Love, Not Biology: An Irish-American Mom and Her Three Chinese Daughters

 

chinagirls-retouched-large.jpgFrom Bill McGurn’s magnificent reflection on Mother’s Day in the New York Post:

[F]or my bride, the path to Mother’s Day had no swelling of the belly, no morning sickness, no assurance that some time after nine months there would be an infant in her arms. The only physical signs of pending motherhood were a sheaf of forms and a single passport-size photo we received at some point in each adoption.

Delivery was different, too. Three times we checked into a Chinese hotel. Three times a tiny little girl was brought to our room. Three times I watched my wife wrap her baby in a love so natural and so fierce anyone watching would have thought the two had been meant to be together since the beginning of time.

And maybe they were….

So come Sunday morning, my wife and I will lie in bed as we hear the clatter of pans downstairs, the occasional yell for someone to butter the toast or get the eggs off the stove, followed by footsteps as they carry the finished tray upstairs. I’ll watch and witness amid feelings of peace and joy and contentment that overwhelm precisely because of how magnificently ordinary it all is.

And offer a prayer for three unknown women somewhere in China, to whom my happy little family owes a debt beyond this world’s ability to repay.

Pictured:  Julie McGurn and her girls.

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  1. Susan in Seattle Member
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    Simply lovely; thank you for this.

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  2. Western Chauvinist Member
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    Bill McGurn is a lucky, blessed man. It’s so lovely that he knows it.

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  3. tabula rasa Inactive
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    Well, that made me feel good! 

    We’re fallible beings, but I can’t think of a better, more positive thing than a mother’s love for her children (and it’s completely irrelevant whether the genes are same).  The love transcends all such things.

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  4. Nick Stuart Inactive
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    Lovely family. Bill’s really going to have his hands full in about 10 years.

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  5. user_1546 Member
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    As an adoptive father (domestic) I say, Here Here!

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  6. Matede Inactive
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    Beautiful Peter, just beautiful.

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  7. Hartmann von Aue Member
    Hartmann von Aue
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    And this adoptive father thanks your for sharing this lovely contribution.

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  8. Troy Senik, Ed. Contributor
    Troy Senik, Ed.
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    The elegance, understatement, and deep humanity you get in that little patch of prose? That’s the real Bill McGurn. And Julie? As lovely a person as you’ll ever meet. The girls are as lucky to have them as they are to have the girls.

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  9. Peter Robinson Contributor
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    Troy Senik, Ed.:

    The elegance, understatement, and deep humanity you get in that little patch of prose? That’s the real Bill McGurn. And Julie? As lovely a person as you’ll ever meet. The girls are as lucky to have them as they are to have the girls.

     Troy speaks the truth.

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