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Transgenderism: The Parents
Over and over again, I’ve allowed myself to agonize over the information available on the state of transgenderism. Much of the focus is on the ways that children’s lives have been manipulated and destroyed, with some of their parents speaking of the difficulty of trying to understand their children’s predicament. In a one-hour documentary called “Dead Name” (referring to the given name that a child has rejected), the anguish, bewilderment, and horror of the parents of three children, two boys and one girl, is difficult to witness.
Originally the video appeared on Vimeo, but the site removed it: Here’s how they explained their action:
In a statement to The Federalist on Monday afternoon, Vimeo said the documentary violated the platform’s terms on ‘discriminatory or hateful’ material.
‘We can confirm that Vimeo removed the video in question for violating our Terms of Service prohibiting discriminatory or hateful content,’ the company wrote in an email. ‘We strive to enforce these policies objectively and consistently across our platform.’
For those of you who already have a working knowledge about transgenderism, I still believe you’d benefit from seeing this film. Also, if you know people who think that “gender affirmation” helps children, you could encourage them to see this film. The devastation doesn’t just happen to the kids, but to the parents, in fact, to the entire family. It’s a worthwhile experience to read about these situations, but when you listen to and see the anguish of the parents about the deception and betrayal of authorities, the mindless approval of these decisions, it will change you.
You may view the trailer here, rent the video for 72 hours for $9.99 or purchase it for $14.99.
And maybe you’ll change the minds of those who don’t understand the true impact of transgenderism.
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I’m hoping that the fact that the New York Times had a recent story about the issue of schools helping kids transition without informing parents means that this trend is losing steam. I have more to say about it, but it’ll have to wait until later.
I also recommend Abigal Shrier’s book, Irreversible Damage:
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=irreversible+damage+book+by+abigail+shrier&crid=3D6EAZKXDCPMR&sprefix=abigail+shrier%2Caps%2C300&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_3_14
While it’s geared toward girls “becoming” boys, the discussion on “gender-affirming care” is applicable for MTF trans . . .
In the video, I believe all the parents were told about their kids after the decision had been made by the schools. This must stop.
Susan, thanks for the post and link.
Note the rationale that was used to take down the video. The rationale was anti-discrimination. This principle has been applied to illegitimize any objection to anyone else’s behavior. There is an exception, of course, expressed in the idea that one cannot tolerate intolerance.
In this view, the only thing objectionable turns out to be objecting to anything.
I do think that this approach to transgenderism is the natural endpoint of the application of the anti-discrimination principle first to women (by the feminists) and then to homosexuals. It’s probably also related to the application of the anti-discrimination principle to religious belief.
I don’t completely oppose the application of the anti-discrimination principle to racial or ethnic differences, though it is complicated, because these categories often correlate with cultural and behavioral differences, and I think that it is permissible, and perhaps even morally obligatory, to treat people differently based on their behavior.
Trany-madness has replaced eating disorders for teen girls. It is a real mental illness and difficult to treat.
This recent article in the Post covers the parents’ side about what is happening to their children being indoctrinated into hard left ideology and the rifts that is causes. There are de programming services for families that are becoming available because of the destruction it has wrought: https://nypost.com/2023/01/07/parents-seeking-deprogrammers-for-woke-kids/
Very good article, GC. Thanks.
I don’t get the parents who push their kids into this perversion. I gather that in some circles having a trans child is a badge of membership in the avant-garde.
For some ideologues, I suppose they welcome the prospect of hordes of neutered, disfigured young people who think that political and social power should be deployed to compel a favorable reception of their personal disaster.
It is stunning how well we have been trained to accept whatever garbage the enemies of western culture and morality impose.
It’s a form of Munchausen by Proxy.
After ten or fifteen seconds of thought, I find everything that hasn’t been found objectional before to be objectional.
They must therefore cease to exist.
Watched the trailer. Almost wish I hadn’t because now I am mad. How can a daycare worker change a kids name without the parents even knowing about it? How can teens get hormones without there parents consent or even some basis psychological examination? How sad is the state of psychiatry when licensed doctors suggest genital mutilation to help mental problems?
But wait, it’s not an illness, they were just born that way . . . right?
Well, Vance, I guess we can be mad together.
I have teenage girls and many friends with teenage girls, so I keep seeing these gender and sexual identity issues. I think parents see their daughters experimenting with identity and want to support them. I recently had a friend tell me that her 8th grade daughter thinks she might be gay or bi, or she’s undecided. I said, isn’t it fine to be undecided at her age? These girls are choosing gender or sexual identities before they have any clue what those things really mean. What they want is to belong – especially young, white girls who are being repeatedly told that everyone else gets a special group identity.
On the idea of dead-naming, I don’t understand why the activists are allowed to get away with the argument that it’s so upsetting to be dead-named. Why don’t parents or other adults make the point that losing a child is one of the worst traumas that a parent can experience? If a girl is saying that that the daughter she was before no longer exists, don’t the parents get to pull rank in the hierarchy of suffering because they are grieving the loss of their daughter?
Yes. There is so much breathless hyperbole and deliberate confusion with “dead” naming, and also with the very term of “gender affirmation”. What they mean is — if the term means anything — sexual affirmation, and that would mean affirming the persons actual sex, not what they would momentarily prefer to change their sex to be; as in, “Well, you’re truly a boy or a girl according to your biology, not according to your wishes.” But the way it’s actually used is “sex rejection”.
“Gender affirmation” is at root a double lie — it’s not about gender, and it’s not affirmation — and yet it’s how disingenuous adults are leading susceptible children.
Exactly. Opposition to anything the left wants or does is discrimination . . .
Hence the laws in leftist states banning such therapy . . .
In Hollywood, it used to be adopting a black baby from Africa.
Yes, it gives the mom something to talk about at the coffee klatch.
I can remember when the school nurse wasn’t allowed to give a kid an aspirin without a parents’ permission.
I believe that is still true, but then aspirin are not sexual and that seems to trump everything these days.
The population control crowd must approve of transgenderism, as it ends in sterility (because we don’t yet have the technology to actually change someone’s sex).
From their standpoint, it’s far superior to abortion, which terminates merely a single pregnancy.
This has been a big one for me, and it tells me they’ve no good intention. Parents have no idea what’s going on because the people supposedly teaching their kids are in fact helping them hide secrets from family. And when things get really bad, parents are then kept away from their own children for failing to support something they had no idea about let alone decide whether they had to support it or not.
In the end it has less to do with affirming genders than asserting age-old utopian ideas which only come to fruition when the state usurps the family. The philosophers imaging such utopias write how we can reach an ideal society when the family is removed. In practice, it just leads to destruction of lives and of society in general.
Maybe in part. In the cases I’ve been familiar with (which I’ll grant is anecdotal), many parents who claim to be raising trans kids are typically within the Alphabet crowd themselves, frequently non-binary but also homo- or bisexual. I suspect in there’s a lot of self-justification for them — again, anecdotal here and I’m no psychiatrist — that is, they find their own sexuality practices justified by their children actively being with the Alphabet Crowd labels.
We have to end public schools run by unionized teachers. We should stop all funding where Republicans are in charge of states, or for that matter cities. I don’t understand why we continue to allow these unions to run the most important institution in the country. It’s pretty simple. make them compete for students by allowing students, i.e. parents to choose without having to sell a home and move. What we do is insane.
I think this whole trans thing is a social engineering experiment that was created and unleashed with all its madness as part of a way to de-populate. If boys want to become girls and visa versa, and they are being altered, they cannot re-produce or lose the desire to. This is a frontal attack on marriage, families and children and it’s pure evil.
There seems to be so much anxiety to even trust enough to form a stable relationship and choose marriage today among many young people. Add the “trend” of multi-genderism and “choosing” sir names, and having multiple sexual identities, all did not evolve naturally. Add the abortion brainwashing and it equals a depopulation agenda.
Plus all the reproductive issues and miscarriages from the COVID shots…..
I hadn’t thought of depopulation, FSC, but their goals are so insidious that you might be right. . .
I think the transgender movement is multiple things. At the adult end of the age and sex distribution it’s primarily a male phenomenon of autogynephilic play-acting — the old drag queen shtick — by guys who find it arousing to pose as women. It used to be called transvestitism (and I still call it that).
Among the younger set it’s overwhelmingly a social contagion afflicting confused young women. We as a culture have so denigrated the ideas of femininity that adolescent girls, a demographic famous for its black-and-white, almost legalistic sense of right and wrong, has been deprived of the one clear identity and form of personal expression that actually makes sense: that of a young woman growing into her adult femininity.
Masculinity has been similarly denigrated, though that’s a more recent phenomenon, whereas the attack on femininity has been going on since at least the sixties. But boys (and men) aren’t as vulnerable to social contagion, aren’t as painfully introspective as girls (and women), and just don’t obsess as much and worry as much about how faithfully they conform to expectations.
Anyway, while I think the carnage of the transgender fad will end (because it’s just too ugly to continue), I think young women will continue to be adrift, at least until we begin honestly acknowledging that there are inherent and meaningful biological differences between the sexes, and that males and females can each develop into something uniquely valuable.
The role of social media in all of this is new, tragic, and something we need to expose. There are truly perverse people out there who revel in subverting the vulnerable, and they can be captivating to those who lack a well-defined sense of self and any significant wisdom. A bunch of them are prancing around as trans influencers right now, and leading countless young people into self-destructive choices.
The current generation of parents grew up without ubiquitous social media. That will change soon, and I hope the next generation will recognize the danger of giving children unfettered access to the world.
Yes. And to go along with what you point out, the satanic child molestation crisis of a few decades ago petered out. And, yes, one thing’s different with catastrophic teenage sex reversal: the media and all the professional organizations were positioned against satanic ritual abuse (and it may not have even been really happening at all), but they are positionally in favor of ritual teenage sex reversal, and even have changed the meaning of words to support and justify it.