Quote of the Day: A Mother’s Love edition

 

Five-year-old me, after I didn’t get my way: “I hate you, mom!”

My saint of a mother: “That may be, Andrew, but let me tell you something. For as much as you think that you hate me right now, I love you by more than 100 times that amount.”

It didn’t matter how many times I yelled that phrase when I was being an ornery little [expletive]. My mom would always tell me that she loved me more than I thought that I hated her. Trust me, that sense of security and love that my mom fostered in me has had a lasting impact on my life. There were the times when I disappointed her with the stupid decisions that I made in college; I can recall one particular phone call when she said, “I’ve never been more disappointed in you, but I love you more than that level of disappointment.” A mother’s love is an amazing thing.

I remember times when I was a teenager and we would see a mom and her four-, five-, or six-year-old kid in public. The kid would yell that he hated her. And the mom responded with, “I hate you too.” Every time that I saw that I would turn to my mom and thank her for telling me that she loved me more than I thought that I hated her. She’d respond, “And I’ll always love you more than you love me.”

This Thanksgiving will be the second one without my mom, I’m certain that it won’t be any easier than the first. I’ve been thinking of her more than usual. Even though she is no longer here to tell me that she loves me more than I love her, I know that her love is now eternal.

Perhaps that why this was her favorite hymn:

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  1. Judithann Campbell Member
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    What a beautiful tribute to your mother; I am so sorry for your loss. My father is 93, and my mother is 85; I am almost 50, but the thought of life without them becomes more terrifying to me with each day. God Bless you.

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  2. Nanda Panjandrum Member
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    Lovely, Johnnie! You aren’t alone with respect to Thanksgiving without loved ones; your gratitude keeps her  love active: Thanks for the reminder…A blessed Thanksgiving!

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  3. Johnnie Alum 13 Inactive
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    Nanda Panjandrum (View Comment):
    Lovely, Johnnie! You aren’t alone with respect to Thanksgiving without loved ones; your gratitude keeps her love active: Thanks for the reminder…A blessed Thanksgiving!

    Thank you Nanda and a Blessed Thanksgiving to you as well!

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  4. Arahant Member
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    Johnnie Alum 13:5-year old me (after I didn’t get my way): “I hate you, mom!”

    My saint of a mother: “That may be, Andrew, but let me tell you something. For as much as you think that you hate me right now, I love you by more than 100 times that amount.”

    I like it.


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  5. Percival Thatcher
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    Perfect for Thanksgiving. Thank you, Johnnie.

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  6. Patrick McClure Coolidge
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    Prayers for you. She was a wonderful person.

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  7. She Reagan
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    What a lovely tribute.  And what a wonderful mother.  I miss my parents every day, and especially at times like this.  Enjoy Thanksgiving and your beautiful memories, and know that others share in your pain, your joy and your love.

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  8. James Golden Inactive
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    Thank you for this post!  It’s both a moving tribute and a hidden piece of advice.  As a still relatively new parent, we’re doing our best to try to balance providing our kids the right level of love and support with not letting them get away with being naughty.  Our kids are 4 and 6 and it isn’t easy.  I like your mother’s methodology and may try stealing it — I hope it’s not patented!

    Thanks again for the moving post.

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  9. Johnnie Alum 13 Inactive
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    James Golden (View Comment):
    Thanks again for the moving post.

    You are welcome. I’m glad that you enjoyed it.

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  10. Arahant Member
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    Fast demotion to the Main Feed, there, Johnnie.

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  11. Johnnie Alum 13 Inactive
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    Arahant (View Comment):
    Fast demotion to the Main Feed, there, Johnnie.

    Yes that was fast.

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  12. contrarian Inactive
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    What? No, no. I’ve just been dicing onions.

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  13. SkipSul Inactive
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    Such a lovely tribute to your mother.

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  14. Johnnie Alum 13 Inactive
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    SkipSul (View Comment):
    Such a lovely tribute to your mother.

    Thank You, Skip.

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