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“Studies” are modern gospel. Science! Hot peer-on-peer reviewing action! But If a study says something counter-intuitive – which, in the modern world, means “utterly intuitive to anyone who doesn’t flush their critical faculties upon encountering the phrase ‘studies say’” – then, well, hmmm.
The Frisky reports on a Study that says women are more likely to positively judge the fitness and desirability of a mate if they’re performing Manly Chores. Not light dusting or spice-rack rearrangement. Dirty, sweaty, meaty, manly stuff.
The study, “Egalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,” found men who do so-called “traditionally female labor” like washing dishes and doing laundry got less nookie than those who do more allegedly masculine chores. Personally, I think there is nothing sexier than coming home to my man doing the dishes (AKA choreplay), and I’d venture that lots of ladies would feel the same way. Clean houses are sexy!
That explains the popularity of “Fifty Shades of Grey” – it’s really about getting rid of dingy whites on laundry day.
I read this with interest, because I do domestic chores. Not laundry, since I live with two females and hence contribute about 17% of the load, and besides, I fold things WRONG. Just – WRONG. But I cook 95% of the meals and keep the house squared away, because a clean house without tottering piles on the counter and accreted food-crust on the counter gives me a sense of control and accomplishment, minor as it is. Could be genetic: a guy who worked for my dad said that if there were three people in line at the bathroom at the gas station, he was the second one, cleaning it up before the next customer. To this day he’ll get out the mop and swab the deck of the station when people track in mud. Lest anyone question his manly cred, we’re talking about an 88-year old who drives a Harley and still drives his semis loaded with explosive petrochemical products. For fun.
When it comes to Manly Fixing Time, I can do rudimentary plumbing. I leave electricity to the people who are trained to poke around without getting electrocuted. Mostly my domestic role consists of relieving my hard-working wife from any burden I can possibly lift, because I have the time, and I love her, and I am not an idiot: the easier her overloaded life is the moment she walks in the door, the happier everyone will be.
Many couples figure this out without STUDIES to back them up. But that’s not my point. It’s this:
The study theorizes that while women may love seeing their guy vacuuming or making dinner, something may shift in their subconscious. When they see men doing “feminine” chores, the primitive part of their brains might be telling them that something isn’t quite right, and they’re less turned on. I hope that’s not the case, because the idea of us being programmed on such an primal level is kind of a bummer.
Kind of a bummer! Almost as if untold generations of experience have left an accumulate in the hard-wired human RAM. Almost as if we’ve been shaped by a process that hones lessons and judges what has worked best for survival. Almost as if the natural selection of stronger Wooly-Mammoth-Killers and most capable cave-managers hasn’t left an impression on the human animal.
Isn’t that . . . evolution?
Isn’t denying that there’s something “programmed on such a primal level” science-denying?
Now, I believe in evolution, so let’s not get into that. Whether it’s an amazing mindless process without any purpose other than refinement of survivability and genetic preservation, or a process sparked and tweaked by an intelligent force – another thread. Point is, we have people who are looking at STUDIES that confirm the most obvious lesson of evolution, and it’s kind of a bummer to think, like, women prefer men who can do Men Stuff.
Anyway! Never mind. Let’s get back to talking about how gender is totally a social construct. Lots of new studies on that one.