Women: Why? Men: Why Not?

 

So yesterday as I was running errands around town (north central Texas), I saw a car that looked like a banana.

After confirming I was not hallucinating, I mentioned it to Mrs. Tabby. She responded, “Why?” Whereas male friends generally responded, “Cool. What’s it built on?” (An old Ford pickup chassis, for those interested.)

The Banana Car is a homemade affair and apparently travels around the country to do publicity appearances. As a homemade, the Banana Car is a little different from the commercially prepared Oscar Mayer Weinermobiles, of which several travel the country for Oscar Mayer.

 

(There’s a good story behind the Weinermobiles: https://www.mashed.com/1210268/the-story-behind-oscar-mayers-wienermobile-and-other-popular-food-vehicles/)

Mrs. Tabby’s “Why?” versus my male friends’ “Sounds great!” responses to the Banana Car reminded me of responses I encountered many years ago (during the early days of robotics) when several students at a nearby university (with a large engineering school) developed a robot to retrieve soft drinks from the hallway vending machine in the dormitory while they were playing video games. To this student robot project, women almost universally asked, “Why?” while most men responded, “Cool” or “Great idea!” Around that time, some of the same students also produced an early prototype of a couch with a built-in refrigerator for beer or soft drinks. It generated the same divergence of responses.

This “Why?” versus “Why Not?” difference has long stood for me as emblematic of some personality traits that tend to be different between men and women. Men’s “why not?” approach is why most innovators and entrepreneurs are men. Of course, it’s also why boys and men do things that cause them to be hurt and die in accidents at play and at work at higher rates than women do.

And of course, like all such broad generalizations, they are not universal. MOST.

I (a man) do not have the “Why Not?” response (though I’m fascinated that people do such things). Our daughter-in-law has a fair amount of the “Why Not?” response.

Are you “Why?” or “Why not?”

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  1. cdor Member
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    She (View Comment):

    Full Size Tabby: Are you “Why?” or “Why not?”

    Thinking this over, I do believe a person who–along with her husband–sells the house they live in, and moves for the summer into a tent in a field out in the country about 40 miles away, so that the two of them can start building a new home together must have a fair amount of “why not?” in her makeup. Perhaps even a healthy dose of “why the hell not?”

    I would say that person is quite unique! 

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  2. kedavis Coolidge
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    Stad (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    cdor (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    I have never watched this show, but those two clips were hilarious!

    Should definitely start from the beginning.

    We bought the entire DVD set and watched it. Hilarious! For the first 2 or 3 shows, it seemed to us as if the writers and actors were figuring out who and what their characters were about. After that, things took off. Lots of laughs, surprises, joy, and tears. And the series finale is one of the best . . .

    The unaired pilot was very different, and even the aired pilot carried across a few elements that were quickly dismissed as if they’d never happened.

    Another show that’s worth seeing all the way through like that?  Charmed.  The original version, I mean.

    Also Buffy The Vampire Slayer.

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  3. Bunsen Coolidge
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    kedavis (View Comment):

    Stad (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    cdor (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    I have never watched this show, but those two clips were hilarious!

    Should definitely start from the beginning.

    We bought the entire DVD set and watched it. Hilarious! For the first 2 or 3 shows, it seemed to us as if the writers and actors were figuring out who and what their characters were about. After that, things took off. Lots of laughs, surprises, joy, and tears. And the series finale is one of the best . . .

    The unaired pilot was very different, and even the aired pilot carried across a few elements that were quickly dismissed as if they’d never happened.

    Another show that’s worth seeing all the way through like that? Charmed. The original version, I mean.

    Also Buffy The Vampire Slayer.

    I heard Buffy is coming back with some of the original cast.

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  4. kedavis Coolidge
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    Bunsen (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    Stad (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    cdor (View Comment):

    kedavis (View Comment):

    I have never watched this show, but those two clips were hilarious!

    Should definitely start from the beginning.

    We bought the entire DVD set and watched it. Hilarious! For the first 2 or 3 shows, it seemed to us as if the writers and actors were figuring out who and what their characters were about. After that, things took off. Lots of laughs, surprises, joy, and tears. And the series finale is one of the best . . .

    The unaired pilot was very different, and even the aired pilot carried across a few elements that were quickly dismissed as if they’d never happened.

    Another show that’s worth seeing all the way through like that? Charmed. The original version, I mean.

    Also Buffy The Vampire Slayer.

    I heard Buffy is coming back with some of the original cast.

    But not Michelle Trachtenberg.   :-(   Probably not a good idea overall, really.

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  5. Arahant Member
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  7. Archibald Campbell Member
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    Interesting.  A few months ago I was smoking a stogie at the cigar store nearest my house in Columbus, and a banana car much like the one in the picture (maybe the one for all I know,) tore up and down High Street for about 30 minutes. The people in the car looked delighted.  The ‘naner was fairly loud, but I don’t remember hearing it peel out.

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  8. Subcomandante America Member
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    Percival (View Comment):

    Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason.

    — Ralph Waldo Emerson

    I do.  That’s how I get in so much trouble.   

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  9. Percival Thatcher
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    Subcomandante America (View Comment):

    Percival (View Comment):

    Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason.

    — Ralph Waldo Emerson

    I do. That’s how I get in so much trouble.

    Yeah, it works out that way for me too.

    Stupid Emerson.

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  10. Full Size Tabby Member
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    Archibald Campbell (View Comment):

    Interesting. A few months ago I was smoking a stogie at the cigar store nearest my house in Columbus, and a banana car much like the one in the picture (maybe the one for all I know,) tore up and down High Street for about 30 minutes. The people in the car looked delighted. The ‘naner was fairly loud, but I don’t remember hearing it peel out.

    It apparently goes all over the country, and was built in Ohio and Pennsylvania, so an appearance in Columbus wouldn’t surprise me. 

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