Contributor Post Created with Sketch. Ask Amelia: Karma and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

 

AskAmelia3It’s Friday and Amelia Hamilton is here to answer all your questions on lying men, vintage cars and the best time to make amends.

Dear Amelia,
I’m sensing my karma’s knocking. When is it too late to say, “sorry I was a wasteful, childish twit and I hope you’re doing great?”
@GWill29

Dear Grace,
It’s never too late to try. Get in touch and tell that person you’re sorry — extend the olive branch. What could it hurt?

 

Dear Amelia,

Will you come help me work on my motorcycles?

Mark

Dear Mark,

I’m more of a vintage car girl but, even at that, I mostly just look at and drive them. I don’t really need the grease under my nails, you know? What I can offer is to make beer and snacks to keep you going while you work on it yourself. Take it or leave it.

 

Dear Amelia,

How do you respond to a charming, cute guy who is so used to lying he doesn’t realize he’s contradicted himself three times in one minute?

@sdigda

Dear SDIGDA,

Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

 

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  1. The (apathetic) King Prawn Inactive

    Concerning the third one:

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    • April 3, 2015, at 2:06 PM PDT
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  2. Midget Faded Rattlesnake Contributor

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear Amelia,

    How do you respond to a charming, cute guy who is so used to lying he doesn’t realize he’s contradicted himself three times in one minute?

    @sdigda

    Dear @sdigda,

    Quit pestering Troy about the giraffe. You’ll never get a straight answer out of him about it. Try changing the subject. Like maybe to body paint.

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    • April 3, 2015, at 2:09 PM PDT
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  3. Johnny Dubya Inactive

    Is it just me or everyone?: When I look at the “Ask Amelia” logo, I keep thinking it’s a CD.

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    • April 3, 2015, at 2:13 PM PDT
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  4. Lash LaRoche Inactive

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

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    • April 3, 2015, at 2:42 PM PDT
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  5. Jimmy Carter Member
    Jimmy Carter Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    Possibly, but Who ever listens to ’em?

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    • April 3, 2015, at 3:18 PM PDT
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  6. iWe Reagan
    iWe Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Jimmy Carter:

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    Possibly, but Who ever listens to ‘em?

    That is a provocative point. In this situation, I will argue with a guy, in the hopes that he can see sense. But when a woman seems as thick as two planks, I am polite and ignore her.

    Does that make me a male chauvinist piglet, or merely chivalrous?

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    • April 3, 2015, at 3:28 PM PDT
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  7. MLH Inactive
    MLH

    You make beer?!

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    • April 3, 2015, at 3:47 PM PDT
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  8. Ball Diamond Ball Inactive

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    We would be extinct in two generations. Deal with it, Hoss.

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    • April 3, 2015, at 8:42 PM PDT
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  9. Lash LaRoche Inactive

    Ball Diamond Ball:

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    We would be extinct in two generations. Deal with it, Hoss.

    Well, I had to ask…

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    • April 3, 2015, at 9:17 PM PDT
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  10. Eustace C. Scrubb Member

    “Dear Amelia,I’m sensing my karma’s knocking. When is it too late to say, “sorry I was a wasteful, childish twit and I hope you’re doing great?”@GWill29″

    Amelia,

    Your readership is wide, but it must be quite exciting to have GEORGE WILL in your readership! So who do you think he had a tiff with? Someone in media, like Ted Koppel? Someone in politics, say Sarah Palin? My money’s on Pete Rose.

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    • April 4, 2015, at 1:22 AM PDT
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  11. Guruforhire Member

    Mike LaRoche:

    Ball Diamond Ball:

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    We would be extinct in two generations. Deal with it, Hoss.

    Well, I had to ask…

    Please reference the hot-crazy matrix.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwbKYcBdVyk

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    • April 4, 2015, at 5:26 AM PDT
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  12. Amelia Hamilton Contributor
    Amelia Hamilton

    The King Prawn:Concerning the third one:

    I am going to get a lot of use out of this video.

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    • April 4, 2015, at 8:07 AM PDT
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  13. Amelia Hamilton Contributor
    Amelia Hamilton

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    Of course. It also applies in non-dating situations.

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    • April 4, 2015, at 8:08 AM PDT
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  14. Amelia Hamilton Contributor
    Amelia Hamilton

    iWe:

    Jimmy Carter:

    Mike LaRoche:

    Amelia Hamilton:Dear SDIGDA,

    Call him on it, gently or overtly. Gently would mean statements like “Oh, really? I thought you said X?” Overtly would mean like “Dude. You JUST said X. Get your act together.” Make sure he knows he’s caught, and walk away. Nobody is cute enough to deal with that, but maybe he’ll be a little more truthful with the next girl.

    Could the same apply to cute women?

    Possibly, but Who ever listens to ‘em?

    That is a provocative point. In this situation, I will argue with a guy, in the hopes that he can see sense. But when a woman seems as thick as two planks, I am polite and ignore her.

    Does that make me a male chauvinist piglet, or merely chivalrous?

    I don’t think she’s saying the guy is dumb, he’s a liar.

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    • April 4, 2015, at 8:09 AM PDT
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  15. iWe Reagan
    iWe Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Amelia Hamilton: That is a provocative point. In this situation, I will argue with a guy, in the hopes that he can see sense. But when a woman seems as thick as two planks, I am polite and ignore her.

    Does that make me a male chauvinist piglet, or merely chivalrous?

    I don’t think she’s saying the guy is dumb, he’s a liar.

    Perhaps. I try to assume incompetence instead of malice. True sociopaths (see Clinton, Bill) believe everything that they say, at the moment they say it.

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    • April 5, 2015, at 6:02 PM PDT
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  16. Fricosis Guy Listener

    Amelia Hamilton:It’s Friday and Amelia Hamilton is here to answer all your questions on lying men, vintage cars and the best time to make amends.

    Dear Amelia, I’m sensing my karma’s knocking. When is it too late to say, “sorry I was a wasteful, childish twit and I hope you’re doing great?” @GWill29

    Dear Grace, It’s never too late to try. Get in touch and tell that person you’re sorry — extend the olive branch. What could it hurt?

    I highly recommend making amends, with one caveat: I’d be careful about your expectations. That person may not react the way you expect, for good or for ill. That’s why we in AA say that “expectations are resentments under construction.”

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    • April 6, 2015, at 6:52 AM PDT
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