Leaving Money on the Table

 

JY and I have just returned from a three-week vacation to Scotland. First 10 days or so were spent in Edinburgh, Glasgow, Greenock, Inverness visiting family and some site-seeing; last 10 days on a golf trip with 48 other people (38 golfers who play an annual tournament usually in California and 12 wives/girl friends). The golf trip began in St Andrews, then traveled to Dornoch, then south to No Berwick, then home.

We had an amazing run of luck with both the weather (warm! sunny!)  and transportation (planes, trains, automobiles and buses) until our return home. A delay in Edinburgh resulted in a missed connection, which resulted in an unplanned night in the biggest, most generic, bordering-on-creepy hotel near Heathrow in London. We arrived at LAX a day late without two pieces of luggage, which will hopefully arrive within the next day or two. Heathrow, thanks to staff shortages, seems to be a huge choke point for international travel; many in our group were missing luggage (and tragically, some golf clubs) upon their arrival in Scotland.

Needless to say, lots and lots of eating out. In anywhere but the largest of cities (Glasgow, Edinburgh), restaurants were largely confused and a little startled when we showed up hungry and desiring to eat.

In the most hilarious of examples, JY and a friend and I wandered up to a restaurant above a pub in Dornoch. The place was maybe 20% full. “Do you have reservations??” was the immediate demand. Upon hearing “um … no” while we looked around, the greeter pointed at us in an accusatory manner, then informed us “We can seat all three of you. But only two can order food”. I demurred, whereupon we were grudgingly seated, and I happily drank my dinner.

In many, many places when six or eight of us showed up, regardless of the hour, we were given an appraising glance, then told they were done taking orders for the night.

We visited a lovely small restaurant twice in St Andrews. The waiter was friendly; when we were settling the bill JY inquired about tipping: Cash? Credit card? Should we? The waiter explained that cash was divided between everyone on the same day; credit card tips were divided up at month’s end.

So … Cash is best? we inquired.

He sort of sniffed and informed us that in Scotland, unlike the US, waitstaff was paid a living wage and tipping was appreciated, but not expected. (This was the umpteenth restaurant we had visited that had signs begging patrons to be patient as they were understaffed, a huge “help wanted” sign on the front window, and the waiter beginning the ordering process by informing us of what was NOT available, as opposed to the night’s specials). So JY sort of sniffed, looked around and said “You might be paying a living wage, but you ain’t paying people enough to show up”.

On our second visit to the same restaurant, we showed up at 8:30 pm with the waiter informing us that we would have shepherd’s pie, or we would have nothing. He was only slightly nicer than my mother, with her standard “take it or leave it” nightly dinner choice.

St Andrew’s is a lovely seaside town visited almost exclusively by wealthy golfers. Anyone foolish/wealthy enough to spend the money to visit and golf there would happily pay more for some dinner.

Everywhere we stayed, toilet paper was treated as though it was 2020. I had to resort to stealing some from a public bathroom in Dornoch. And really, the only reason you would steal any is if you were desperate or had furniture that required refinishing.

We engaged in many conversations throughout our journey; mostly Brexit was blamed for staff and food shortages (no mention of toilet paper). Though a few people mentioned that since Covid a lot of people who used to fill “casual labor” jobs seemed to have simply disappeared. (Not just the obvious foreign workers, local students, etc. also) I assume that there is still enough government money being distributed to cause people to not actually work, but I never got a straight answer. When I questioned my relatives (all of whom are retired) the only answer I got was a long list of their pensions (actual amounts were not discussed, but the attitude was superior and that I would be jealous to hear it). When inquiries about such matters were made in past years, the only answers I got was their six weeks of vacation per year, where they just went on holiday and where they were going.

Brexit is the standard excuse for just about everything; we were rolling our eyes by the second week whenever we heard it.

On our last trip to Scotland five years ago, JY’s attitude was “is this any way to run a country?” This year our impression was, “No.”

It was a wonderful trip, and as mentioned we were blessed with glorious weather (a first). We enjoyed just about everyone we met and interacted with. And JY played some bucket list links courses. But after a lifetime of traveling to Scotland, my feeling is that its best years are long since in the rearview mirror. While Brexit has presented challenges, and Covid could not have been planned for, there was no apparent motivation to figure out workarounds or solutions. The problems were discussed as set in stone and unsolvable. A sort of victim attitude, if you will. Resignation.

I’ll leave you with my favorite story. We stopped at an M & S (Marks and Spencer is now known by its initials) for provisions on our way to Inverness. (Where we stayed in a home built in 1600 or so, overlooking Culloden). On the way to the car, JY passed a homeless guy who criticized his beer choice. “Tenants??” the guy said.  JY gave the guy a once over, deemed him an expert, asked for a recommendation, and returned to the store for the recommended brand. JY now considers himself an expert; he kept track of every beer he tried and tapped out at 46.

PS edited to add: my actual favorite story. A cousin lamented that porn needed to be outlawed. Because it gave people an unrealistic view of how easy it is to get a plumber. Many, many complaints about the inability to find anyone willing to show up and fix anything.

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  1. Nanocelt TheContrarian Member
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    Henry Castaigne (View Comment):

    Scotland is the birthplace of capitalism and the industrial revolution. They have done more to advance the economic condition of man then perhaps any other Civilization with the exception of the British and the U.S.A. and even then we learned what to do from them. It is heartbreaking that the land of Adam Smith is now an enervated socialist state with a weak work ethic.

    Adam Smith’s “Wealth of Nations” was a masterwork (drawn largely from the ideas of the Levellers of the prior Century and from his mentor, Frances Hutchison, that outlined the path to the Great Enrichment, which was well underway in his day); but his “Theory of Moral Sentiments” ironically, in its very short-sighted misunderstanding of humans, has led to the socialism and decline in Scotland, as well as the current effort toward the self-immolation of Western Civilization. Regardless of how much Russ Roberts likes Smith’s first book.

    Oh what humans will (or won’t) do to be perceived as “lovely” and court the approbation of their fellow beings! Or force on their fellows the acceptance of their loveliness!

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  2. Front Seat Cat Member
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    That’s hilarious! It reminded me of the old Peter Mayle stories about France – or the old Monty Python series.  I don’t mean to make fun of the Scots, but the restaurant thing was too much! Your husband’s work-arounds and answers are too funny.  Glad you had great fun though.  

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  3. Columbo Inactive
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    Nanocelt TheContrarian (View Comment):

    Henry Castaigne (View Comment):

    Scotland is the birthplace of capitalism and the industrial revolution. They have done more to advance the economic condition of man then perhaps any other Civilization with the exception of the British and the U.S.A. and even then we learned what to do from them. It is heartbreaking that the land of Adam Smith is now an enervated socialist state with a weak work ethic.

    Adam Smith’s “Wealth of Nations” was a masterwork (drawn largely from the ideas of the Levellers of the prior Century and from his mentor, Frances Hutchison, that outlined the path to the Great Enrichment, which was well underway in his day); but his “Theory of Moral Sentiments” ironically, in its very short-sighted misunderstanding of humans, has led to the socialism and decline in Scotland, as well as the current effort toward the self-immolation of Western Civilization. Regardless of how much Russ Roberts likes Smith’s first book.

    Oh what humans will (or won’t) do to be perceived as “lovely” and court the approbation of their fellow beings! Or force on their fellows the acceptance of their loveliness!

    Or force on their fellows the acceptance of their ‘loveliness’!

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  4. I Walton Member
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    Western civilization in its entirety is heading toward Scotland and for the same reason.  If we can’t change it quickly, it’s over.   The Chinese think they will replace us, but they can’t, at least not for long and only in the far east and southern developing countries.  The west will just rot, top to bottom, and down the road at some point, some place will start it all over again.    That’s the happy non war outcome.  We can still avoid it.  I just drove across the US and things function, they’re just understaffed.   I went fishing in Jackson Hole, where a two bedroom dump goes for well over a million.  Folks that have to work moved to Idaho where the same dump can’t be bought by a worker but  can be rented by a small group.   An architect I knew back east abandoned the company she worked for and came to Jackson.   They rent in Idaho, can’t touch anything in Jackson so bought Wy. land more than an hour away, but builders want over 500 bucks a sq foot on open easy almost unavailable  urban land, and aren’t available for the rough land they bought so they’re waiting for the boom to flatten out.   It might not, it’s too small and fishing, skiing are outstanding and just being there is too nice.  It’s Wyoming so it’s not centralized.    Restaurants are owned locally and still outstanding although expensive.  I wonder if the Californians who are taking over  know it’s so nice because its not centralized.   The trip has reinforced my view that if we can’t win the next elections, we’ll have to separate to survive as  western representative small governments with prosperous private sector economies.  The change required is probably too radical, has never happened before in top down dying countries.  The next election is far more fundamental than folks realize.

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  5. Marjorie Reynolds Coolidge
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    You should have skipped Scotland and come to the west of Ireland instead. 
    (Although I couldn’t have met you anyway because I’m in Rome)

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  6. Ekosj Member
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    Annefy (View Comment):

    Ekosj (View Comment):

    I thought I knew how to drink until I went to Scotland. I was mistaken.

    It’s a challenge. My dad could drink, but according to legend he was a lightweight compared to my mother’s family. (As one of my older cousins said to me the day after my wedding, “I come from a long line of drinkers and this hangover is just embarrassing”.) My dad met all his inlaws (sans my mother) in a trip to Scotland in 1960. At the end of a long night of pub crawling, my grandfather, uncles, cousins, father and various others all trooped up to one of my many aunts so my dad could meet her (only men out for a night of drinking, natch). They all crowded into her kitchen, whereupon my dad promptly threw up in her sink. And she was the one sister who was “house proud”.

    They also lost a guy, my grandfather dismissively said “oh. he fell off the trolley car”. Apparently that was a regular occurrence. (I don’t know if it was regular with that guy, or just in general.)

    JY’s first trip to Scotland was in 2003. He was trapped on the inside of a booth while round after round was delivered. He willingly and gladly kept up in the hopes it would help him understand what in the heck was being talked about. He had understood the people of Italy better, with his high school Spanish, than he did my relatives in Glasgow.

    Hahahaha.

    The last complete thing I actually remember (rather than been told about) from the first day of my first business trip to Edinburgh was one of our hosts saying “Lets take the Yank out and teach him to drink Scotch“

    After that  there are just small snippets … several bars …  The taste of peat smoke in the back of my mouth …a fist fight … the Edinburgh Police asking for my passport.  

    The next day lasted weeks under a searing hangover.   But apparently I had held my own in the bar brawl  the night before so I was one of the boys.   There must be simpler team building exercises.

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  7. TBA Coolidge
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    Bryan G. Stephens (View Comment):

    Henry Castaigne (View Comment):

    Annefy: PS edited to add: my actual favorite story. A cousin lamented that porn needed to be outlawed. Because it gave people an unrealistic view of how easy it is to get a plumber. Many, many complaints about the inability to find anyone willing to show up and fix anything.

    If my experience with scheduling was anything like in porn. The Plumber would only be available when your relatives would be visiting.

    That is most likely its own category.

    So bad! 

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  8. TBA Coolidge
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    Bob Thompson (View Comment):

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    Henry Castaigne (View Comment):

    Scotland is the birthplace of capitalism and the industrial revolution. They have done more to advance the economic condition of man then perhaps any other Civilization with the exception of the British and the U.S.A. and even then we learned what to do from them. It is heartbreaking that the land of Adam Smith is now an enervated socialist state with a weak work ethic.

    Exactly right. They even invented universal (mandatory) public education.

    That served the needs of the assembly lines of the industrial revolution very well. Young people then, who were very used to working but with very little time discipline, made the adjustment to working time shifts as team members. Since that change also reduced the total number of laborers required in agricultural pursuits, the rather sharper individuals were able to pursue other skills such as medicine or engineering. That worked for a couple of centuries. Now we face new challenges about which we have massive disagreements as to the proper course to take.

    A lot of our jobs got smarter than our people. 

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  9. Front Seat Cat Member
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    Marjorie Reynolds (View Comment):

    You should have skipped Scotland and come to the west of Ireland instead.
    (Although I couldn’t have met you anyway because I’m in Rome)

    Are the pubs serving food??

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  10. Marjorie Reynolds Coolidge
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    Front Seat Cat (View Comment):

    Marjorie Reynolds (View Comment):

    You should have skipped Scotland and come to the west of Ireland instead.
    (Although I couldn’t have met you anyway because I’m in Rome)

    Are the pubs serving food??

    I’d answer you but I’m going to be in a food coma for a few days.

     

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  11. Richard Kirkham Coolidge
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    So this is where you find more people who are happy to hear your travails. 

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