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It’s Friday afternoon, so it’s time for Amelia Hamilton to answer all your questions about motivation, mothers of brides, and shaming the shamers.
I lack motivation. Please motivate me. — @Shoshido
As an expert in procrastination, I must coach myself in this from time to time. They key to motivation is to find a way to want to get through said task, both for short and long-term gain, even if that motivation is simply to get it out of the way so you can move on to something else. Try the carrot (reward) and the stick (punishment) to get the job done. Life is full of things that must be done. It is, in fact, one of the worst parts of adulting.
If you need an additional push, you could try the Mary Poppins method:
Alternatively, you could try wine.
I’ve heard of so-called “slut shaming,” “fat shaming,” and shaming for virtually every other condition you can imagine, but I’ve not heard of shame shaming, where someone shames the shamer for shaming the shameful. Why is that?
If you haven’t seen shame shaming, I’m afraid you haven’t been paying attention. Indeed, shamers are regularly shamed for being terribly staid and old fashioned, for being bigoted or simply a rube. One can’t shame the shameful without being shamed in turn. Lack of shame is the new black. I’m surprised you didn’t know that.
I need your advice this weekend: Tell me how to be the perfect mother-of-the-bride!
Keep the bride (and, I suppose, the groom) in the spotlight, and do whatever you can to make the day run smoothly. Stress-free and happy are the order of the day, so that your daughter can always look back on her wedding day with the best memories possible. Perfection is impossible, so there’s bound to be a minor glitch here and there. A sense of humor and perspective on what really matters (the marriage, not the wedding) will make the day a success. Best wishes to the happy couple!
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