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“When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million empty words.” ― Thema Davis

I went and got brunch with a girlfriend yesterday in Casper, WY.

Her mother passed away just before Christmas. I let her know at the time that if she needed to talk, or visit, or anything at all, that I was here for her. She had a number of things go wrong for her around the holidays, including a broken arm due to slipping on some ice. I didn’t know about any of it and I felt horrible that I hadn’t been present to give her whatever support I could offer.

Yesterday, she opened up about her mother and she told me she appreciated being able to talk about all this. I just listened. I have no idea what it’s like to lose a parent yet, but I figure that being able to talk to someone about them makes it easier to process the grief. Like me, she is an oilfield wife, so her husband isn’t always around. I hugged her (carefully!) and told her that I am just a phone call away if she needs anything.

I wish I could offer more than a sympathetic ear or a shoulder to cry on to a friend who is having a rough time. I wish I could do anything to ease their burden or pain. I know from my own experience that going through a difficult time becomes much easier when you have someone you can confide in. So, I try to be that person for the people I care about. Sometimes a person just needs someone to listen and it’s an easy thing to be a silent confidante.

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  1. Bryan G. Stephens Thatcher
    Bryan G. Stephens Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    This is so very true. And sometimes, you don’t even listen, you just be with that person.

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    • January 14, 2018, at 5:27 AM PST
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  2. Arahant Member

    Calvin Coolidge had a friend who used to just sit with him. They didn’t talk, just sat companionably.


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    • #2
    • January 14, 2018, at 5:59 AM PST
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  3. The (apathetic) King Prawn Inactive

    Presence is powerful.

    • #3
    • January 14, 2018, at 8:01 AM PST
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  4. RightAngles Member

    I wish I could offer more than a sympathetic ear or a shoulder to cry on

    There are few things you could have done that would have been worth more. I have a feeling there’s a reason she chose you for this.

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    • January 14, 2018, at 9:07 AM PST
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  5. Pugshot Member
    Pugshot Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    What you have done is worth the world to a grieving friend – you done good, JD!

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    • January 14, 2018, at 9:38 AM PST
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  6. Susan Quinn Contributor

    Well done, Julie. That’s what good friends are for.

    • #6
    • January 14, 2018, at 12:03 PM PST
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  7. Mim526 Member

    J.D. Snapp, Possum Aficionado: I have no idea what it’s like to lose a parent yet, but I figure that being able to talk to someone about them makes it easier to process the grief.

    Like a part of you is permanently gone, no matter how close to them in life you were. Your instincts to let a friend talk to process loss of a parent were spot on, J.D. Well done.

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    • January 15, 2018, at 4:03 AM PST
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  8. Front Seat Cat Member

    Sometimes you don’t know what is going on with people until they tell you – and it can be a lot. You helped her greatly that day.

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    • January 15, 2018, at 12:57 PM PST
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  9. Al French of Damascus Moderator

    Bless you, young lady.

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    • January 15, 2018, at 7:00 PM PST
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