Recommended by Ricochet Members Created with Sketch. Feeling Toxic? Let It Go.

 

I have seen a few posts toxic masculinity and one about some males who could use a bit more toxicity, then I saw this…

A few points about this Tweet:

1. A dad being silly with his kid is not a bad thing at all. In fact, the other day my wife was sitting on the couch folding laundry when I picked up a pair of my (clean) underwear and put it on my head. I then proceeded to try to have a discussion with my children. “Hey, I asked you a serious question and all you can do is point and laugh?!” Eventually the kids were laughing so hard they had tears running down their faces (they’re an easy crowd). Now, I wouldn’t take a video of myself or put any of that online (because my goal was have fun with the kids, not self-promotion), but I want to make clear that what I find odd about this tweet is not that the dad played dress-up with his son. They seem to be having fun. I do not see this as someone trying to encourage their kid to be a child drag queen so they can work the clubs and pose with naked men.

2. But then, why would CBS News see this as worth sharing? Do they just see it as a fun little video or are they interested in breaking down gender stereotypes?

3. They labeled this “Best Dad.” Why is this better than a dad playing catch with his son, shooting hoops, going fishing, etc? Is this “Best” because they are wearing women’s clothing? Are they promoting gender fluidity and intersectionality in an effort to be more woke? Do I honestly know, or care to know, what any of those words mean?

4. The kid wanted to dance so the dad went and put on his Elsa costume. Now when I was child, had I asked my father to dress up like a princess and prance around the room, assuming he didn’t hit me and actually went along with it, we would have had a problem because my dad didn’t own any princess costumes. Neither do I or any guys I know. Do most men have these things? Am I missing out on something?

Anyway, if you feel like the whole manhood thing is getting too toxic for you, Let it Go . . .

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There are 51 comments.

  1. Flicker Inactive

    Is that… is that dress… taken in?!

    • #1
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:14 PM PST
    • 3 likes
  2. DrewInWisconsin, Influencer Coolidge

    Vance Richards: The kid wanted to dance so the dad went and put on his Elsa costume. Now when I was child, had I asked my father to dress up like a princess and prance around the room, assuming he didn’t hit me and actually went along with it, we would have had a problem because my dad didn’t own any princess costumes. Neither do I or any guys I know. Do most men have these things? Am I missing out on something?

    Are you suggesting this was . . . staged . . . for maximum viral internet exposure?

    Because you’re right — what man just happens to have a princess costume on hand, matching the one on his four-year-old son?

    • #2
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:14 PM PST
    • 28 likes
  3. Sisyphus Coolidge
    Sisyphus Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Some days the only thing to do with mediots is to drag them out and hose them down. 

    • #3
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:22 PM PST
    • 5 likes
  4. Fake John/Jane Galt Coolidge

    Reason 9887347234 why I am lucky not to have children.

    • #4
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:30 PM PST
    • 1 like
  5. Misthiocracy ingeniously Member
    Misthiocracy ingeniously Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Agreed. The problem isn’t that the dad is getting silly with his son.

    The real problem is two-fold:

    1. The dad felt it was a good idea to put it online, thereby taking what in the past would have been an ephemeral private moment between father and son and instead turning it into a permanent public record of his young son’s “identity” which will now be reinforced over time.
    2. It’s propagandized as an “ideal” by the powers-that-be, thereby implicitly denigrating any father who chooses different parenting methods.
    • #5
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:31 PM PST
    • 15 likes
  6. Columbo Member

    A sure sign that the end of the world is near!

    If anyone hears the sound of hoofbeats coming, send out a warning. 

    • #6
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:31 PM PST
    • 8 likes
  7. Arahant Member

    Columbo (View Comment):

    A sure sign that the end of the world is near!

    If anyone hears the sound of hoofbeats coming, send out a warning.

    Is that second dude in a dress?

    • #7
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:36 PM PST
    • 16 likes
  8. Columbo Member

    I do hope that this Dad and son were spoofing everyone and that this was well done satire.

    However, if not, here are relevant statistics straight from the CDC:

    Almost Two Percent of Youth Are “Transgender,” 35 Percent Of Whom Have Attempted Suicide

     

    • #8
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:40 PM PST
    • 2 likes
  9. DrewInWisconsin, Influencer Coolidge

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):

    Reason 9887347234 why I am lucky not to have children.

    Nah, kids are great, and “dad” is my favorite job.

    • #9
    • January 29, 2019, at 2:56 PM PST
    • 11 likes
  10. Barfly Member

    Estrogen poisoning affects untold numbers of innocent families. Please, contact the EPA for a home test kit – don’t let this happen to you.

    • #10
    • January 29, 2019, at 3:14 PM PST
    • 10 likes
  11. Flicker Inactive

    Barfly (View Comment):

    Estrogen poisoning affects untold numbers of innocent families. Please, contact the EPA for a home test kit – don’t let this happen to you.

    I don’t know if you’re kidding but soy is increasingly popular and high in estrogenomimetics, that act like estrogen without being estrogen. The can apparently cause feminizing symptoms in males and I suspect ovarian diseases in women as well. Estrogen therapy is not safe under all circumstances in women.

    • #11
    • January 29, 2019, at 3:29 PM PST
    • 8 likes
  12. OldDanRhody, 7152 Maple Dr. Member

    Vance Richards: Let it Go . . . 

    From a 5 year old friend:

    Why can’t Elsa have a helium balloon?

    Because she’ll just… let it go.

    • #12
    • January 29, 2019, at 3:47 PM PST
    • 9 likes
  13. 9thDistrictNeighbor Member

    Columbo (View Comment):

    A sure sign that the end of the world is near!

    If anyone hears the sound of hoofbeats coming, send out a warning.

    I think the real problem comes when heaven is silent for half an hour.

    https://youtu.be/abusPM-9mqQ

    • #13
    • January 29, 2019, at 3:55 PM PST
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  14. Fake John/Jane Galt Coolidge

    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):

    Reason 9887347234 why I am lucky not to have children.

    Nah, kids are great, and “dad” is my favorite job.

    This? Is the favorite part of being a dad? Really?

     

    • #14
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:01 PM PST
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  15. DrewInWisconsin, Influencer Coolidge

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):

    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):

    Reason 9887347234 why I am lucky not to have children.

    Nah, kids are great, and “dad” is my favorite job.

    This? Is the favorite part of being a dad? Really?

    Not the stupid guy in the dress. Dad-hood in general, though. Awesome. I have only daughters, though. And when they were little, they did sometimes stick little pink clips in my hair. And of course I let them. I once even forgot one was there and left the house to do some grocery shopping. Only later when I reached up to scratch my head did I discover that little pink clip.

    But anyway, yes, being a dad is great. I have no boy-children, though. But if I did, I would teach him all the manly stuff that has now been declared toxic. I hope to have a chance to teach boy-grandchildren.

    • #15
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:08 PM PST
    • 13 likes
  16. Flicker Inactive

    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):
    Dad-hood

    You mean like… a Red Riding Hood?

    • #16
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:14 PM PST
    • 1 like
  17. Doug Watt Moderator

    Barfly (View Comment):

    Estrogen poisoning affects untold numbers of innocent families. Please, contact the EPA for a home test kit – don’t let this happen to you.

    Just say no to soy milk.

     

    • #17
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:16 PM PST
    • 9 likes
  18. DrewInWisconsin, Influencer Coolidge

    Flicker (View Comment):

    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):
    Dad-hood

    You mean like… a Red Riding Hood?

    More like Robin Hood. Except my toxic daughter is the archer in this family.

    • #18
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:42 PM PST
    • 6 likes
  19. Paul Erickson Member

    Leaves me cold.

    • #19
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:46 PM PST
    • 2 likes
  20. Boss Mongo Member

    Goofball antics are a big part of a Dad’s job.

    Don’t have to wear a dress to do it, though.

    Kilt, different story.

    • #20
    • January 29, 2019, at 4:56 PM PST
    • 18 likes
  21. WI Con Member
    WI Con Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):

    DrewInWisconsin (View Comment):

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):

    Reason 9887347234 why I am lucky not to have children.

    Nah, kids are great, and “dad” is my favorite job.

    This? Is the favorite part of being a dad? Really?

    Not the stupid guy in the dress. Dad-hood in general, though. Awesome. I have only daughters, though. And when they were little, they did sometimes stick little pink clips in my hair. And of course I let them. I once even forgot one was there and left the house to do some grocery shopping. Only later when I reached up to scratch my head did I discover that little pink clip.

    But anyway, yes, being a dad is great. I have no boy-children, though. But if I did, I would teach him all the manly stuff that has now been declared toxic. I hope to have a chance to teach boy-grandchildren.

    I’m blessed with two boys and two girls. It’s wonderful to talk, joke, shop, watch movies respectively. The boys and I had a great time last weekend shopping for weaponry, grilling meats (the girls are vegetarians!). Interesting to witness how differently they are wired. 

    • #21
    • January 29, 2019, at 5:53 PM PST
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  22. Ralphie Member

    Flicker (View Comment):

    Barfly (View Comment):

    Estrogen poisoning affects untold numbers of innocent families. Please, contact the EPA for a home test kit – don’t let this happen to you.

    I don’t know if you’re kidding but soy is increasingly popular and high in estrogenomimetics, that act like estrogen without being estrogen. The can apparently cause feminizing symptoms in males and I suspect ovarian diseases in women as well. Estrogen therapy is not safe under all circumstances in women.

    Agree. Estrogen is also found in some city water supplies, and it has also believed to have effected fish. I don’t think the treatment plants are removing all the chemicals in birth control, etc. and that is why we should not flush meds down the toilet.

    • #22
    • January 29, 2019, at 6:55 PM PST
    • 4 likes
  23. Randy Webster Member

    Fake John/Jane Galt (View Comment):
    Reason 9887347234 why I am lucky not to have children.

    You worry too much. I never wore dresses when we were raising the kids, and they turned out alright.

    • #23
    • January 29, 2019, at 7:57 PM PST
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  24. Flicker Inactive

    Ralphie (View Comment):
    Agree. Estrogen is also found in some city water supplies, and it has also believed to have effected fish. I don’t think the treatment plants are removing all the chemicals in birth control, etc. and that is why we should not flush meds down the toilet.

    Really you shouldn’t even pee down your toilet. How many people are drinking water treatment plant water today?

    • #24
    • January 29, 2019, at 8:26 PM PST
    • 1 like
  25. Boss Mongo Member

    Flicker (View Comment):
    Really you shouldn’t even pee down your toilet. How many people are drinking water treatment plant water today?

    So, uh, where’n hell am I supposed to pee?

    • #25
    • January 29, 2019, at 8:27 PM PST
    • 2 likes
  26. Flicker Inactive

    Boss Mongo (View Comment):

    Flicker (View Comment):
    Really you shouldn’t even pee down your toilet. How many people are drinking water treatment plant water today?

    So, uh, where’n hell am I supposed to pee?

    I guess wherever they say. This is not uncommon and has been reported quietly for a few years. Apparently lot of psychotropic drugs are flushed out whole through the urine, and they just can’t get removed from the streams and rivers, or processed out by water treatment centers and are even getting into ground water, in of course very low doses I imagine. They say, perhaps overly fearfully, that this is affecting wild fauna. I don’t have any specifics and no answers other than — I don’t know what to do. Off-the-grid and water catchment is always looking better and better to me.

    • #26
    • January 29, 2019, at 9:39 PM PST
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  27. Annefy Member

    JY and I raised three boys and a girl. And the girl was not girly – how could she be? So JY lived many happy years with the boys in Boy Scouts, spitting and whatever.

    So now he has two little granddaughters. Who have more Barbies than I have money.

    I do all the singing and dancing, but he knows more words to Troll songs than he’ll admit to. And there’s nothing funnier than watching him and his sons struggling to dress a Barbie.

    That said, the video that is the subject of the OP felt contrived. Nothing like the video I love of Marines singing the same song.

    • #27
    • January 30, 2019, at 1:52 AM PST
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  28. Arahant Member

    Annefy (View Comment):
    That said, the video that is the subject of the OP felt contrived. Nothing like the video I love of Marines singing the same song.

    I’m laughing so hard here.

    • #28
    • January 30, 2019, at 1:58 AM PST
    • 6 likes
  29. Annefy Member

    Arahant (View Comment):

    Annefy (View Comment):
    That said, the video that is the subject of the OP felt contrived. Nothing like the video I love of Marines singing the same song.

    I’m laughing so hard here.

    A few years ago, my entire family vacationed at a California lake. Everyday we would load all the coolers and kids into the back of the truck for the short drive to the lake. (We all had to disembark before we got to the entrance, because letting kids sit in the back of the truck was oh-so-dangerous at 5mph).

    Once we loaded up, my daughter would cue up “Let it go” on her iPhone, and we’d belt it out, while I threw ice from the cooler in the air.

    Good times. No video. Lots of good memories.

    • #29
    • January 30, 2019, at 2:21 AM PST
    • 8 likes
  30. Henry Racette Contributor
    1. My G-d, Twitter is such a stupid place.
    2. I guess I don’t have a point two.
    3. Oh, wait. How about one showing a dad taking his young daughter shooting? Or would that be just too counter-cultural?
    • #30
    • January 30, 2019, at 6:44 AM PST
    • 9 likes