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This week in my Twitter feed, I saw Stormy Daniels and comedienne Kathy Griffin posing and “flipping the bird”; their caption using an obscene hashtag directed towards Donald Trump. Now, both women have been in some hot water for past vulgar criticisms of the sitting President, but this particular act went without reprimand and even received praise.
Earlier in the week, I opened my Twitter app and immediately had a picture of a man with a bearded face staring back at me with an intense glare, raising his middle finger. That man was Pennsylvania House Representative, Brian Sims, and his gesture was not towards me personally, but to Vice President, Mike Pence.
While I felt as if I had to choose between the lesser of two evils in the 2016 election, I would not go as far as to say I am a “Never Trumper.” I certainly have my reservations about him; however, I have been pleasantly surprised with some things, too. This is not my point, and I do not have a problem with criticism towards any political figure. My problem is with the lack of tact in recent years. Perhaps I am old-fashioned, but since when has it been acceptable for women such as Daniels and Griffin, to earn praise for acting like … well … “Nasty Women?”
I am not saying I am perfect, in fact, I do swear often, but there are times and places where the language and gesticulations are disgusting, rude, and uncalled for. I am 36 years old, and if my mother heard me talk like that, or make an offensive motion – let alone in the public square – she would be mortified and very angry with me. Mr. Sims’s act is even more egregious, as he is supposed to be a representative for the people. I obviously do not live within his district, but if I did, I would not want him to be speaking for me even if I agreed with him politically.
The number one place where I do not want to hear copious amounts of profanity and political criticism? The office.
I work in a legal office, where tempers and frustrations run high. I have been in this career for about a dozen years, and am no stranger to hearing someone drop an expletive now and then. It is possible I am more aware of it now that I am older, or because I am working on a postgraduate degree and trying to “increase my word power,” or because I have always been of the mind that there are millions of other words one could use in place of that one. Nevertheless, it seems like the filler word “like” has been replaced with an obscenity most, if not all, of the time.
Further, I was taught throughout my life (and again, I am not that old) that politics and religion were “taboo” outside of the home. While I do understand that more people have an interest in the political atmosphere, and I think that is a good thing, there is still a time and a place where it is highly inappropriate.
For example, the day after the election, I was in the kitchen area putting my lunch in the shared refrigerator, when two attorneys were getting coffee. One said to the other, “It is a sad day, today,” and went on to say that anybody who voted for Trump was an “idiot” and “had no critical thinking skills.” Of course, I took offense to this because it was my demographic he was talking about, but I did not want to out myself. I strongly feel that my political affiliations are not my coworkers’ business (nor do I want to know about theirs). Regardless of my leanings, it was still uncomfortable for me and the other attorney in the kitchen. I simply said, “I really do not think this is an appropriate topic for the office.” I knew that was going to give him a hint, but frankly, I just was tired of hearing his monologue. Surprisingly, the other attorney (who I know for a fact was a huge Hillary Clinton supporter) agreed with me, saying, “That’s actually a good point, let’s get back to work.” This only further proved to me that there is still a notion that we should keep opinions to ourselves in certain settings.
In a meeting on Tuesday, we were jovially talking about the weather and the delicious lunch, among other things, when the same person began talking about his recent vacation to see his grandchildren. He said that his granddaughter had a doll she named “Donna Trump.” Another coworker made the comment, “Is that the doll that kills all the other dolls?” I could have made a snarky comment like, “No, that’s her Hillary doll,” but why should I? Again, it draws attention to where I stand, which is nobody’s business, and it has nothing to do with the meeting. Furthermore, I am certain that if I had made a comment like that, I would be the one reprimanded in the boss’s office later, like I was for sending an officewide email out to collect magazines for the troops (but I digress).
My long-winded point here is that we are faced with classless remarks regardless of whom it is aimed towards. Nobody acts with an ounce of decorum anymore, and I for one am sick and tired of the free for all. Not only does it appear to be a double standard for Conservatives, it is just plain tiresome and unpleasant constantly these days.Published in