forgiving acceptance of mutual imperfections can anything positive be achieved. Martin Luther King understood and lived that truth.
    4. I demand that statistical reality be acknowledged. Police misconduct is by no means the most significant threat to the well-being of African-Americans. I reject the demand that I am only permitted to focus on this issue to the exclusion of all others while ill-conceived political solutions and violence are perpetrated in its furtherance.
    5. I demand that we end the sheer lunacy of applying a standard to moral purity to the founding generation of Americans while ignoring the broader reality of the human condition in which they lived and which they helped to change. I celebrate the fact that Washington and Jefferson were hypocritical enough to launch the only human rights revolution that rivals Christianity itself in the scope and breadth of its impact on the world.
    6. Mostly I demand that the tiresome posture of judgment and expectation of deference to the new religion of wokeness be dropped so that adults can once again freely engage in substantive conversation.

    This is so good.  I’m going to save it for future use, if you don’t mind.  I will provide proper attribution, of course!

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  15. Dominique Prynne Member
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    @DominiquePrynne

    I am part of a running group/app that has members worldwide.  After George Floyd’s death, several members demanded the founders/managers of the running app make a statement in support of BLM as there silence up to that point was an “endorsement of racism.”  (As if anybody, anywhere endorsed the horror in St. Paul?)  The founder issued a statement that they are a running app and would like to retain their focus on running as there are other places for discussions about racism and that the app/group values all of its members etc etc but let’s focus on running  Within hours the group had blown up with this statement being viewed as Exhibit A by more socially woke members that the app community is racist.  (The statement issued was worse then the silence before it was issued don’t you know?)   A second, way more woke statement was issued shortly by the app founders fully endorsing everything BLM/Systemic racism.  This same app does Pride Runs, Military Appreciation Runs, Holiday-themed runs and so on.  I don’t support every cause they run for, but I just run the ones I want to participate in and keep my mouth shut and let others support the causes they care about. Easy-Peasy!  No drama.  Just shut up and run!  The running is my escape from all this and I resent my app being hijacked for non-running purposes!  As others have said – you will be made to care – and it is exhausting!

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