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Our fourth child is about to graduate from high school and will be heading off to my alma mater, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, in the fall. I thought a fun graduation present would be a collection of pearls of wisdom to carry with her as she embarks on a new stage of life — one in which she’ll have to navigate between liberal professors rewriting history and frat boys trying to convince her they have noble intentions when they invite her back to the Pi Kappa Phi house for a “nightcap.”
I guess I could just give her a copy of Proverbs or George Washington’s Rules of Civility, but I’m a nerd at heart, so Ensign Robin Lefler’s essential laws of life from Star Trek Next Generation (“The Game”) came to mind.
Lefler, played by Ashley Judd, had a thing for Wesley Crusher and shared with him her Lefler’s Laws—“Every time I learn something essential, I make up a law about it so I never forget.” (Has Wil Wheaton ever dished on kissing Ashley? I’m tempted to Google, but I’ll let our resident Wesley expert, Amy Schley, comment on that…).
Her insights ranged from jewels like “You gotta go with what works” to “Getting information out of Zak Kebron is like interrogating a statue.” (I think I dated him!) Oh, and who can forget Wesley’s favorite, “A couple of light years can’t keep good friends apart.” Considering that Ashley never showed up on Star Trek again, I’d say that didn’t quite pan out.
Picking up on that theme, here’s a few of mine to get us started:
“Distance makes the heart grow fonder—until someone closer comes along.”
“Everyone tells you exactly who they are if you pay attention and listen.” (Especially applicable to romantic relationships. A guy always tells you who he is early on—an insecure creep or a heartless loser—if you just pay attention and listen. In other words, “Red Flags Mean Something!”)
And then there’s my favorite: “Show the kind of grace you want shown to you—except when you’re dealing with a selfish, narcissistic psychopath. Then get the hell out. Fast!”
Boy, those sound bitter. How about this one for a more positive approach: “When it comes to relationships, showing love is more important than being right.”
So, what life lessons do you have to contribute to Lefler’s Laws?
Stad, don’t disappoint me—What’s the secret to that beautiful marriage you have?!
Blondie—I’m counting on you sharing the recipe to that infectious smile … and please don’t tell me it has something to do with being a Wolfpack. :)