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Love and Sexual Deviancy
I’m old-fashioned. I prefer to stick with the formerly accepted meaning of words, let alone pronouns. When asked what my preferred pronouns are, I answer, “the correct ones.” When we talk about “sexual deviancy,” we’re not necessarily making a moral assessment of its practitioners (although let’s continue to hold pedophiles, pederasts, and rapists in contempt, please). To practice “deviancy” of any sort means to deviate from the norm.
Even the Catholic Church has softened the language to describe homosexual acts as “disordered” rather than “deviant.” And in the age of the tyranny of relativism, it’s run straight into the problem of explaining what is “properly ordered” versus “disordered” to people who don’t hold to objective truth to begin with. Which is why I prefer “deviant.” This is a scientific, statistical term. You can graph it as a bell curve and see that homosexuality and all the recent innovations in sexuality summed up in the alphabet soup LGBTQIIA++-whatever fall out on the shallow ends of the curve.
Now let’s do “love.” Love is not love. What an idiotic, circular formulation. Love is willing the good of the other even if it costs you. From a Christian perspective, especially if it costs you (picture Christ on the Cross). Let’s say it costs you sexual gratification to forgo sodomy, for example, because it’s not “good” for the other person, even if he desires it himself. It isn’t “good” to misuse one’s reproductive faculties in a manner exploiting someone’s digestive anatomy, and vice versa. And “exploitative” is the correct terminology for sexual deviancy. Exploitation is not love. It’s the inverse. It is literally not caring for the good of the other as long as your own desires are met.
Similarly, the abortion regime is about sexual exploitation. It’s a misuse of sexual faculties for gratification while negating the reproductive results of sex. So-called “feminist” pro-abort women should buy a clue. As Dennis Prager notes:
In feminist Newspeak (Orwell’s term for the totalitarian redefining of language), when applied to women, “strong” means “easily offended,” and “perceiving oneself as a victim.”
It’s no wonder feminists are so miserable. They’ve bought into the lie that having sex and then killing your offspring isn’t sexual exploitation by non-committal, irresponsible men, yet if some man tells a joke about women being either bisexual or bipolar, feminists have been “victimized” by their male oppressors. Pathetic.
Finally, I’d like to address the “T” in the alphabet soup of sexual deviancy and the Fox News segment promoting the family who started transitioning their daughter at five years old! I’ve only read about the segment and haven’t watched it, but I absolutely hate that this child is being exploited twice. First by her California (of course) family and now by Fox News. And I hate that any criticism of the segment might be construed as criticism of the child, who I consider to be a complete innocent and victim of her terrible “progressive” (one presumes) parents.
Does anyone believe that the child communicated that she was a boy before she could speak? Or that she was “constantly told she’s a girl” and would scream in reply that she’s “a boy?” And why is the phenomenon so much more prevalent among progressive parents (like the family across the street from us) and in places like California rather than rural, conservative families in Ohio, for example? (Hat tip to Bill Maher.)
If you’ve watched the Daily Wire documentary, What Is a Woman?, you know that the rate of suicides among transgendered individuals peaks at about seven years post-surgery! Yet we’re supposed to believe that this is a “loving,” Christian family who just wants “a live transgender son rather than a dead daughter.” And that every masculine girl who doesn’t like “wearing feminine clothes” is really a boy.
How about this for love? How about if your child is a girl with masculine traits or a boy with feminine traits, you allow for appropriate expressions of the same in how they dress and what hobbies they take up? How about not insisting that your masculine daughter wear pink dresses and let her dress in jeans and t-shirts and play rough sports (field hockey comes to mind and my shins remember the bruises)? And how about letting your feminine son collect colorful gemstones and read romantic epics? Does every girl have to like pink dresses and every boy have to play with trucks? Does any loving, conservative parent believe that?
And if the child’s gender confusion persists and worsens into extremes — like the desire to take hormone blockers or have surgery — isn’t the loving thing to do to seek psychological (and maybe psychiatric) help for them, rather than mutilating them chemically or physically? Likely significantly shortening their lives because you’ve allowed them to live an extremely unloving lie that their taste in clothing or hobbies means they’re in the wrong body?
Matt Walsh has a moving conversation with a Canadian father who was jailed for using the “wrong” pronouns with his daughter who was seeking to transition. He did everything to stop it but failed. His daughter is taking hormone blockers and likely will receive “affirming” transition surgery at some point. He’s lost his daughter but he did everything he could to save her from this wicked ideology and, as he said, he kept a conscience he could live with, God bless him. That’s love. Putting your life on the line for the other, up to and including going to jail.
I don’t believe the Fox News California family knows what love is.
Published in General
I am supportive of homosexuals as they seek to find someone to love. From a societal perspective, we are better off if adults can find other adults to fall in love with and enjoy consensual sexual relationships.
In the bad old days, when homosexuals had to remain in the closet, you had homosexual men pretending to be heterosexual and marrying heterosexual woman, just going through the motions until eventually either the woman lost interest in the marriage or the homosexual man decided to have sex with men on the side.
When it comes to transgenderism, I am much more skeptical that taking hormone blocker and/or having major surgery is going to make the patient better off. I think we are already seeing examples of people who have had surgeries and regretting that they mutilated their body.
Also, I don’t think college woman athletes should have to compete against men pretending to be women in sports. Another high five to Governor Ron DeSantis of Florida. Whereas Trump criticized North Carolina for protecting women’s privacy in their bathrooms in 2016, DeSantis is willing to fight the transgender extremists.
THAT’s the coolest song.
Short, sweet, and right to the point!
LOL. Then make your case. And let the chips fall where they may. I think that –ultimately–that’s the difference between those who believe in your right to deviate from the norm, and those who don’t.
Do you feel differently?
Actually, I don’t take that attitude toward public perversion. The problem is, most of my solutions are illegal, so I can’t do a damn thing about it . . .
Close enough.
I do take a “live and let live” regarding some sexual acts that are considered perverted.
I don’t think our people should be locked up in prison simply because they have sexual desires that are out of the mainstream.
I do, however, think that this principle applies to consenting adults, not to children.
Nature is garbage. Nature is rapey and it kills poor black and brown children all day. We are naturally inclined towards all sorts of evil stuff, including the zero-sum economic fallacy, but somehow nature becomes good when it comes to judging human sexuality. It intellectually vacuous.
I’ve been thinking about it, Western Chauvinist, and have decided that the “disordered” aspect of the LGBTQ(IA,etc) thing is more often what’s burdening the rest of us.
It’s now obvious that LGBTQ promotion, if not an LGBTQ lifestyle, is either a sign or the cause of a really horrible mental illness. Other signs, and a symptom, of this illness…
(1) An inability to focus on anything other than one’s LGBTQ identity and desires.
(2) An insatiable need to be the center of other people’s attention.
(3) A malevolence toward people of all ages, and any orientation, who aren’t yet struggling with, or fixated on, LGBTQ identity and desires.
I’m now convinced people who have this LGBTQ illness, or the potential for it, were more aware of the world around them, more occupied, and considerably happier when they had to keep their delusions and sexual proclivities in the closet. Yes, true, they were vulnerable to blackmail. On the other hand, they had both the fun of sneaking around and, inadvertently, the mental relief and joy of learning that came about because their environment forced them to focus more often on something other than sexual proclivities, genitals, and their preferred gender delusions.
The new openness that’s enabled them to supposedly “be themselves” has made them utterly miserable, tyrannical, and much more of a danger to children.
I’m in a foul mood about the alphabet people because my granddaughters (ages 6 and almost 8) who love their trips with their other grandparents to Colonial Williamsburg, will now ( I imagine, because I saw, but didn’t read, some post in The Federalist about it) even have to hear about the LGBTQ agenda there.
Of course, it makes no sense. We can’t even always be sure we know that someone was or wasn’t a spy for the British during the American Revolution. But now people are supposed to try to figure out who, farther back in time than the American Revolution, was or wasn’t same sex attracted or gender dysphoric ? Nobody dares to say to these people that this is time and attention wasted on something both unimportant and undiscoverable ? I thought reading about these one-note lunatics couldn’t bother me more when I read they needed to make the war in Ukraine out to be related to their false L.G.B.T. Q. cause (they’re incapable of acknowledging that anything might not be related to their false L.G.B.T.Q. cause), but, for personal reasons, this invasion into Colonial Williamsburg of the unnaturally bright and ugly fake rainbow got to me more.
It’s all so very disordered.
Great comment! And everyone else, too. Thanks for contributing to the discussion.
On this point in particular, I remember reading some time ago that narcissism underlies homosexuality, but I believe all the sexual disorders either begin or end in narcissism.
I believe that homosexuality, transgenderism, anorexia and, even, suicide represent lethal forms of self-absorption. Of course, this only coheres if you accept that moral agency is the lens through which we should understand human behavior. But that is not something, alas, that is widely embraced these days among Christians in the west.
Is there another kind?