Eat Salt Together

 

I titled my talk to a men’s group, “Eating Salt Together: How Men Become Friends.” I got the idea from Aristotle, who said,

“Friendship requires time and familiarity, men cannot know each other till they have ‘eaten salt together’ until each has been found loving and trusted by each other.”

“Eating salt together” means people have gone through hard times, they have linked arms, and stood shoulder-to-shoulder in battle. Camaraderie, trust, honesty, reliability, and forthrightness are the result of shared work, shared suffering, and a shared life. Sometimes that life requires prayers, texts, emails, and phone calls at 3 a.m.

Take a moment to reflect on your friends and the kind of friend you are. Revel in and smile at the memories and rejoice in having friends who Proverbs says, may be closer than a blood relative. Be glad that you have friends who have eaten salt with you.

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Thanks for spending this minute with me, Dr. Mark Eckel.

[From Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics, Book 8, chapter 3, section 8; Proverbs 18:24]

“Give Me a Minute” is an ongoing effort to simply, clearly, and quickly explain aspects of true Truth. [First published at MarkEckel.com]

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Mark Eckel (MA English, ThM Old Testament, PhD Social Science Research) is Executive Director of the Center for Biblical Integration, Liberty University.

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  1. Jimmy Carter Member
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    Mark Eckel: phone calls at 3 a.m.

    For bail money.

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  2. She Member
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    Jimmy Carter (View Comment):

    Mark Eckel: phone calls at 3 a.m.

    For bail money.

    My dad was the sort of college professor that students came to for advice when their lives were messed up or when they were in the throes  of an existential crisis.  The above actually happened, although I think it was more like 1 a.m., many years ago…

     

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  3. She Member
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    Mark Eckel: “Eating salt together” means people have gone through hard times, they have linked arms, and stood shoulder-to-shoulder in battle.

    This post immediately reminded me of the Civil War-era poem, The Same Canteen, by Pvt Miles O’Reilly (C.G. Halpine):

    We have shared our blankets and tents together,
    And have marched and fought in all kinds of weather,
    And hungry and full we have been;
    Had days of battle and days of rest,
    But this memory I cling to and love the best,
    We drank from the same Canteen!

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  4. Stad Coolidge
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    “Eating salt together.”  I learned a new phrase today . . .

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  5. Casey Member
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    I yield my moment to men under 40.

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  6. Chris O Coolidge
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    A natural environment for this, beyond the duress of warfighting, is athletics, but it can happen with any group that allows such bonds to form. The legislative staff I was part of had a reunion a couple of years ago. That was a unique group of peers that valued each other. There is a level of this in any shared experience, hence the attraction of high school and college reunions.

    Don’t take these bonds for granted. There are many people who don’t allow themselves to feel this, or fail to see the worth. It’s something that enriches my life and that makes me biased.

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  7. Mark Eckel Coolidge
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    Chris O (View Comment):

    A natural environment for this, beyond the duress of warfighting, is athletics, but it can happen with any group that allows such bonds to form. The legislative staff I was part of had a reunion a couple of years ago. That was a unique group of peers that valued each other. There is a level of this in any shared experience, hence the attraction of high school and college reunions.

    Don’t take these bonds for granted. There are many people who don’t allow themselves to feel this, or fail to see the worth. It’s something that enriches my life and that makes me biased.

    @chriso I absolutely agree. When I wrote this essay which included my PhD cohort (ftnt #12), it was the same with them. I appreciate your good thoughts here.

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