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We make a big fuss about mothers in our culture. Think of how often politicians offer sympathy to “heroic” single moms who are doing such an amazing job. Many do, and of course, their lives are extremely hard and they deserve sympathy. As a mother of three sons, I cannot imagine how I would have managed alone. That much having been said, this Father’s Day is a good time to remember that fathers are
Just some general observations on this essay. For those of you that think the Left is brutal in their dealings with the Right, they are just as brutal on their own side when it comes to any deviation from the Progressive view of the world.
When you look at what’s going on in Chicago this is no longer an academic exercise, the revolving door of live-in boyfriends, and the lack of fathers as role models has produced what I would call a war. This is not a matter of skin color. This is a matter of culture, and we are seeing the lack of marital commitment across all racial groups.
I’m reminded of pajama boy, we have started to produce men-children, 12 year-old boys in a man’s body, and the radical feminists can take their share of the blame because they are willing to go to bed with men-children because they have no desire to engage in a committed relationship.
Children require committed parents, and yes there are some sacrifices that you make, but the rewards are great when they enter into a committed relationship. Their own home, their own children, and grandchildren that will someday do the same.
What do we expect? We’ve turned marriage into little more than a series of handshakes with fingers crossed. In the process marriage has lost its essence and has become less and less relevant in the modern world. The upper and mid-upper classes still marry, but it’s as much a matter of convenience–“If we marry we’ll have much greater success,” even if that’s only implied. I suppose that’s okay pragmatically speaking, but such practical reasoning can hardly uphold the institution. First Thing’s editor RR Reno has looked deeply into this issue and has found that while there is great income inequality, the far greater gulf between the classes is a “moral inequality” with the upper levels refusing to “judge” the lower the behavior of their fellow citizens because, well gee, “Who am I to judge.”
All of which brings this song to mind:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rl3jNJn5fQ0
Or this one, which is just gut wrenching:
And children of divorce are fighting back by telling their parents what a divorce does to their children:
Rivers of tears – Ps.119:136
I used to be rather liberal (in ways). One of the things that turned me conservative was the marriage statistics: if you want women to be happy and to succeed, then you’ll want them to be born to married parents and to themselves get married.
I cannot see how “feminism” could possibly be aligned with anything but cheering for marriage – at least if its goal is the health, happiness, and success of women.
Excellent story Mona and thank you for posting it. I heard on the radio driving around for work about a documentary called “The Red Pill”. The young lady who made it was a dyed-in-the-wool feminist. She heard about a men’s support group and went on to investigate and goal was to trash it. She came away with a completely different perspective that challenged her feminist upbringing. It won awards at Cannes. I had not heard of it prior to yesterday. Ironically, the interviewer who had her on his show was none other than Alex Jones. She said she risked being bashed for even coming on his show, but she didn’t care. Here’s a trailer:
Well done, Mona. This is a great essay.
They always eat their own.
I think people sometimes knowingly, but more often unconsciously, act to protect and increase, for themselves and their own people, wealth, social position and power, by doing necessary harm to outsiders to their group or class—outsiders they claim to be, and half believe they are, trying to help. (This necessary harm is always presented to everyone as a great good intended to benefit the people it will hurt.)
So, of course elites don’t preach what they practice. They preach something other than what they practice because they don’t actually want the people below them raising children who are able to compete with them or their own children.
Talk about how bad it would be to “restore the patriarchy,” or “restore nuclear family hegemony” is just the kind of talk people engage in to conceal their real motives from themselves. Elites know as well as Mona Charen does that fathers are, and marriage is, crucial to the stability and upward mobility of women and children outside their class. That’s why they indirectly diminished the position of fathers and gutted marriage.
Excellent post.