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Early on, when my wife and I were dating, we went to the grocery store, and I told her that sometimes I just buy birthday cakes, and I eat them. And she said: ‘Really? I do, too.’ –Tom Cotton
I couldn’t help but chuckle over this comment by the dignified and reserved Senator Tom Cotton. It was good to see that he could see the silly and sweet parts of courtship.
When I first met my husband, my experience was quite the opposite from the Cottons, who connected on such a delicious (pun intended) level: my husband was this intense, skinny guy who drove a corvette and liked to ride motorcycles. We were two people, it seemed, who couldn’t be more different.
We were set up on a blind date, and he seemed pleasant enough, but when I didn’t hear from him after a few weeks, I frankly forgot about him. So when he called me again, introducing himself only as “Jerry,” I wracked my brain to figure out who he was. He explained that he hadn’t called because he had been rebuilding his motorcycle for several weeks and had also gone on a vacation. Right.
But we went out again. And every time we dated, it seemed we were jinxed. The first date he was late because a cousin stopped by his home with car trouble; the second time he was late because he flooded his corvette engine (something about a burr); the next time he was stopped by a cop who wanted to check to see if his motorcycle’s springer front end was the legal length. Then we got caught in L.A. traffic on our way to a play (which made us both late). And then there was a time when we went out on a jetty at Newport Beach and were doused by a rogue wave. (At least we kept our footing!)
So you can see why I had my doubts about where the relationship would go. But I did like him. We shared similar values and outlooks on life. He made me laugh. And he was clearly very smart. (I’ve always been a sucker for smart guys.)
We were engaged after dating for a year, and married the following year.
We’ll be married 46 years in July.
And he still makes me laugh.
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