This morning, on another thread, I made a joke with @docjay. This joke, like many jokes between men, took the form of an insult. Now, DocJay is a friend of mine, but regardless, I knew that he would not take offense at this joke because (a) he is a man and, (b) he is a conservative.
That struck me as odd. Why is it that men in general, and conservatives in particular, are less sensitive to insults? When a man insults another, it is generally harmless ribbing, they laugh, and get back to whatever they were doing.
I have a lot of liberal friends on Facebook. When they insult someone, it is generally mean-spirited, and intended to hurt. As opposed to my liberal friends interacting with one another, where hurtful words are verboten, you should be in a safe space free from hateful speech, and we should all support one another all the time. Meanwhile, the conservative men are over in the corner drinking and joking about how fat one another are. If a liberal insults someone, it is not a joke.
At this point, I would like to ask the moderator to cut any comments asking for data or studies to back up my assertions. I am also uninterested in individual anecdotes about your aunt who is a drill instructor in the Marine Corps. I am generalizing, and as is often the case when I generalize, I don’t care (to paraphrase Dave Barry). But these are stereotypes that I think most of us recognize. So, why? Any theories on the different approaches to insults and humor among different groups?Published in