A Gratitude Bouquet for my Husband

 

kissShort and sweet, dear Ricochet friends.

Having read your essays this past month as they revealed lives of courage, hardship, mind-boggling talent, empathy, humor and love – well – I’m grateful – and humbled.

So let me be brief. My husband saved my life. My gratitude for his love and support has bloomed beyond my imaginings as the years have passed. We were young and from very different family cultures. As the second of seven children beneath a very brilliant and driven older sister — I was rather lost, directionless and drifting, I shared an apartment with her and my kid brother during my second year of college. On a Saturday afternoon my big sister took me on a tour of the med school anatomy lab. My future husband and I met over a cadaver. Love at first sight.

His father was a Baptist minister who fought our marriage. He told me that my husband knew better than to marry a Catholic. We married, anyway. It wasn’t always smooth-going, but we struggled and grew together like the trees you’ve seen whose trunks and branches become indistinguishable, one from the other, over the years. We raised our son (yep — I gifted him with a Ricochet membership) who has made us so proud as we’ve watched him help tease apart a few of the mysteries of the solar system.

My husband’s support of our little family and my broader wonderful family at large, created a life that I’d never dreamed possible. The family sharings and laughter throughout the years rest on the bedrock of his sacrifice and hard work.

He’s made it possible for me to indulge my love of wandering through the natural world and to procure the series of cameras ( film and processing were required back then!) and the leisure hours to record the beauty around me.

There’s so much that fills my heart as I look across the room and watch him cheering his OSU football team.

Yes, he played the tuba in The Ohio State Marching Band. (That’s really the reason I married him.)

I brag on him all the time. And thank him every day for my good life.

I am grateful.

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  1. TKC1101 Inactive
    TKC1101
    @TKC1101

    Long term love is stronger than any other bond. To share a life , become a couple , intertwined as you said so well, is the work of a life well lived.

    To reflect and appreciate what you have is a gift that renews with every instance.

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  2. Dr. Bastiat Member
    Dr. Bastiat
    @drbastiat

    Beautiful.  That’s every man’s dream – to have his wife admire, love, & appreciate him.

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  3. Zafar Member
    Zafar
    @Zafar

    How wonderful.

    Made me think of this.

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  4. MarciN Member
    MarciN
    @MarciN

    Trink, what a beautiful photograph.

    This is a lovely tribute. You are blessed to have found and kept each other.

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  5. She Reagan
    She
    @She

    How lovely, Trink. Thank you.

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  6. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    Zafar:How wonderful.

    Made me think of this.

    ” . . . But in love
    our hearts have mingled
    as red earth and pouring rain.”

    Powerful imagery Zafar.

    Thank you.

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  7. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    MarciN:Trink, what a beautiful photograph.

     

    Oh Marci . . . thank you.  It was such a lucky capture.

    Reminded me of Please Don’t Eat the Daisies.

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  8. Percival Thatcher
    Percival
    @Percival

    A tuba player?

    Well, there you go. Clearly a superior individual.

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  9. Western Chauvinist Member
    Western Chauvinist
    @WesternChauvinist

    Well, Sis, you and “Uncle” have been so influential in so many young lives… maybe mine most of all. I can’t remember a time when the K.D. wasn’t part of the family. You two definitely come as a pair.

    You are blessed and a blessing. Love you both,

    Western

     

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  10. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    Western Chauvinist:Well, Sis, you and “Uncle” have been so influential in so many young lives… maybe mine most of all. I can’t remember a time when the K.D. wasn’t part of the family. You two definitely come as a pair.

    You are blessed and a blessing. Love you both,

    Western

    Awwww . .. .  Sis . . . now you’ve got me crying.   We love you so much.   Thank you dear heart.

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  11. AUMom Member
    AUMom
    @AUMom

    Thank you, Trink, for such a wonderful tribute to a loving man. There are not many to good men—this is one.

    It started they day out with love and resolve (you have to have both for a long term relationship).

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  12. Susan Quinn Contributor
    Susan Quinn
    @SusanQuinn

    Beautiful, Trink. I love to read adoring tributes from one spouse to another. And obviously he is very blessed to have you in his life, too. Thank you.

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  13. Curt North Inactive
    Curt North
    @CurtNorth

    Your story touched my heart and like another already said, it really is every mans dream – To love, protect, and provide for his family, and in return to receive the open and unabashed love of his wife.

    Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are.  Go Blue!

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  14. skipsul Inactive
    skipsul
    @skipsul

    Very lovely tribute.  He’s a lucky man.

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  15. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    Curt North: Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are. Go Blue!

    Ruh-roh . . .

    Them’s fightin’ words.  Ahahahahahhahahha!!! Let the games begin!

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  16. skipsul Inactive
    skipsul
    @skipsul

    Trink:

    Curt North: Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are. Go Blue!

    Ruh-roh . . .

    Them’s fightin’ words. Ahahahahahhahahha!!! Let the games begin!

    He’s just sore about that last call.

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  17. Vectorman Inactive
    Vectorman
    @Vectorman

    <Nerd mode on>

    He was technically a Sousaphone player:

    ohio-band

    <Nerd mode off>

    Congratulations from another Big 10 (Illinois) Marching Band Tuba Sousaphone player.

     

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  18. thekd45 Inactive
    thekd45
    @thekd45

    skipsul:

    Trink:

    Curt North: Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are. Go Blue!

    Ruh-roh . . .

    Them’s fightin’ words. Ahahahahahhahahha!!! Let the games begin!

    He’s just sore about that last call.

    Two things are for sure:

    Yes, I AM a lucky man.

    And second, the CALL was absolutely spot on.

    That mustard yellow and blue team has a screaming mad mouth always open crazy coach.  I feel sorry for all the players

    Go Bucks!!

     

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  19. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    Vectorman:<Nerd mode on>

    He was technically a Sousaphone player:

    ohio-band

    <Nerd mode off>

    Congratulations from another Big 10 (Illinois) Marching Band Tuba Sousaphone player.

    GET OUT!! AWESOME!

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  20. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    thekd45:

    skipsul:

    Trink:

    Curt North: Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are. Go Blue!

    Ruh-roh . . .

    Them’s fightin’ words. Ahahahahahhahahha!!! Let the games begin!

    He’s just sore about that last call.

    Two things are for sure:

    Yes, I AM a lucky man.

    And second, the CALL was absolutely spot on.

    That mustard yellow and blue team has a screaming mad mouth always open crazy coach. I feel sorry for all the players

    Go Bucks!!

    Update. OOPS.  Dunno why/how I reposted this without a comment.

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  21. thekd45 Inactive
    thekd45
    @thekd45

    Vectorman:<Nerd mode on>

    He was technically a Sousaphone player:

    ohio-band

    <Nerd mode off>

    Congratulations from another Big 10 (Illinois) Marching Band Tuba Sousaphone player.

    In the big band, we were both; sousaphone to band directors, and “tuba” to all the coed groupies that we big-horn players always had around us.

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  22. Trink Coolidge
    Trink
    @Trink

    thekd45:That mustard yellow and blue team has a screaming mad mouth always open crazy coach. I feel sorry for all the players

    Go Bucks!!

    Oh dear . . . I haven’t explained the COC to my darlin’ yet.  Oh dear.

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  23. skipsul Inactive
    skipsul
    @skipsul

    Trink:

    thekd45:

    skipsul:

    Trink:

    Curt North: Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are. Go Blue!

    Ruh-roh . . .

    Them’s fightin’ words. Ahahahahahhahahha!!! Let the games begin!

    He’s just sore about that last call.

    Two things are for sure:

    Yes, I AM a lucky man.

    And second, the CALL was absolutely spot on.

    That mustard yellow and blue team has a screaming mad mouth always open crazy coach. I feel sorry for all the players

    Go Bucks!!

    Yeah – Harbaugh has turned the program around in terms of competitiveness and team skills, but his temper did cost them dearly.  He even got fined after the game for his post-game remarks.

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  24. Western Chauvinist Member
    Western Chauvinist
    @WesternChauvinist

    skipsul: Yeah – Harbaugh has turned the program around in terms of competitiveness and team skills, but his temper did cost them dearly. He even got fined after the game for his post-game remarks.

    Heh, we got a big laugh when he broke his headset.

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  25. Dr. Bastiat Member
    Dr. Bastiat
    @drbastiat

    Trink:

    Curt North: Obviously his choice of football teams is deeply flawed and truly concerning, but when you love someone you accept them as they are. Go Blue!

    Ruh-roh . . .

    Them’s fightin’ words. Ahahahahahhahahha!!! Let the games begin!

    I believe that openly rooting for the team up north is a CoC violation.

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  26. drlorentz Member
    drlorentz
    @drlorentz

    You guys went and got me all misty-eyed… with all that football talk.

    Seriously, Trink, you and your husband are truly blessed. Everyone should be so lucky.

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  27. Marley's Ghost Coolidge
    Marley's Ghost
    @MarleysGhost

    Just spectacular!  Perhaps it is that many women don’t quite understand how much a husband enjoys the love, praise, and pride of his wife.  All the more a blessing when she is a great woman in her own right. As a man I want to thank you for posting this.

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  28. Scott Wilmot Member
    Scott Wilmot
    @ScottWilmot

    Trink:I brag on him all the time. And thank him every day for my good life.

    I am grateful.

    Beautiful Trink. Keep bragging – you do it more eloquently than anyone I know.

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  29. Caryn Thatcher
    Caryn
    @Caryn

    Lovely, Trink.  I wish I’d been able to drive south with Steven and get to meet you.  Well, you got to meet my own dearly beloved, another wonderful and amazing man.  That he puts up with me in good cheer and with kindness is one of the wonders of the world.  And, as I never tire of telling all of you, talented, too.

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  30. Rosie Inactive
    Rosie
    @Nymeria

    Trink, thank you for your loving tribute to your awesome husband!! It saddens me how so many wives fail to understand that expressing love & gratitude for a good husband is a good thing.  I’m not married but I’m glad that I have learned this lesson.

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