Jewish Birthdays are Special

 

Everyone’s birthday is special. But until I started to study Judaism more carefully, I didn’t realize how auspicious birthdays are to the Jewish people.

I think this statement makes the point well:

Your birthday commemorates the day on which G‑d said to you: ‘You, as an individual, are unique and irreplaceable. No person alive, no person who has ever lived, and no person who shall ever live, can fulfill the specific role in My creation I have entrusted to you…’

As a Jew I find this sentiment both overwhelming and heartening. It reinforces the belief I’ve arrived at that as a Jew, I have a serious responsibility to serve G-d and everyone whose life I touch. I accept G-d’s expectation for me to be creative and appreciate my life. And I feel grateful to be given the gift of life and the opportunity to serve. And I believe that G-d has invested me and all of us with His spirit. I also appreciate the beauty of this statement to Jews:

This is the day when you were given the mandate to change the world. The day when G‑d entrusted you with the mission to challenge a world that is hostile to spirituality and transform it into G‑d’s private sanctum. And in accomplishing this goal, you, too, were given the ability to achieve incredible spiritual heights—heights unimaginable to the soul before it was dispatched from its lofty heavenly abode to inhabit a physical body.

Celebrating a birthday is also a demonstration that you are and will continue to be worthy of G‑d’s trust. No matter the obstacles, you will persevere and live up to G‑d’s expectations of you.

In some Orthodox communities, boys who turn three years old receive their first haircut, called an Upsherin, and a special meal:

A child’s third birthday signals a major transition in his or her education. For the first three years of life, a child absorbs the surrounding sights and sounds and the parents’ loving care. The child is a receiver, not yet ready to give. At the age of three, children’s education takes a leap—they are now ready to produce and share their unique gifts.

At approximately three, girls can begin lighting the Sabbath candles. At five, a child begins formal Torah study; at 13, young people celebrate their coming of age with a bar mitzvah (boys) or bat mitzvah (girls).

I missed all of these celebrations. But I am now aware of this next one that is on the horizon:

The eighty-third birthday is also associated with a Jewish custom. Many believe that a person has lived a full life when reaching 70. According to Psalm 90:10, ‘The days of our years are seventy years.’ If you reach 83, you have the right to celebrate your bar mitzvah all over again.

I didn’t have a first bat mitzvah. But who knows what I will decide at 83, since today I am 70 years old.

 

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  1. Vectorman Inactive
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    L’Chaim!

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  2. She Member
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    Happy Special Birthday, Susan!

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  3. Stad Coolidge
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    Happy Birthday!

    Feel free to give neutral observer advice, because next year she also turns . . . uh . . . forget I said anything . . .

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  4. Percival Thatcher
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    Happy birthday, Susan.

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  5. Podkayne of Israel Inactive
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    The Rebbe was no fool.

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  6. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    We invited five pairs of friends to join us at a nice dinner last night (since the space we wanted wasn’t available today). It was so lovely, and they are such great people–all neighbors. One neighbor, whom we call Mr. Mayor, put a sign on our lawn with balloons to wish me a happy birthday. It’s all good!

    Edit: Actually Jerry and I made the count 12, so we only invited 5 couples.

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  7. James Hageman Coolidge
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    Happy birthday!

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  8. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Stad (View Comment):

    Happy Birthday!

    Feel free to give neutral observer advice, because next year she also turns . . . uh . . . forget I said anything . . .

    Jerry suggested that Mr. Mayor also put my age on the sign, and he protested that he wasn’t about to do that! I’ve never been one of those women who feels she has to hide her age. I’ve worked darn hard to stay well enough for 70 and although I can be as vain as the next woman, I don’t see the big deal. 70 YEARS OLD! Yippee!

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  9. iWe Coolidge
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    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

    And many more….

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  10. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    I want to acknowledge those of you who have wished me well, but I think I’ll do it in a group to avoid pumping up my comments. So thanks ever so much to @she, @percival, @JamesHageman, @vectorman, @iwe, @stad, and @podkayneofisrael. I’m most grateful for your good wishes.

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  11. Samuel Block Support
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    Yay! Birthday!

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  12. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Samuel Block (View Comment):

    Yay! Birthday!

    That was my excuse yesterday for calling you Simon. Is it working?

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  13. Samuel Block Support
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    Susan Quinn (View Comment):

    Samuel Block (View Comment):

    Yay! Birthday!

    That was my excuse yesterday for calling you Simon. Is it working?

    Of course it is Sheila! 😜

    I hope you have a wonderful day, week, year, and second life. (Does that start for you now, or after you’ve completed this year?)

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  14. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Now that is a complicated question. I don’t know what Judaism says. But my husband likes to remind me that I’m actually beginning my 71st year.

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  15. Samuel Block Support
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    Susan Quinn (View Comment):

    Now that is a complicated question. I don’t know what Judaism says. But my husband likes to remind me that I’m actually beginning my 71st year.

    Okay, that makes sense. You’ve completed 70 years… so your not even 1 full day in!

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  16. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    BTW, my Jewish calendar birthday is Cheshvan 23, 5780

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  17. Arahant Member
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    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    I think I’ll do it in a group to avoid pumping up my comments.

    It’s your birthday. Pump away!

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  18. Arahant Member
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    Many happy returns of the day, Susan.

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  19. TheRightNurse Member
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    Image result for happy birthday Jamie in a kilt

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  20. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    TheRightNurse (View Comment):

    Image result for happy birthday Jamie in a kilt

    Cool! Ahem. From a distance, of course. . .

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  21. TBA Coolidge
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    Happy Birthday, and Joyous Decadal Attainment! 

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  22. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    TBA (View Comment):

    Happy Birthday, and Joyous Decadal Attainment!

    Woo-hoo! I’ll take it! and thanks to you, @robtgilsdorf, @therightnurse, @arahant, @samuelblock, too! It’s a lovely to celebrate!

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  23. Umbra Fractus Inactive
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    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    I’ve never been one of those women who feels she has to hide her age. I’ve worked darn hard to stay well enough for 70 and although I can be as vain as the next woman, I don’t see the big deal.

    For what it’s worth, I thought you were younger.

    Happy birthday!

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  24. Susan Quinn Contributor
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    Umbra Fractus (View Comment):

    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    I’ve never been one of those women who feels she has to hide her age. I’ve worked darn hard to stay well enough for 70 and although I can be as vain as the next woman, I don’t see the big deal.

    For what it’s worth, I thought you were younger.

    Happy birthday!

    Hey, I love it! I’ll take it! Bonus points to the man who knew enough to flatter me!

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  25. Clifford A. Brown Member
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  26. Bethany Mandel Coolidge
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    My husband’s grandfather did this when he was 83! It’s a family party everyone is still talking about. Do it! 

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  27. Bethany Mandel Coolidge
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    Umbra Fractus (View Comment):

    Susan Quinn (View Comment):
    I’ve never been one of those women who feels she has to hide her age. I’ve worked darn hard to stay well enough for 70 and although I can be as vain as the next woman, I don’t see the big deal.

    For what it’s worth, I thought you were younger.

    Happy birthday!

    Ditto!

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  28. Gary McVey Contributor
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    We’re so lucky you chose to share it with us, Susan!

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  29. Kay of MT Inactive
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    Susan Quinn (View Comment):

    BTW, my Jewish calendar birthday is Cheshvan 23, 5780

    Good grief, you’re old! But I still beat you by 11 years, so Happy Birthday, with bells, and chimes. May all your Birthdays be blessed.

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  30. RushBabe49 Thatcher
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    Happy birthday Susan! Welcome to the 70 club! Oh, and welcome to the RMD club too, though you don’t hit that milestone until next year. I got caught this year.

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