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It’s Friday afternoon, so it’s time for Ask Amelia to answer all your questions about new jobs, noisy neighbors, and horrible headwear.
Should I move to D.C? I am considering a job opportunity there. Plus, that is the place to be for the deaf, and I’m deaf. But also Texan. — @TheMaverick21
That is a big decision. It would depend on the job, and what taking it would mean for your life versus staying where you are. Moving to D.C. is not just a change in job, but a change in lifestyle. That might be a change for the better, especially if it’s “the place to be” for the deaf, but it’s something to consider. Is that what you want? I can’t in good conscience ever recommend that somebody leave Texas for D.C., but consider every facet carefully and then go with your gut. If you move and you hate it? You can always go back home.
I am at my wits’ end living in an apartment. At my advanced age (I happen to know she’s only in her 30s! — Amelia), I no longer care about my neighbors’ raucous activities. I know way too much about their late-night lives, including noisy lovemaking for hours on end. I have tried earplugs to no avail. Barring a miracle job that will allow me to live in a single-family home where I do not share walls with free-love twenty-somethings, what can I do when their parties get out of hand?
Sleepless in the Southwest
My goodness. This is noisy neighbors on a whole new level. I would always suggest trying to block out the noise before making things uncomfortable with your neighbors. So, if you’ve tried earplugs, have you tried white noise? A fan or white noise app on your phone, even coupled with earplugs might do the trick
Of course, they are being quite rude being so loud (regardless of the activity) that the neighbors can’t sleep. Have you tried talking to the neighbors on the other side? Maybe you could have a friendly chat with the noisy girls, letting them know that you would appreciate it if they kept the volume down so everyone could get some sleep. Failing that, could you make a complaint to the landlord? They might have a little more power over the situation.
You want to keep things as friendly as possible with your neighbors, but they should know that they’re making life difficult for others. In the meantime, keep praying for that miracle job to get you out of there!
I have a friend who always wears a certain style of hat. Unfortunately, the hat is really quite terrible. It’s ugly and not suited to him, but it’s more than that. It’s the kind of hat worn by people I don’t like or respect. Frankly, it’s a downright un-American style of chapeau.
But I like my friend. I’m conflicted. Should I just deal with it? What’s the best way to tell a friend that one of their favorite pieces of clothing is irredeemably obnoxious and should be burned and the ashes thrown into the sea?
An un-American chapeau sounds like a nightmare, but I’m afraid there’s not much you can do about a friend’s sartorial choices. A couple of friendly suggestions for alternatives or a subtle hints on how great he looks sans hat are really all you can do. Failing that, you’ll have to be his friend regardless and wait for him to ease out of this phase. Sorry.
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