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“Just the place for a Snark!” the Bellman cried,
As he landed his crew with care;
Supporting each man on the top of the tide
By a finger entwined in his hair.
“Just the place for a Snark! I have said it twice:
That alone should encourage the crew.
Just the place for a Snark! I have said it thrice:
What I tell you three times is true.” — Lewis Carroll, The Hunting of the Snark
My middle son is getting married today.
For the third time.
To the same woman.
All within a year.
Seriously. Pipeliner and Viet Girl are getting married to each other for the third time this year. The first ceremony was in Viet Girl’s home country of Vietnam. It was an engagement ceremony, which in Vietnam is equivalent to a marriage. It was done there so all of her Vietnamese relatives could attend. The second one was a civil ceremony in the United States, shortly after she arrived here on a fiancée visa.
US immigration law calls for anyone entering on a fiancée visa to marry the intended spouse named in the visa within 90 days of arrival. If not, the immigrant must leave the United States and is not allowed to return. Ever. This is to prevent people from using fiancée visas as a “Get in the US Free” card. And you get interviewed before being granted the visa to ensure the couple know each other and it is not a marriage of convenience.
So, the went ahead and got married in the eyes of the law as soon as they could.
This is the church wedding, where they get married in the eyes of God. The definitive one as far as they concerned. The relatives are coming, on both sides of the family. (Viet Girl has two sisters in the US — one in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, and one in the Houston area. My mother, in her late 80s is coming (escorted by a granddaughter who lives in the same town).
And, as far as all of us are concerned, the third time will be the charm. Certainly, after the two of them go through a marriage ceremony for the third time they will be so thoroughly married they must inevitably believe what they were told three times is true.