Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Quote of the Day: “Bless Your Heart”

 

“And should life get dicey, I have a couple surefire strategies for coping. You can say almost anything with both strength and dignity if you start with, ‘With all due respect.’ And a well-timed ‘Bless your heart’ will keep your enemies guessing. So live your life with grit and grace. Count your blessings. Love your family. And remember: Even on our worst days, we are blessed to live in America.” — Nikki Haley

Every time I think of these two comments, I can’t help smiling. The “Bless your heart” comment is apparently one she uses in a sardonic way, Southern woman-style. She said it to President Trump after he attacked her during his first Presidential campaign when she wasn’t yet supporting him. The “With all due respect” comment, if I recall correctly, was her reaction to Larry Kudlow, after he publicly called her “confused” because he was unsatisfied with something she reported. It wasn’t his best moment, and she wanted him to know it. Eventually, she persuaded him that he had to publicly correct the record.

I admire Nikki Haley because she has an iron will and loads of grit. She is also compassionate and sensitive, actually suffering from PTSD after attending the funerals of the victims of the South Carolina church shooting. She has also learned that when she has a strong reaction to something that happens or something said, she tries to wait 24 hours before responding.

Her intellect, patience, humor, and dedication to this country have served her, and all of us, very well.

I hope she runs for President in 2024.

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  1. OldPhil Coolidge

    Haley-Crenshaw 2024!

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    • January 10, 2020, at 6:24 AM PST
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  2. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    OldPhil (View Comment):

    Haley-Crenshaw 2024!

    OOh, I like it! That black patch is so sexy! ;-) Actually I do like him, too, and I think they’d make a great pair. Time will tell . . . thanks, @oldphil!

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    • January 10, 2020, at 6:33 AM PST
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  3. Spin Coolidge
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    I really want a solid candidate in 2024, and if she was a woman, it’d be great. Because I can’t wait to tell all my liberal friends they are sexist for not voting for her.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 6:39 AM PST
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  4. Arahant Member

    Spin (View Comment):
    Because I can’t wait to tell all my liberal friends they are sexist for not voting for her.

    That works.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 6:54 AM PST
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  5. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    From her book regarding the comment from Larry Kudlow:

    The miscommunication raised a media firestorm, which Haley said the White House had to extinguish right away. During her book tour and detailed in her memoir, Haley offered up. “Larry Kudlow threw me under the bus, saying I was momentarily confused.” Since that cast a bad light on Haley she took matters in her own hands.

    “It was 4:45 on Tuesday afternoon. I knew the only way I could correct what was misleading about the story was to stand up for myself. I called Fox’s Dana Perino who is a friend and asked her to do me a favor. She said she would. I knew she would be going on to do The Five in a few minutes, so I said please share this comment for me. ‘With all due respect, I don’t get confused’.”

    Whether Perino had a previous piece ready for the panel’s ‘One More Thing’ segment at the closing of the show, she went with the quote from Haley instead. Haley went on to say that Kudlow called her almost immediately after The Five went off the air, offering an apology. Haley added for the audience her response to Kudlow. “In what world is it ever okay to say someone is confused, and more importantly in what world is it okay to say I’m confused.”

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    • January 10, 2020, at 6:55 AM PST
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  6. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    This was what caused the kerfuffle with Kudlow:

    Offering up information on a Sunday morning’s Face The Nation, Haley indicated that sanctions on Russia would be coming down on Monday due to their support of Assad’s use of chemical warfare. While the administration made it clear to Haley prior to the weekend, they did not advise her Trump had changed his mind on Saturday before her appearance on the news show Sunday morning.

    The White House did not tell her about the change.

     

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    • January 10, 2020, at 6:58 AM PST
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  7. James Gawron Thatcher
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    Suzy,

    Oh, how I like this gal.

    Regards,

    Jim

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    • January 10, 2020, at 7:27 AM PST
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  8. Franco Member
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    I am wary of her. Not really worth it right now to explain why, and I could be wrong.

    Anyway, I have grown very tired of this method of expression.
    The “with all due respect” phrase is overused and blatantly misused in nearly every case. At best it is a meaningless, at worst it means the opposite.You can disagree with someone and still respect them. You don’t have to use this phrase. It’s a kind-of verbal cudgel, or a set-up phrase for a zinger.

    Worse is the “ bless your heart”. If I understand the Commandment “ Thal shalt not take the Lord’s name in vain” correctly, I believe this is the kind of thing it refers to. Vanity is ego and glorification of self. Saying bless your heart when you really don’t mean it, and using the phrase to make yourself look good, putting down someone in a condescending manner, is ugly. It’s a virtue-signal that you hide behind piety when dealing snark. You want to be snarky, I got no complaints. You want to pretend to be superior using what is ultimately sarcasm couched in religious terms, I lose respect.

    It makes the speaker look hypocritical, and doesn’t say much for the speakers religious beliefs.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 7:49 AM PST
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  9. Franco Member
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    Susan Quinn’s expected response to Franco:

    With all due respect, Franco, Bless your heart…

    😉

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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:00 AM PST
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  10. JoelB Member

    Franco (View Comment):

    Anyway, I have grown very tired of this method of expression.
    The “with all due respect” phrase is overused and blatantly misused in nearly every case. At best it is a meaningless, at worst it means the opposite.You can disagree with someone and still respect them. You don’t have to use this phrase. It’s a kind-of verbal cudgel, or a set-up phrase for a zinger.

    To me, the phrase “with all due respect” has always seemed to beg the question of how much respect is due.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:04 AM PST
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  11. Arahant Member

    Franco (View Comment):

    Susan Quinn’s expected response to Franco:

    With all due respect, Franco, Bless your heart…

    😉

    I was considering doing it.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:09 AM PST
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  12. Vectorman Thatcher

    Franco (View Comment):
    Vanity is ego and glorification of self. Saying bless your heart when you really don’t mean it, and using the phrase to make yourself look good, putting down someone in a condescending manner, is ugly.

    I don’t remember when I first heard that phrase used, but I though it was positive, as I grew up near Chicago. But I’ve never understood the difference between flammable and inflammable either.


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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:15 AM PST
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  13. Arahant Member

    Vectorman (View Comment):
    But I’ve never understood the difference between flammable and inflammable either.

    There isn’t one. The opposite is non-flammable.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:20 AM PST
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  14. Vectorman Thatcher

    Arahant (View Comment):

    Vectorman (View Comment):
    But I’ve never understood the difference between flammable and inflammable either.

    There isn’t one. The opposite is non-flammable.

    I was trying to make a Yakov Smirnoff joke. My bad.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:25 AM PST
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  15. Spin Coolidge
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    JoelB (View Comment):
    To me, the phrase “with all due respect” has always seemed to beg the question of how much respect is due.

    I knew a sergeant in the Army, great soldier, great leader, runs the KFC in Bellefontaine, OH now. He always said “If you say ‘with all due respect’, it’s only because you are about to disrespect someone.” I think he’s got a point.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 8:38 AM PST
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  16. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Franco (View Comment):
    It makes the speaker look hypocritical, and doesn’t say much for the speakers religious beliefs.

    C’mon, Franco, it’s all about having a sense of irony. You know very well that’s what she was doing. Don’t go literal on me. And Trump thinks she’s great. She was using “with all due respect” as a poke. The same with “bless your heart.”

    Franco (View Comment):
    You want to be snarky, I got no complaints. You want to pretend to be superior using what is ultimately sarcasm couched in religious terms, I lose respect.

    Seriously? She didn’t bring G-d into it. You did. Now go to your room. ;-)

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    • January 10, 2020, at 9:13 AM PST
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  17. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Spin (View Comment):

    JoelB (View Comment):
    To me, the phrase “with all due respect” has always seemed to beg the question of how much respect is due.

    I knew a sergeant in the Army, great soldier, great leader, runs the KFC in Bellefontaine, OH now. He always said “If you say ‘with all due respect’, it’s only because you are about to disrespect someone.” I think he’s got a point.

    I think the context matters a great deal–who is saying it, why, and the tone. It’s called subtlety.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 9:14 AM PST
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  18. Arahant Member

    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    Seriously? She didn’t bring G-d into it.

    Sort of. “Bless your heart” is short for “G-d bless your heart.”

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  19. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Arahant (View Comment):

    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    Seriously? She didn’t bring G-d into it.

    Sort of. “Bless your heart” is short for “G-d bless your heart.”

    I’ll stick with the “sort-of.” The sardonic part.

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  20. Marythefifth Member
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    I doubt anyone who grew up hearing and using Bless Your Heart, uses it specifically to call down a blessing from God. I hear it as a loving way to correct someone, as in a familial relationship, albeit with a bit of exasperation. You couldn’t be more wrong and I still love you, sort of thing.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 9:58 AM PST
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  21. Marythefifth Member
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    Ooh, thanks, Ricochet, for the added cachet of the “Charter Member” logo.

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  22. Bullwinkle Member

    Franco (View Comment):

    I am wary of her. Not really worth it right now to explain why, and I could be wrong.

    Interesting you say that. I have two conflicting thoughts about her:

    • On the whole, I think she is great. Seems tough, but has compassion. Figured out how to work with Trump. Seemingly, would make a great presidential candidate. 
    • This is not fair, but I cant shake this nagging thought comparing her to Sarah Palin. My initial thoughts about Palin mirrored my current thoughts about Haley… But in time, I had to retract all the positives thoughts I had about Palin. Frankly, I was dead wrong about Palin. I really don’t want to be burnt in the same way with Haley. 

     

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    • January 10, 2020, at 10:01 AM PST
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  23. Bill Nelson Member

    Franco (View Comment):
    I am wary of her. Not really worth it right now to explain why, and I could be wrong.

    She is the consummate politician. And she is quite flexible. And very good at reading trends.

    Which begs the key question: what are her principles?

     

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  24. Franco Member
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    Susan Quinn (View Comment):

    Arahant (View Comment):

    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    Seriously? She didn’t bring G-d into it.

    Sort of. “Bless your heart” is short for “G-d bless your heart.”

    I’ll stick with the “sort-of.” The sardonic part.

    I’m of the mind that God, or some higher saint is implied here also. Otherwise it means that the person saying bless your heart has the power to do so. I don’t know a religion, other than modern leftism, that believes people can bless other people.

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  25. Spin Coolidge
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    Bullwinkle (View Comment):
    This is not fair, but I cant shake this nagging thought comparing her to Sarah Palin. My initial thoughts about Palin mirrored my current thoughts about Haley… But in time, I had to retract all the positives thoughts I had about Palin. Frankly, I was dead wrong about Palin. I really don’t want to be burnt in the same way with Haley. 

    Sarah Palin is dumb not intelligent. Nikki Haley is intelligent.

    I worry about Nikki Haley the same way I worry about all politicians. But I worry less about her…because she is so HOT! I am enchanted by her exotic beauty. (sexist!)

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    • January 10, 2020, at 10:11 AM PST
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  26. Franco Member
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    Marythefifth (View Comment):

    I doubt anyone who grew up hearing and using Bless Your Heart, uses it specifically to call down a blessing from God. I hear it as a loving way to correct someone, as in a familial relationship, albeit with a bit of exasperation. You couldn’t be more wrong and I still love you, sort of thing.

    Yes, but this Still doesn’t make sense to me. I love you but you’re wrong , still has the pretense that the person who is being challenged automatically or inherently believes that criticism, or a challenge means you don’t love or like him/her.

    Where did that idea come from? 

    Otherwise it’s a debating tactic that gets old real quick. Can’t people see the vapid condescension in these phrases?

    I can see using them from time to time (although I certainly won’t) but the quote in the OP is about using it as a tactic. Cute, Nikki, but a big fail in my book.

    PS Love ya, Susan!😘

     

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  27. Snirtler Member

    Franco (View Comment):

    I don’t know a religion, other than modern leftism, that believes people can bless other people.

    Hippie Catholicism.

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  28. Franco Member
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    Bullwinkle (View Comment):

    Franco (View Comment):

    I am wary of her. Not really worth it right now to explain why, and I could be wrong.

    Interesting you say that. I have two conflicting thoughts about her:

    • On the whole, I think she is great. Seems tough, but has compassion. Figured out how to work with Trump. Seemingly, would make a great presidential candidate.
    • This is not fair, but I cant shake this nagging thought comparing her to Sarah Palin. My initial thoughts about Palin mirrored my current thoughts about Haley… But in time, I had to retract all the positives thoughts I had about Palin. Frankly, I was dead wrong about Palin. I really don’t want to be burnt in the same way with Haley.

    I too, liked Palin at first. I loved how she directly challenged the media. But then she lost me because she was a pretty bad candidate. I would say she, more than any other political candidate, suffered from the hot chick syndrome. 
    Haley is much more capable and substantial but still, I see a bit of that hot chick thing going on. That’s actually something that men do to women, but the women internalize it unconsciously, which is normal.

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  29. iWe Reagan
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    Nothing personal, but you smell bad.

    With all due respect, you are an idiot.

    Honestly…. (lie)

    To be clear…. (obfuscation)

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  30. Arahant Member

    Spin (View Comment):
    Sarah Palin is dumb not intelligent.

    Bullwinkle (View Comment):
    This is not fair, but I cant shake this nagging thought comparing her to Sarah Palin. My initial thoughts about Palin mirrored my current thoughts about Haley… But in time, I had to retract all the positives thoughts I had about Palin. Frankly, I was dead wrong about Palin.

    The press attacked Palin. McCain’s people attacked Palin. SNL attacked Palin. People think she said things that one of the actresses on SNL said. Palin may have been slightly out of her depth (as was McCain and his entire campaign). She was from a small population state. She had not been governor for long. She was not ready for the vindictive and partisan national media. On the other hand, she didn’t ask to be asked to run for VP. If anything, she was a sort of a pre-Trump in the second slot. But there is still a lot to say for Sarah Palin.

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    • January 10, 2020, at 10:29 AM PST
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