Here is a good article from KayDeeDub on apologies. Read it first, then my post. Or not … I don’t care. It’s your life.
Years ago, at a job I no longer work at, I did something that I knew was wrong when I did it and knew I could get fired if someone found out. I won’t give details I’ll just say it was about money, so you won’t think I was doing something untoward in a closet. Anyway, I did get found out. I sat down with my boss and simply confessed. Yes, I did it. Here’s why I did it. I knew it was wrong to do. I’ll fix it. And you can and probably should fire me, I deserve it. I’m sorry.
I didn’t lose my job for three reasons: my boss was a good man, I had a spotless record up until then (and since, I might add), and I fessed up with neither excuse nor blame.
Here is my point: everyone “makes mistakes.” And by mistakes I mean does something stupid that they know is immoral, unethical, and/or illegal. If someone says otherwise they are lying to you. But it is not those mistakes that define us. It is how we deal with the consequences of those mistakes that, at least in part, define us.
Here is my other point: when faced with a tough choice, the right choice is always the right choice. We know what the right thing to do is. Always do the right thing. You may suffer short term consequences at first, but long term you will always be better off.Published in